? We often quarrel because one of our needs has not been met. ?

Many girls don't directly put forward their own needs.

For example, on your anniversary, most girls don't directly tell each other what day it is, but hint at each other and ask what day it is.

For the first time in my life, Yang Haolang has a boyfriend who has been in contact for 7 years and lived together for 5 years.

On the verge of turning 30, the youngest colleague announced that she was getting married. She went back to the rooftop room and told her boyfriend about it:

? The youngest colleague in the company is getting married and bought the sofa she wants most. ?

I thought my boyfriend would prepare a romantic proposal when he understood his hint, but I didn't expect her boyfriend to buy her only a sofa.

Even lovers who have been together for a long time cannot fully understand another person's thoughts. Once the needs of one party are not met and valued, there will be quarrels.

Wenger Julie said in The Law of a Happy Marriage:

? No matter how loving a couple is, they have 200 thoughts of divorce and 50 impulses to strangle each other in their lives. ?

It is no exaggeration to say that there are no couples in this world who don't quarrel.

And those partners who can grow old together are by no means what everyone thinks? Respect each other like guests? 、? Qi Mei? They just know the art of quarreling better, and they can warm up their feelings in quarreling.

When quarreling, what can you say to make the other party instantly soft-hearted?

I interviewed some friends around me, and they replied:

Touch your chest and say? Does it hurt here?

@ Baby

Don't talk, just hug and kiss to drive away half the anger.

@ Smile

Say to the boyfriend who is angry when quarreling: Husband, I was wrong.

@ Little Devil

? Are you hungry? I'll cook noodles for you! ? At that time, I saw this clip when I was watching a Stephen Chow movie with my brother. My brother said? If a girl's eyes are red, she says to me, I will pick the stars in the sky for her! ?

Mimi cat Mimi

Honey, I'm hungry.

Four weeks and two days in April

Wait, the above words can be used for reference.

If you want to fight without hurting your feelings, you can consider the following aspects:

0 1

Learn to ridicule

When quarreling, if you can learn to add some teasing words or words, it will reduce the harm caused by many language violence.

For example, you quarrel with your husband because your child is slow in doing homework, and your husband says? Children are so stupid, just like you? What if you answer at this time? A fool like you, of course? The intimate address in the statement can make him angry in an instant.

02

Care about ways to stop quarreling.

For example, a boy has been playing games, but his girlfriend has been asking him to help clean up. At this time, my girlfriend was angry, and it was a slap in front of him, or a slap that was particularly loud.

The girl said:? Do you still need to be beaten? ?

When the boy saw her angry, he simply said? Is your hand okay? ?

At this time, the other person's heart can be softened instantly.

When quarreling, you can show your concern for each other and make them feel that you still love her. At this time, all conflicts will be resolved.

Because all contradictions are because they don't love each other enough or don't trust each other, a word of concern can completely solve the quarrel.

03

Learn to detour

You can say:? We'll argue later. I want to eat. Am I hungry? Take this roundabout road.

Getting along with men and women is also a science, and no one knows everything from the beginning.

It is necessary to allow each other to be naive occasionally and treat each other's immature status correctly. Only when husband and wife can grow up together and face problems together can we establish a relationship of mutual trust.

04

Stop arguing with intimate actions.

For example, girls think that boys don't love her enough and want to break up with boys.

At this time, all the boys can do is hug each other and say, "What? I love you no matter when I love you. Let the other person realize your love for her through intimate actions, and believe that her heart will soften instantly and will not quarrel with you.

Sometimes some actions are worth a thousand words, and you can make the other person feel your love in an instant.

So if you are the kind of boy who is not good at expressing himself in words, then you can use this trick to conquer the other party with your behavior, so that the other party's heart will soften instantly and stop arguing with you.

Finally, the most important thing is: when an argument happens, remember that the person standing in front of you is the one you love.

And what you have to do is not to get the upper hand, nor to win, but to express love.

You know, people with low emotional intelligence win in quarrels, while people with high emotional intelligence know how to win love in quarrels.

Small spicy said: actually? Quarrel? It's also the spice of life between couples, not to break up? Quarrel? Sort of. Flirting? .

Sometimes quarreling can make feelings better, and it is also a sweet memory in retrospect.