The environment is created by the mind. Whether a person's situation is bitter or happy is often subjective. Some people are satisfied with a certain life, while others can't. Therefore, those who can be content with the status quo may wish to live like this, and those who can't have to find another way. You can't be sure where your success lies, nor can you be sure whether you will be happy at a certain point. Some people will never be satisfied, and their happiness can only be established in the process of constant pursuit and struggle, so their goals are constantly moving away. Such people may have less happiness, but they may have great achievements. Bitterness and pleasure are both judged by ourselves, and they are not necessarily directly related to the objective environment. Just like a woman who doesn't love jewelry, even in an environment that attaches great importance to vanity, it won't hurt her self-esteem. The poor scholar with thousands of books doesn't want to exchange diamonds or stocks with millionaires. People who are satisfied with rural life do not envy any scholar's honorary title or senior official. Your hobby is your direction, your interest is your capital, and your temperament is your destiny. Everyone has an ideal heaven and a world of flowers and flowers that they are willing to enjoy. A friend of Dahe Xiaoxiao talked about his relative's aunt, who never wears shoes that fit her, and often walks around in huge shoes. If her son and younger generation ask her, she will say, "All shoes are at the same price, why not buy a big one?" Every time I tell this story, some people laugh their heads off. In fact, we will see many such "aunts" in our lives. Writers who have no thoughts only write heavy and bitter works; Painters without content only draw super-huge paintings; Businessmen who often go out have big homes. Many people are constantly pursuing greatness, which is actually driven by inner greed, just like buying oversized shoes and forgetting their own feet. No matter what shoes you buy, it is most important to fit. No matter what you pursue, enough is enough. A person's life is often in a choice, such as: which university to go to? What kind of occupation do you choose? What kind of woman do you marry? ..... and so on. A person's decision-making power can tell whether his personality is mature or not. It is those who have no ideas and don't suffer from choice. Because when making a decision, he always asks others, "Hey, what do you think?" Anyone who can make a big difference is a person with strong choice. He knows that the success or failure of a thing depends on who can't do it for you, let alone decide it for you. At the moment of choice, success or failure has already appeared. People are like this all their lives. I often use the phrase "people are like this all their lives" to warn myself and convince my friends. These seven words are easy to say and sound simple, but they are profound to remember. It can make me brave when I am weak, humble when I am proud, positive when I am decadent, happy when I am in pain, and let go of everything, so I call it "a blow to the head" and "seven-character proverbs". -I often think that the hardships, troubles, grievances and grievances in this world, if any, can't be solved and digested. Will they disappear in just a few decades? If so, what can't be solved? People have been thinking about this sentence all their lives. If I were a hero, I would make greater achievements. If I were a scholar, I would gain higher knowledge. If I love someone, I will tell her boldly. Because today is the past and will never come again; After this life, everything disappears. If you haven't read a book and said a word, you'll never get another chance. This is a precious life, and I must seize it! People are like this for a lifetime, and you can actively grasp it; You can also face it calmly. Think about it, and you will be relieved! Think about it when the spirit is decadent, and you can be grateful! Because in any case, it is always lucky to have this life, and you can't come for nothing. Smile like a flower, love like a flower, hope like a flower, and life like a flower. Everyone has his favorite flowers, and everyone has many reasons to be kind to himself and condense his life into lasting fragrance in the long river of time. The moment it blooms, it will attract all eyes. Flowers are so weak, no matter how beautiful or gorgeous, they still can't stand the cold rain and wind at night. Chunhong quickly thanked her, leaving only sadness. Flowers are beautiful soldiers. Although I am getting younger and fatter in the wind and rain, I never bow my head after all. Life is the same, like a delicate glass, which can't stand the impact of natural and man-made disasters and breaks into a bright light. Every piece is a transparent heart. Life is often like a epiphyllum. With years of tears and sweat, mixed with painstaking efforts, there will be a moment to laugh at the world. In today's world, fewer and fewer people love flowers. When people are running for a living, they can't even grasp their own life. Who will listen to Hua? However, restless city, please don't forget that this world is a mirage. Everything is like flowers, and flowers are like everything. Therefore, the Buddha touched the flowers and Ye Jiaxiao; This smile is the world. Life, life, may be the only factor in the universe that should be worshipped. The gestation, birth and presentation of the essence of life is an extremely exciting process. Life, like music and pictures, has a predetermined hue or blood color in secret. When it meets the impact of the spring tide, when it hears the urging of the horn, it will suddenly be full of vitality, revealing its gorgeous and enthusiastic nature. Of course, this essence is more likely to be mean, cowardly and boring; Its owner has no choice. It should be admitted that life is hope. It should be said that meanness and vulgarity should not be prematurely complacent, and should not be mistaken for having successfully eliminated nobility and purity. Camouflage can't last long, because time is like a long river, and despicable people, profiteers and vulgar sticks can't always wear the laurels of educators, poets and soldiers. At the end of their unimpeded career, their descendants will feel humiliated for a long time. I worship life. I worship the secret of noble life. I worship the fireworks when life is born, grown, fought, disabled and sacrificed. I worship the freedom of a living soul floating in mountains, rivers, oceans and continents. Yes, life is hope. It floats and is free, so that mankind will always have a small fish who is unwilling to fail and pursues his own golden pasture idea without regrets. Every pond smells of the ocean, and every stone has the shadow of a desert. So the poet said: a clover, plus my imagination, is a vast grassland. Walking in the field of autumn moon, I remembered a poet's inquiry to old Tolstoy: Does everything/maturity/hang its head? Yes, every step we have taken will become the past, whether it is a happy meeting or a painful parting, but please believe that every song we have sung will not disappear in an instant, whether it is eager expectation or affectionate memories, as rosa luxemburg said: "Wherever I go, as long as I live, the sky, clouds and the beauty of life will be with me!" A narrow and selfish mind will become its own hell, while a broad and cheerful mind will become a paradise for others. There is only one layer between hell and heaven. And all the flames of jealousy always start with burning yourself. An old writer told me, "How long has your foot been trampled?" ? But don't regret it, as long as you step on the truth, whoever steps on it will have depth. "When you finally win the flower of success, don't you miss the intersection of the past? Don't you miss the old wood in the luxurious house you rebuilt successfully? Love is sometimes simple.

Love is sometimes simple. At the school gate of a primary school, in the falling rain and snow, the parents who picked up the children were rubbing their hands and stamping their feet with cold. Several grandfathers who came to pick up their children on tricycles were covered with snowflakes on their hair and eyebrows. Finally, the children were out of school, and the long-awaited grandfather quickly put his grandson on the tricycle, took off his cotton-padded coat and wrapped it around the children, boarded the bus and disappeared into the heavy snow. ...

Love is sometimes simple. In the home of a laid-off worker, because it is his grandson's birthday, there is a plate of braised prawns on the table for the first time in a hundred years tonight. Looking at the golden and shiny prawns, the grandson's eyes showed joy. Dad pretended not to see it and gave each of his grandparents the biggest one. But grandma quickly picked up the prawns in the bowl and put them in her grandson's bowl, saying, "The prawns are not easy to digest, so I'll let my grandson help me destroy them." Grandson quickly picked it up and put it back in grandma's bowl: "Our family only eats prawns once a year. If grandma doesn't eat, I won't eat! " "In this way, everyone has a red and bright prawn in his bowl. This kind of ordinary ordinary people's food has brought such profound warmth to this family. ...

Love is sometimes simple. One morning, my wife got up first as usual and prepared breakfast for her husband and son like a gust of wind. Unlike the noodle soup yesterday and the millet porridge the day before yesterday, today is "foreign rice"-hamburgers and milk. But one day, my wife was uncomfortable at night, and she opened her eyes the next day-alas, it was past the time to make breakfast! When she put on her clothes in a hurry and rushed into the kitchen, she was shocked-her husband was walking out with a bowl of noodle soup that she usually likes to drink, when she suddenly stopped and muttered, "The alarm clock didn't go off today, I want you to sleep more." I get up first. I wonder if this soup is to your taste ... "

2. Precious gifts

Doc is a messenger. He always believed that his mission was to convey happiness to people. Therefore, there are always many small notes in his pocket with some encouraging words written on them. When he sends letters and telegrams to people, he also leaves them a small note telling them "Today is a beautiful day", "Laugh often" and "Don't worry".

During World War II, Doc was too old to join the army, but he volunteered to be a volunteer in a field hospital to help the hospital save lives.

One day, he had a whim and wrote a sentence on the wall of the hospital: "No one will die here." His behavior attracted everyone's attention. People in the hospital say that he is crazy, while others think that this sentence is harmless and does not need to be erased.

That sentence has been ignored and left on that wall. Later, not only the wounded, but also doctors and nurses including the dean gradually remembered this sentence.

In order not to let this sentence fail, the wounded and sick people are strong and alive. Doctors and nurses do their best to give patients the most detailed treatment and care for this sentence. This hospital has become a powerful hospital, and everyone's face has a look of hope and persistence.

Sometimes, it's not a giant who works miracles, maybe it's just an ordinary sentence. And a word of encouragement is to give each other a free but precious gift. It is insignificant in our life, but it is often as heavy as a thousand. 3. Make soup with stones.

Many years ago, three soldiers returned from the battlefield. Tired and hungry, they came to a village. Due to the continuous war, the villagers' harvest is very bad. They quickly hid what little food they had and then went to the square to meet the three soldiers. They lamented that they were short of clothes and food and could not entertain soldiers with a full meal.

The soldiers whispered to each other for a while, and one soldier said, "You have nothing to eat for us, but we have something to share: we have the knack of making soup with stones."

The villagers are very curious. Soon, they made a fire and set up the biggest pot in the village. The soldiers put three smooth stones into the pot. "This can make a delicious soup in a short time," said the second soldier. "However, if you put some salt and celery, it will taste better." A village woman listened and said, "What a coincidence! I just remembered where there is a little left. " The villagers remembered something one by one. After a while, radish, beef and cheese were added to the cauldron. When everyone sat down to drink soup, someone pushed a bucket of wine.

The villagers gathered in the square, dancing and singing while eating until late at night. The next morning, when the three soldiers woke up, they found all the villagers standing around them, carrying a backpack with bread and cheese. "You gave us the most precious gift: the trick of making soup with stones," said an elder. "We will always remember it in our hearts."

The third soldier said to the crowd, "In fact, there is no trick. But one thing is certain, as long as everyone comes up with something, it can become a party shared by everyone. " 4. Suffering is a school

Gorky has a famous saying: "Suffering is a school". Let the children know the real situation of the family and let her share some difficulties, which is good for the children who grow up day by day. ...

Daughter 13 years old, grade one of junior high school. This year, my old cow-pulling factory declared bankruptcy, and I became an unemployed person with no work. The house leaked rain, and it rained all night. My father is lying in the hospital with liver cancer, and the family's livelihood depends entirely on his wife's meager salary.

When my father was not ill, his daughter was always the apple of his eye. When he comes back from work, he always keeps calling "Lingling" and "Lingling". My daughter wants to buy a sports circle and immediately pays for the bag; I want to buy dancing shoes, so I don't have to accompany her to the store. In short, my father's point of view is that "other children have it, so should we Lingling." At that time, Lingling always boasted to her classmates: "My grandfather is an engineer and loves me the most!" " "

But now, the family situation has completely changed. In order to make up for the expenses at home, I have to go out to shine shoes and tell my daughter that I am going to work. A daughter who is not sensible still wants this or that when she comes home from school.

On this day, my daughter saw that all the other children had goggles, so she clamored to buy them when she got home. "Only 100 yuan a pair, not too stingy!" My God, 100 yuan is a quarter of her mother's monthly salary as a locksmith. Shoe-shining can only earn more than 10 yuan a day. I really can't let her be extravagant. Because she didn't meet her daughter's requirements, she didn't even eat dinner, so she was locked in a hut and cried for half a night.

The wife wiped her tears and said, "If her grandfather knew, I don't know how sad it would be. Let's buy a pair for our children! " I shook my head: "Gorky has a famous saying,' Suffering is a school'. We should let our children know the real situation of the family and let her share some difficulties, which is good for children who grow up day by day. " I knocked on my daughter's door and whispered to her, "Lingling, do you know what happened to grandpa?" It is liver cancer. The doctor said he wouldn't live for more than a year. Dad's factory has gone bankrupt and has long since stopped working. I shine shoes outside every day, isn't it for this family? It's not that dad is cruel. We are really having a hard time at present. "

My daughter stared at me and suddenly jumped into my arms and burst into tears. It was a long time before she raised a pair of regretful eyes and said, "Dad, I'm not sensible. I'm so selfish. Please rest assured that I will definitely correct it in the future. "

In order to enhance my daughter's psychological endurance, the next day I set up a shoeshine stall at the gate of their school. When the wind blows, hide in the corner; It's raining. Move under the eaves. One day after school, my daughter quietly came to me and said with tears, "Dad, I saw you all this morning. You just polished a pair of leather shoes for others."

Since then, my daughter has no need to pay for breakfast at the stall. She didn't like porridge at first, but now she calls her mother to cook porridge early in the morning and says that she likes porridge cooked by her mother best. She used to pester her grandfather to take a bumper car at the Children's Palace every weekend. Now on Sunday, she took the initiative to clean at home and ran to the hospital to send soup and water to grandpa. I used to buy exercise books every three or two days, but now I write them in front and then in the back.

Not long ago, my daughter learned that she didn't do well in the senior high school entrance examination in Xiao Wei next door, and spent 8,000 yuan to enter a key high school. She no longer watches TV every night, but does her homework at her desk in a small room. Seeing that she often turns off the lights in the middle of the night, her mother told her to pay attention to rest. She said: "Our family conditions are not as good as Wei's. If our grades are not good, how can we afford to go to key high schools in the future? " I have suffered a little now, and all my lessons have laid a good foundation, which is equivalent to making money for my parents! "

Looking at my daughter's maturity and understanding day by day, my wife and I looked at her with tears in our eyes, and there were three words in my heart that could not be said.

I have been a follower of my brother since I was a child. My brother is the first in every exam, and I am equally happy. When you meet people, you say, "My brother is amazing. He always comes first in exams. " That kind of joy is beyond anyone's comprehension. Once my father said to me, "You didn't get the first place in the exam. What are you happy about? " ! Remember, don't show off yourself with other people's things! "So I remembered the first sentence about" showing off "-don't show off yourself with other people's things!

In the future, I will always be the first in the exam with my intelligence and diligence, and I will be secretly happy. I think everything has become small in my eyes. My classmates asked me questions and I ignored them. I also curled my lips and said, "I can't even do such a simple question." You are so stupid. Look at me! " Just as I was triumphant, my father spoke again: "You can be confident, but you can't be proud. Remember, don't always show off yourself! " "So I remembered the second sentence about" showing off "-don't always show off yourself.

After entering the university, I won a prize in the chess competition organized by the school and took a trophy home. My nephew saw it and took it to play. He took the trophy and "bragged" with his friends about how great his uncle was, and his friends immediately "worshipped" him. My father saw it and said to me, "don't let him take your things, it will only spoil him." Remember, don't let others show off your things! " Then I remembered the third sentence about "showing off"-don't let others show off your things!

What my father said was just three short sentences: but it benefited me all my life. 6. Honesty is not simple

An equipment engineer comes from a cable factory. He used to work in a large enterprise in Hubei. He has more than 20 years of experience in equipment management, but inexplicably took his wife and daughter to Hangzhou to find a job.

When applying, he singled out those remote industrial enterprises and finally reached a preliminary employment agreement with the cable factory. When talking about salary, he hardly asked for it.

The personnel manager was surprised and asked him politely why his requirements were so low, but he bowed his head and kept silent. The personnel manager also gave up, and now no one has privacy.

A few days after signing the contract, the man said to the personnel manager, "I think I should tell you the question you asked me a few days ago."

He said, "I was fired from the old one. I know too many people there to get along with. " The personnel manager immediately put away the contract and told him that he couldn't decide. Whether to hire him now needs the approval of the chairman.

He came before the chairman. After listening to his explanation, the chairman read his resume, hesitated for a long time and said, "I still decide to hire you."

This surprised the personnel manager. The chairman said, "Experience is precious, but honesty is more difficult."

This story was told to me by a friend of mine who is a personnel manager. He said that the equipment engineer is now the head of the company's power department and his work performance is excellent. Now many private enterprises want to dig him up, but he didn't leave.

Xishui

A transparent stream is as clear as a mother's eyes.

In spring, your eyes are gorgeous;

In summer, your eyes are thick green;

In autumn, your eyes are clear;

In winter, you are tired-close your eyes and stop singing.

You breathe in the clouds in the blue sky, the sunset glow at dusk and the stars in the night sky; And left me as a child.

Oh! The rustling sugarcane forest and sweet wind by this stream once blew my childhood dream! I am lying beside you, leaning on my mother's chest, feeling very happy. ...

You are an ancient song in our life-

You see the procession riding donkeys coming, and some suona play funeral music;

You saw several burly men carrying heavy wooden coffins and sending the old man up the hillside;

You heard it too: the unicycle at the foot of the mountain crunched on the barren land. ...

Without you, who will leave us with natural colors;

Who will record the joys and sorrows of the mountain people for us?

Transparent stream, you gave me a pair of eyes that can distinguish colors.

When I am by your side and find myself a teenager, I want to go far.

Send me out of the mountain like you raised my mother!