Love pays attention to fate. There is an old saying: "We are in the same boat for a hundred years, and we share the same bed for a thousand years." When we meet someone, there is little chance of falling in love with him.

In the year of "The Story of Qipa", there was a program in which Xue Zhaofeng told us through probability that it was impossible to meet the most suitable person in one's life. Teacher Ma Dong immediately went on to say: Nothing. According to Xue Zhaofeng, love at first sight is the only thing in this life, but it is impossible for people to watch more romantic dramas.

If there are two people in the world, they are the only people in each other's lives, and they will never meet each other in this life. Because there are 7 billion people in the world. Imagine that 7 billion mung beans are put in a big pot, and there are two red beans in it, which are unique for a lifetime. When the big tank is working, the probability of two red beans meeting in a short time is almost zero.

Professor Xue also concluded that

Sometimes, fate is doomed from the beginning. Some couples meet by chance and are the two duckweeds in the world, but one day they meet a friend because of a small matter, and some couples may go through many difficulties and obstacles before getting married.

Take my own love, for example. My husband and I are online dating. It was purely accidental that we met and fell in love. My university is in the northwest and he is in the southeast, so we can't know each other, but we met through Weibo. Of course, by chance, we finally came together and made a lot of efforts. We met online on 12. 13 graduated from college and came back, ending the life in a different place. Married 16 years, gave birth to children 17 years, and still live happily together.

Sometimes I wonder why we met. Come to think of it, there is only the word "fate".

"We pledge our eternal love, in fact, just those around us who seem to think it's almost time to choose. Those who believe in the only person in this life are actually just a misunderstanding of contingency.

But many times, this is particularly regrettable. Once a husband and wife are married for a long time, they may forget their initial love. When they are dazzled, they will not fall in love as before. At this time, they are afraid that someone will insist and do something that hurts each other, so that they will eventually have to face the ending of "divorce".

Love is an accidental and inevitable combination, and couples in marriage also need the match of fate. Whether it can be maintained depends on whether we know how to cherish it. Since it is so difficult to meet each other, why torture each other and lead to separation?

I tell a story about a divorced woman. She dealt decisively with her husband's betrayal. All her friends felt sorry for her divorce, thinking that she let her husband go too easily, but she said: marriage has a bottom line, and the more people who love each other, the neater it is.

"Only in this way, is the most embarrassing protection. If it's broken, it must be broken. You can't argue. Let yourself get the upper hand. "

The truth of divorced women: in the face of her husband's betrayal, this is the most vicious revenge. Liu Jing and Cheng Peng grew up together in primary school and junior high school. Although they went to different high schools, coincidentally, they actually applied for the same university, and even if they were not in the same college, they often met. Because I am far from my hometown, I don't go home during holidays, so I often eat together. In fact, Liu Jing likes Cheng Peng very much. Since childhood, no matter what Cheng Peng did, Liu Jing was very supportive of him. She likes Cheng Peng from the bottom of her heart.

They spent a lot of time together in college, and friends around them thought they were lovers. In the long run, the two simply "played for real" and established a love relationship. Their relationship has been stable over the years.

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After graduating from college, they worked in the same city. At the age of marriage, they got married as they wished. So far, they have been married for ten years. Their son is seven years old and their daughter is two years old. The whole family is very happy. Because of different jobs, Liu Jing pays more attention to his family, while Cheng Peng is busier. After promotion, I have been socializing outside, always on business trips, and I have been there for more than half a month.

I know this, but one day when I came back, there was a woman's lipstick in my bag, but I didn't give it to her, so I had doubts about Cheng. In addition, within a month, Cheng Peng went on business trips twice and stayed out for nearly a week before coming back. He trusted Liu Jing in Cheng Peng and became unstable.

But she was afraid that wild suspicion would hurt the feelings of two people. Liu Jing chose to speak first, complaining to Cheng Peng: In Liu Jing's heart, she and Cheng Peng are special fate. Since childhood, she has been following Cheng Peng, and Cheng Peng is her "the only thrill".

Cheng Peng hugged her affectionately and said, "You worked overtime all night. Do you think it's appropriate for you to stay at home? And every time I go on a business trip, I have to go for ten days and a half and never come back. Don't you miss home? "

Get to know me better "From Cheng Peng's words, liujing didn't hear anything strange, but she began to secretly look at her husband's mobile phone. While taking a bath in Cheng Peng, Liu Jing directly checked his chat records, phone records and text messages. She did see some clues from it. Apparently, every time Cheng Peng deletes the chat record, she replaces the woman's note with a customer. However, when she opened this woman's circle of friends, she saw Cheng Peng hugging this woman intimately, and Liu Jing's heart was about to break.

Originally, Liu Jing wanted to directly question Cheng Peng with her mobile phone. After her daughter suddenly cried, she quickly put down her mobile phone and went to her daughter's room.

That night, on the grounds that her daughter couldn't sleep, she didn't sleep with Cheng Peng and thought about it all night.

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A woman is stupid, knowing that she already has the answer in her heart, but she still doesn't hit the south wall and doesn't look back. Liu Jing must prove with her own eyes that she doesn't want to be cheated.

The next day, I secretly followed Cheng Peng to the company. This is really not what she expected. The woman Cheng Peng met halfway saw in a circle of friends yesterday. Seeing two people get on the bus, Liu Jing almost collapsed. Just when she wanted to have a serious talk with Cheng Peng, Cheng Peng said in the evening that she might be late.

Seeing his son doing his homework and his daughter playing beside him, Liu Jing suddenly felt that he should calm down. It was late, and Cheng Peng came back. He is dizzy. Liu Jing secretly recorded the chat between them with her mobile phone and casually wrote down the woman's phone number.

Because Liu Jing and Cheng Peng were childhood friends, and her mother-in-law and parents knew each other, she told her parents about it first. Parents are eager to rush over and settle accounts with Cheng Peng directly, but Liu Jing doesn't want to do so. She also told her in-laws, invited everyone to dinner in the evening, and invited the woman in the name of Cheng Peng. When Cheng Peng came back, Liu Jing was already crying in the restaurant, which made her parents-in-law feel very distressed. Liu Jing took out his printed divorce agreement and said to Cheng Peng, "Divorce."

Cheng Peng was also surprised and asked guiltily, "What's the matter?"

Liu Jing directly showed him the screenshots of the saved chat records, and the woman arrived soon. Looking at the third party standing beside Cheng Peng, her in-laws stood firmly on Liu Jing's side. Liu Jing is determined to get a divorce, but her in-laws won't. My father-in-law flew into a rage and slapped Cheng Peng. Finally, Liu Jing's parents came to pull one. Finally, Liu Jing insisted that Cheng Peng sign the divorce agreement that night. She also got a considerable divorce fee and a wedding room. Since then, Cheng Peng has given her child support every month.

She insisted on raising her children by herself and refused to be raised by her in-laws, saying, "If you give your children to such a stepmother, it is my children who suffer. You don't want your children to be bullied by such an irresponsible father and such a woman, so you can only let them follow me. "

Everyone has different views on Liu Jing. My best friend thinks that she doesn't love her husband that much, because she can handle such things without making noise and at the most appropriate time, divorce her husband immediately without giving him a chance. Half of the property and children in the house belong to her, and her husband has to pay alimony. Finally, she became a good man in front of her in-laws.

But only Liu Jing knows that a woman who doesn't cry or make trouble is the most chilling. The more she loves someone, the less she can tolerate betrayal.

She said: "The most sad thing about divorce is me. I still love him, but I can't stand his betrayal. I have to think about my children. What will I do if I love another person and the other person is unfaithful to me? Since divorce is our doomed ending, he should pay the corresponding price. "

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For most couples, women are most likely to have problems in their relationships. Once they know that they have been betrayed by their lover, they will lose their temper, think nothing and never think for themselves. As a result, the more reluctant I am, the more sad I am, the more noisy I am, and I can never calm down, so that all I do in the end is stupid.

Therefore, please remember that ending the wrong marriage is an unfortunate ending and a good beginning. Divorce is not the worst outcome of marriage. I'm afraid I can't get along with myself, and I'm afraid that the last quarrel will lead to both people and money.

I used to read My First Half Life about Luo Zijun's divorce. I don't understand why He Han should teach such a simple thing as divorce. From asking for a house to asking for money, I need more support. If Luo Zijun didn't calm down later, her quiet life would be more bitter in the future. It was the divorce that brought up Luo Zijun.

In marriage, a woman must be independent and confident. Even in the face of family changes, she must be calm and not let herself lose anything at will. If you want to sacrifice your feelings in the end, you should also sacrifice something valuable.

In fact, everyone knows the cost of extramarital affairs, but some people will try. It is nothing more than because husband and wife have been together for a long time, their own selfish desires and lack of passion in life. If this situation is normal and inevitable with the passage of time, I'm afraid I will be possessed and go astray at this time, and don't put extramarital affairs above my family.

We often say that we should put family first, men should know responsibility, women should know loyalty, and if we want to "do what we don't know", for many men, cheating is a temptation and a short-lived sweetness. You can be happy for a while, but you may not be happy for a lifetime. You always have to pay for your irresponsible behavior.

Liu Jing said, "What is the most ruthless revenge in the face of her husband's betrayal? Don't cry, don't make trouble, think for yourself, and it will be broken when it is time to break. Serves you right. As for the rest, it's none of your business. I have loved and hated, and after the divorce, I know. "

Marriage is not a child's play, and a wife is not a product. There is no shelf life, and you can't change it if you want. In the face of temptation and selfish desires, think well and review yourself, and don't be carried away by temporary passion.

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