A lie comes from vanity.
When in love, my boyfriend always tells Sharla Cheung about his glorious history, that he has been among the best in grades from elementary school to high school, that his graduation thesis won the applause of his tutor in college, and that he was candidly admit defeat when playing chess with chess masters ... Sharla Cheung admired him very much after listening to these vivid descriptions. After marriage, her boyfriend became her husband. In Sharla Cheung's eyes, his image was even more "tall" because her husband often talked about his "deeds" that were appreciated by leaders and envied by colleagues. The world is really small. Not long ago, Sharla Cheung had a new colleague who was actually her husband's college classmate. From her, Sharla Cheung learned that her husband couldn't play chess at all, and his graduation thesis was poorly written, and he barely passed after repeated revisions ... Shocked, Sharla Cheung doubted all her husband's boasting.
Analysis says that women are vain, but men are also vain. Relatively speaking, men like to raise themselves more than women, so they exaggerate intentionally or unintentionally, set up their glorious image with lies, and get psychological satisfaction from their wives' admiration.
Tips 1。 A wife should not be too vain, and her husband should not think that the only criterion for judging his ability is career success.
Don't rush to expose your husband's fabrication, especially in public. Just let your husband think that you know his tricks and are not interested.
3. Pay attention to observation and experience, explore the advantages of her husband, and praise him from time to time to enhance his self-confidence and self-esteem.
◆ Lies come from perfunctory.
Ethan's husband often travels on business and always brings her some presents. Sometimes, when the price of something bought back is very low, Ethan will show an unhappy expression: "Look at this thing you bought! Cheap and no good goods, I was sent away. "
As a result, the things her husband bought became more and more "expensive", and the quoted price often made Ethan exclaim: "So expensive!" I talk, but my heart is secretly sweet and gentle to my husband.
One day, Ethan went to work with her husband's handbag on her back. My colleagues in the office saw it and said, "I have a bag like this, too." It looks good. /kloc-more than 0/00 yuan is also worth it. " "More than one hundred? Is it not 360? " Ethan asked. "no! This is the goods of chain stores, and the national unified price. " Colleagues' answers made Ethan feel a big knot, and her husband actually gave himself a "flower account". How many times has he done this? Are you in the dark? What's the use of falsely reporting the balance? Ethan's ideas are getting more and more complicated.
The original intention of analyzing such lies is not complicated, just to make his wife feel better, and there is no ulterior motive. On the contrary, it also shows the husband's concern for his wife's feelings to some extent. Of course, this is closely related to the information that the wife usually transmits to her husband.
Tip 1. If you find that there is no other "shady", then you don't have to expose such a lie.
Tell your husband that what he needs more is his consideration, not endless material comparison.
◆ Lies originate from the diaphragm.
Zhou Jing and her mother-in-law have a bad relationship. She had several hurtful quarrels and ignored each other from then on. The husband became a "sandwich biscuit" between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and was in a dilemma. In order to avoid contradictions, he never mentioned the topic about his mother in front of Zhou Jing, and he didn't let Zhou Jing know about his contacts with his parents. Every time he went back to his mother's, he lied to find a colleague and bought something for his parents and put it in the office. However, once I bought my mother a supplement for the elderly, and Zhou Jing happened to see it. He went to work to find him. She was very dissatisfied and didn't talk to her husband for several days. The husband wanted to explain, and Zhou Jing threw a sentence at waiting for a while: "Who knows how many things you bought for your mother behind my back!" It is difficult for an honest official to break housework. In the face of the two most important women in life, husbands are often deeply worried and at a loss. Lies have become the support point to achieve balance on the "wire rope". In fact, my husband is particularly painful at this time.
Tips 1。 A wife must first examine her family concept and change her autocratic attitude based on her own will.
2. Respect the husband's independent personality and don't interfere with his activities within the normal ethical scope.
Communicate well with your husband and make him realize that what you care about most is the happiness and stability of your family.
A lie comes from a cover-up.
Xiaoying's husband is cheerful and easy to make friends. Call friends for a party on the 3 rd and a party on the 5 th before marriage. Married, still very active, very happy, and even went home very late at night. To this end, Xiaoying really lost her temper several times, and her husband did converge. Recently, my husband went out from time to time after work, saying that he was going to help my uncle repair the computer. When she came back late, Xiaoying complained, and her husband said innocently, "My uncle trusts me, and I won't leave until I have done it for others." Xiaoying doesn't like it in his heart, and an uncle can't order people around him like this. At the Chinese New Year's party, Xiaoying gently said to her uncle, "Isn't it because of his poor skills that he always repairs your computer and stays so late?" This also delays your rest! "My uncle was surprised:" There is no such thing! "The husband can't hide it, so he has to" confess ":it turns out that he went to the party with his buddies again.
Some people say that men are actually afraid of getting married, because it means that he will end his chic and casual single life and be subject to a small family world. This is not unreasonable. It is understandable that a husband occasionally wants to leave his wife's sight and relax a little. But if the wife is too strict, the husband will inevitably lie to achieve his goal.
3. Establish a reasonable image in the husband's mind, and don't restrict his freedom excessively.
◆ Lies come from caring.
Xin Chen's husband's company is in recession, and he has to fire employees at both ends every three days. Xin Chen was worried, but her husband always comforted her: "Don't worry, it's not my turn to be laid off!" Her husband goes to work by the hour and pays the household bills by the month, but Xin Chen still finds that her husband is a little abnormal: when she comes home, she always has a bulging briefcase that Xin Chen never sees; Locked drawers for sundries and keys with you; Strangers often call him, and he will hide in the back room and close the door. On one occasion, Xin Chen accidentally went home to get something, only to find that her husband, who was supposed to be at work, was sitting on the sofa reading a newspaper. The husband said that he was not feeling well and came back to rest, but his expression was unnatural. Chen Xin couldn't help but pour out her doubts to her husband. Facing the tearful Xin Chen, her husband finally told the truth: he has been laid off for more than a month. Afraid of Xin Chen's anxiety, he pretends to go to work every day, but in fact he looks for a job everywhere. Locked drawers are full of job advertisements and draft resumes, and strange calls are mostly from recruitment units. The monthly living expenses are borrowed from his parents.
Analyzing this kind of lies will often make the wife love and hate. On the one hand, the husband does this out of concern for his wife; On the other hand, a solitary husband also regards his wife as an outsider. He is worried that his wife will be worried. While concealing the real situation, it also reveals distrust of marriage and wife.
Tips 1。 Tell your husband that you can understand his feelings of lying, but what he did actually backfired and made you feel sad and angry.
Make your husband realize that the family is a whole, and you are willing and able to tide over the difficulties with him.
Make it clear that you don't want your husband to hide the truth from you with lies.