First, get married. In our hometown, when people of the same age get married, they have to be present as long as they are having fun, because it may not be a problem to help Xin Qi stop drinking, because everyone is in a hurry and there are representatives at home, which is basically enough.
However, if you don't show up every time your peers in your hometown get married, everyone will acquiesce that you look down on them, so if you get married one day, even if you can afford 80 tables, young people won't come, because if you care about each other, everyone will have a good life, but if you don't show up all the time, why can people praise your show?
Second, enter the house. In Guangxi, entering the house is a grand festival. Generally speaking, the time is between the third day and the eighth day of the first month, with the fourth day of the first month being the most. So in our place, there is a saying of "celebrating the New Year on the fourth day of the first month", because most people will go home for the New Year, and this time is stuck in most people's holiday time. If this doesn't come, it's meaningless.
Of course, some service industries or railway departments can understand, but if it has been clearly stated that they will move to a new house, those who drive immediately after the New Year will not go if others have the same things at home.
Third, white things, especially the white things of elders. Then the white matter. In the above two cases, if you don't come, the parties may have a problem with you, but if you shirk everything when you are called in vain, the whole village will have a problem with you.
It happened in our village. There was once a family, because it was said that they were all timid. As long as there is anything white in the village, everyone is called home, and no one comes. Finally, his old man died, and no one came. We were still buried there. When people get old, they carry coffins to help each other, and their family opened a precedent for asking people to carry coffins.
Generally speaking, there are indeed many people working hard outside, but some customs should be respected. Of course, if you haven't thought about going back to your hometown after going out, that's another matter.