Why are more and more divorced women unhappy? In fact, there are three main reasons besides the fast-paced development of the times.
The first reason: the dialect is unreasonable and the living habits are quite different. Couples are prone to conflicts and get married in their in-laws thousands of miles away. Because of the remoteness of the region, the impassability of dialects and different living habits, it is easy to cause strangeness and conflict in their hearts, which will cause great harm to their feelings over time. For example, southern women married to the north are very unaccustomed to the dry and cold weather there, and the heroic and informal characteristics of northerners make graceful southern women feel uncomfortable.
Northern women who marry into southern families will feel unaccustomed to the exquisite life in the south. I once saw a northern daughter-in-law and a southern husband go to the vegetable market to buy food. The husband in the south thinks it is enough to buy a carrot and stir-fry the meat, while the daughter-in-law in the north thinks it is "shopping" to buy at least two or three pounds, so they begin to quarrel about it. ...
Reason 2: A woman who lives away from her parents, brothers and sisters and lives alone with her husband in a foreign land, because there is no one to support her. Although there will be small fights between husband and wife when they are far away from home, women who are far away from home always feel powerless, so they silently bury their grievances in their hearts.
I think of a friend Huang Min who married from Guangxi to Henan. After marriage, she lived with her mother-in-law. Because of different living habits, many contradictions have arisen. For example, my mother-in-law used to throw dirty underwear into the washing machine, but Huang Min thought it was unsanitary; Mother-in-law likes to eat melon seeds and vomits all over the living room, while Huang Min loves cleanliness. My mother-in-law likes to stir soup with chopsticks. Huang Min felt sick when he saw it ... All kinds of contradictions accumulated over time, which led to the growing gap between Huang Min and her husband.
On one occasion, the two had a quarrel, and the mother-in-law joined in the scolding war to help her son scold his daughter-in-law. Huang Min was so wronged that he ran away from home, didn't bring his ID card, and didn't dare to call his parents far away, so he had to spend a difficult night at the KFC store on the street. At this time, Huang Min deeply regretted that she had insisted on marrying far away despite her parents' opposition.
Reason 3: I always feel that I am owed by my husband and feel that I owe a lot to my parents. After being married for a long time, the woman said, "My parents are here and I don't want to get married." This is a lesson learned with tears. On the one hand, many divorced women are hard to be cherished by their husbands and families, so they always feel that their husbands owe themselves. Once this "sense of debt" is magnified, it will easily lead to the tilt of the inner balance, and there is no scruple between debt and demand, which will easily lead to marital discord. On the other hand, women who marry far away seldom see their parents several times a year because of distance, economic ability, work, time and other reasons, feel indebted to their parents, and are easy to get angry with their husbands because they go back to their parents' home.
I have seen a distant daughter go back to her mother's house before. Her husband is too far away to go back with her. She is holding her one-and-a-half-year-old son and carrying a big bag of luggage. She started to take the bus to the railway station in the morning, then took the train for more than ten hours, and then transferred to the bus ... When she got home, it was already more than six o'clock the next morning.
Her parents stayed up all night worrying about their traveling daughter and nephew. At the moment she met her parents, she burst into tears when she was married far away, and her parents comforted her, "It's good to come back safely." Although parents had a short-term happiness in meeting their daughter and nephew, they were separated for many years after a short time together. My daughter is full of guilt.
In the final analysis, far marriage is a choice, and after far marriage, it is helpless. When you make a choice, you probably know what you will face in the future, but at that time you still married without hesitation. Therefore, we can't blame others for being well.
There is no regret medicine in the world. I hope that every daughter who marries far away can love herself and have time to go home to visit her parents and relatives. After all, the older you get, the less you see your parents. Don't let her marriage go the wrong way, let alone let her parents have regrets. May every woman who marries far away have a happy family and often go home to have a look.