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Mao Jiawei's resume
On April 4th, 2020, Mr Rao, the author of Tang Ru Bian Zhou, died in Shanghai Ruijin Hospital at the age of 99. Rao Ruping participated in War of Resistance against Japanese Aggression and served as an American editor. Everyone who knows Mr. Rao is moved by the story of him and his wife Mao Meitang: when words can't express his thoughts, Rao spent four years painting his ordinary life on paper with a brush.

So there was this book, As Flat as a Beautiful Pond: The Story of the Two of us. In addition to some words, this book has many illustrations. In fact, it is a picture book, but it is such a picture book that can quickly reach the top of the best-selling list in France and be quickly welcomed by more than a dozen countries such as the United States, Britain and Italy. Many readers' comments on this book are that they read China's greatest love.

Rao Ruping's life can be described as ups and downs. He was a rich young master with a well-off family, a gun scientist at Huangpu Military Academy, an anti-Japanese warrior who fought bravely on the battlefield, an accountant and editor of a publishing house, and was later sent to reeducation through labor. He was separated from his wife for 22 years.

Although his life is bumpy, there are ups and downs, but his constant love for his wife Mao Meitang. Before I met Mao Meitang, Rao Ruping was a soldier. 1945, fighting in the periphery of Xuefeng Mountain in Xiangxi. At that time, Rao Ruping, the platoon leader of the artillery company, was lying on the mountain. A monitor was hit by a bullet and suddenly there was a scream.

The cruelty of the war made young Rao Ruping unforgettable all his life. He even felt that if he really died on the battlefield, it would be a fair death. But fortunately, God bless Rao Ruping without sacrifice in the victory. At the age of 24, he took a leave of absence and returned to his hometown in Jiangxi. He was entrusted by his father to see the rich woman Mao Meitang.

This is where the love story of two people begins. That year, Rao was 24 years old and Mao Meitang was 22 years old. In the next time, let's walk into the story of Ru Ping and Meitang, and into this great love story.

In fact, anyone who has attended a wedding or got married knows that there must be an oath at the wedding scene. The host or priest will ask the bride and groom if you want the man around you to be your husband. No matter he is poor or rich, sick or healthy, you are willing to love him and accompany him to his old age. What we usually hear at this time is I do.

In this marriage vows, we will find that in marriage, our life will face three major challenges, poverty, health and adversity. Many relationships in life will be defeated by these three obstacles, and eventually the beautiful vows will become a bubble and the marriage will fail. However, in their 70-year marriage, in the face of poverty, difficulties and diseases, Ru Ping and Mei Tang never gave up their love.

During his vacation, Rao was arranged by his father to meet a rich woman, Mao Meitang. When he first entered the Mao family, he happened to see a young girl wearing cheongsam at the window making up. This is Rao's first impression of Meitang, and this scene is deeply imprinted in his mind. Later, in the painting collection of the book, Rao also painted this scene.

When we first met, both of them were very shy. Rao can only exchange greetings with the elders of the Mao family at the dinner table, while Mao Meitang chatted happily with several little sisters on the other side, and neither of them said a few words.

After dinner, Rao's father gave the ring to Mei Tang's father before Mao's mother died, and the mother's ring was in Mei Tang's hand, and the two formally settled the marriage.

Although their marriage was decided by their parents, neither of them opposed it at that time and naturally agreed.

Later, Rao Ruping returned to the army after the holiday. When he was on the boat, he thought that he could only contact Mei Tang's letters in the future. When he thought of Mei Tang and her brother and sister, his heart was full of emotion. Before, he was always ready to die for his country. Now he has begun to look forward to the future and start thinking about the future of two people.

This love, which began in turbulent times, is the best time in Rao's life. So after War of Resistance against Japanese Aggression, he became more and more tired of the battlefield. He fought against foreign enemies and died in War of Resistance against Japanese Aggression. But if he dies in the domestic battlefield, he doesn't want to. After all, he can't figure out why China people want to beat China people.

So on 1948, Rao asked for leave to go home and marry Mao Meitang. The wedding of the two was very grand. Mei Tang wore a white wedding dress and a pale yellow military uniform. There were more than 200 relatives and friends at the scene, which became a wonderful moment in his memory.

However, in wartime, their marriage life also experienced many tests. After the civil war, Ru Ping and Mei Tang refused to follow others to Taiwan Province Province, so they turned to relatives in Guizhou.

In those years, Rao Ruping looked around for a job, but the experience of finding a job was also very unsatisfactory. He submitted his resume to the construction team and tried a position for the grain situation. In the end, there was no result.

Later, with the help of my father-in-law, the couple started to run noodle restaurants, but the noodle restaurant business was not satisfactory, and no one wanted to eat his noodles. Later, Ru Ping followed his friends to set up a stall in the vegetable market to sell dried peppers, and the business was just as bad.

I didn't make any money after tossing and turning several times, but I have been losing money. Even his wife Mei Tang thinks he is not suitable for business. Another year passed, and Ru Ping went to Shanghai Dade Hospital as an accountant on the recommendation of his uncle. At the same time, she found a part-time job as an editor of a publishing house. That year, Rao earned one or two hundred yuan a month.

High income eased their plight, and the sweet and beautiful days only lasted for seven years. Because of 1958, he was sent to Anhui as a counter-revolutionary to carry out labor reform, which took 22 years.

All of us will believe that the power of love is invincible, but the truth of life is that poor couples are always sad. No matter whether you really love soul-stirring, vigorous, if there is no guarantee of life, no money and no place to live, those big and small things will definitely put out the flame of love.

But the love between Ru Ping and Mei Tang is very special. Although their life is not rich or even poor, they always have a yearning for life, which makes them live a very stable, warm and warm life. Sometimes we feel that this sudden poverty is the touchstone of love, because a sincere love itself is a kind of wealth.

Therefore, the most terrible thing in marriage is not poverty, because from their stories, we can see that love can overcome poverty. Ru Ping and Mei Tang gave us the first revelation about love: poverty is not an obstacle to love, but a common training for two people. They support each other and love each other in their poor lives, and every detail is warm.

This is true love, and the person who can accompany you all your life is the one who can understand, own, accompany and tolerate you.

The two men finally spent the poor days together, and a few days after the good days, the marriage life ushered in a second test. Imagine what it would be like if we didn't meet our husbands for 22 years. I believe it's hard for us to imagine that kind of life ourselves. But Ru Ping and Mei Tang have been separated for 22 years, and they can only communicate by letters.

Losing the pillar of the family, Mei Tang, who was originally wealthy, had to worry about making money. The old lady can only do a lot of hard work for her children at home. A young lady who once loved beauty and was delicate showed unprecedented firmness and courage in the face of great changes in life.

Even the personnel department talked to Mei Tang and advised her to draw a line with Ru Ping. In fact, in those days, how many people quickly drew a line with their families and even took the initiative to expose them in order to protect themselves.

But for 22 years, no matter how others advised me, Mei Tang always said, I know what this person is like. Years later, Ru Ping asked her why she was so persistent. Mei Tang said, "If you had an affair, I would have divorced you. But you are not a traitor, a traitor, corruption or theft. You are nothing. Why should I divorce you? "

Mei Tang stayed in Shanghai and waited for Ru Ping to come back, but it was difficult for a woman to raise five children alone. When life was difficult, Mei Tang had to sell her dowry one by one. The night before, she only sold a gold bracelet, so she put it on her daughter's wrist and let her sleep with it all night. At dawn, she took it off and sold it. This is also the daughter wearing a bracelet.

But even so, the money is not enough. In order to feed the children, the emaciated Meitang went to the weaving factory as a female worker and moved the cement to the construction site of Shanghai Natural History Museum. A bag of cement weighs at least 50 kilograms, and it is also because of these labors that Meitang's body falls behind.

However, the harder their life is, the more tenacious their feelings are. In the face of adversity of fate, they never thought of giving up on each other. They joined hands to support each other's home.

Ru Ping didn't earn much money during the labor reform. Even so, he scrimped and saved. In the most difficult time, he had to divide the 6-cent food stamp into three days and try to send all the money home. Mei Tang told Ru Ping to take good care of himself and not to send money home.

During the Chinese New Year, Ru Ping can go home once. At this time, he will borrow money in advance, buy some new year's goods early, get up before six o'clock, carry the burden and wander around, and finally arrive at home in Shanghai. Every time I get home, it's already evening, the children are happy, and the family has a reunion dinner with the lights on.

However, China New Year is only a short party. Their most common contact way is to write letters, which have been written for 22 years, 1000 letters, all of which are entrusted with each other's love and feelings.

This is the second touching thing about Ru Ping and Meitang. In good times and bad times, even if they haven't been together for 22 years, they still support their home.

In the love story of two people, two people have been in long-distance love for 22 years. There are two things worth learning here. First, even if it is a long-distance relationship, we should keep proper contact. In the days of separation, letters are basically exchanged. In that era of material scarcity, letters became their emotional bridge. This also tells us that even if two people are not in the same city, they need to keep interacting.

Second, learn to be considerate and visit each other regularly. For example, in the 22 years since Ru Ping left Meitang, he went home once a year during the Spring Festival. Every time he went back for half a month, he always tried his best to ask for leave.

This gives us great enlightenment. When many people get married or fall in love, they think that girls are very troublesome and always have stomachaches, and then men come to drink more hot water. But do girls really need that cup of hot water? In fact, what she needs is not real company.

In the equal love between Mei and Tang, we will find that long-distance love is not an obstacle, but will temper the feelings of two people. What does distance matter as long as your hearts are firm with each other? You can also exercise two people's hearts and make each other stronger.

In 1980, Rao's punishment was finally revoked. I thought that two people could be together from now on, and there would be only death in the future, not rebirth. However, they survived the most difficult years and thought they could live a quiet life in their later years. How can they expect fate to remind people? They are both old and sick.

Mei Tang is ill. She got kidney disease when she was carrying cement in her early years, and then she got diabetes. She has to have peritoneal dialysis every day. Ru Ping bought her treatment equipment and did dialysis at home every day. It took four years to do it.

However, Meitang's condition is getting worse and worse, and his speech is becoming more and more unclear. He often asked Ru Ping to do some incredible things in a daze, but he did it all. His children advised him not to listen, but he said, "But I can't get used to it. I can't do anything she asks me to do. "

One night, Mei Tang said that water chestnut cake wanted to eat the apricot blossom building, so she went to buy it by bike. At that time, Rao Ruping was 87 years old. On another occasion, Mei Tang suddenly wanted a red cheongsam with a black background, so she discussed with the children whether to make one for her. As a result, she didn't remember anything before doing it.

Everyone in the family thinks she has Alzheimer's disease, but Rao Ruping thinks it's because she is old. He believes that her beauty will get better. But one day, my granddaughter went to work, but Mei Tang said that she was hidden by him. At that moment, Ru Ping completely collapsed.

He sat on the ground and cried. At that moment, he had to believe that Mei Tang was really confused and was unlikely to recover from it. Mei Tang will be very grumpy when he is seriously ill, and often pulls out the tube on himself. The situation is very dangerous. Rao Ru Ping had to tie her hands with gauze. At this time, she can only cry helplessly, don't tie me up, don't tie me up.

Mei Tang sometimes wakes up. As soon as she woke up, she said to her daughter, you should take good care of dad. On another occasion, she told Ru Ping that you should stop eating and riding a bike.

Even at the last moment of her life, Meitang was most concerned and worried about her lover and her safety. Later, on March 9, 2008/KLOC-0, Mei Tang took one last look at Ru Ping and left him with tears, leaving only his deep thoughts on her.

After Mei Tang left, Ru Ping was depressed for a period of time, took antidepressants for half a year, and then began to miss Mei Tang alone.

He cut off a strand of her hair, tied it with red thread and put it on his body. He put her ashes on the bed and waited for them to be buried together a hundred years later. He even put Mei Tang's photo in the most conspicuous position and wiped it every day. If he misses Mei Tang, he will go to the Shanghai Museum of Natural History and touch the steps, where Mei Tang works.

He will also take the photo of Mei Tang to the place where two people took wedding photos and put it in his pocket, as if he had been there together. Later, he went to his former backyard, where there was a grapefruit tree. When I was young, Mei Tang often took pictures and played under the tree.

After that, Rao recalled the dribs and drabs of the two men and began to paint. He used paper and pen to reproduce their 60 years from acquaintance, love and staying together to Mei Tang's death, and finally integrated it into the book "As Flat as Mei Tang: Our Story".

On the last page of this book, there is such a sentence that I like very much: "The sea is not deep, and missing someone is deeper than the sea."

Every stroke, painting and word in the book is as deep as his yearning for Mei Tang. He recorded the life stories of two people with a brush, as if that person was in front of him when each pen fell.

In addition to this book "As Flat as a Beautiful Pond: Our Story", he also presented a painting "To Young Friends" to contemporary young people, telling them what love and marriage are: "Life is too short to be young. Don't bear the original intention, respect and love each other. Everything is inclusive and everything is expected. Believe in everything and be patient in everything. Grow old together and be happy. After a long time, the true feelings will last forever. "

Ru Ping once said before his death: "Life and death are shared, honor and disgrace are shared, and love is old; After three years of seclusion, my heart was broken when I asked silently. Acacia began to feel that the sea was not deep. "

When two people spend their old age together, the enlightenment is that from love to affection, from romance to being together, the longer they are, the more reluctant they are to leave you, so they can be called lovers.

When she was dying, Ru Ping could recall so many details of her life with Mei Tang, which shows how deep this love is. We may not be sure whether a person really loves himself or not, but you can know whether he really loves you by seeing how much he is willing to pay for you and whether he has been thinking about you all the time.

When it comes to love, we always think that it is nothing and impossible to meet, but in fact, when two people face poverty, adversity and disease, they can see true love best, because each of these three dilemmas is as heavy as a mountain, but Ru Ping and Mei Tang can still walk through each one hand in hand.

Love is the most unreasonable thing in the world. I won't take special care of you because you are rich and beautiful. It is not an arithmetic problem, but a certain calculation method. It takes two people to support each other, hit it off with each other and work hard to survive.

Finally, I hope that each of us can still have the courage to believe in love and the ability to love ourselves first and then others.