Among the many marital emotional problems I have solved, there are indeed some things, and some people have shocked me and refreshed my world view. Just like a couple's marriage problem I solved before, the practice of two people refreshed my cognition.

The couple have been married for nearly ten years and their children are eight years old. But the wife found the man cheating outside. The wife wanted a divorce, and the man agreed. However, there are differences in marital property.

Men insist on equal share, but through court decision, women get most of the property. But the man disagreed and the two began to entangle.

In the end, the two made an absurd decision not to leave home after divorce.

As the name implies, two people are not legally married, but they still live together. Men are for property issues, and women are for children. The child was still young, and the two decided to hide it from the child first.

But it would be embarrassing for two people to live together like this, so the woman was bored and went online to talk to someone, so she found me.

Finally, through communication, she gradually untied the knot. But her story has always given me a great shock.

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In my opinion, divorce means that the relationship between husband and wife is no longer close, which can be said to be irrelevant. However, due to many factors in real life, some divorces can actually stay at home like the above.

Later, I made a special investigation with curiosity and found that I was really ignorant. There are still many phenomena of not running away from home after divorce. Many of them are due to some practical reasons.

I never understood what this divorce was for. Isn't it hard for two people to live together? Later, I found that many divorced couples who didn't leave home finally chose to remarry. I guess I think it's no different from not getting divorced, right?

Marriage is not a child's play, and marriage and divorce also need careful consideration. But now people are more and more impetuous and don't pay attention to marriage. There are many flash marriages, remarriage after divorce, and divorce after remarriage, completely taking marriage as a joke.

Personally, I think this is an extremely bad behavior, and we'd better be cautious about marriage. After all, marriage is everyone's guarantee for the rest of his life.

But we have to say that some things that happen in real life are far more wonderful than we imagined, even bloody wonderful.

The reason why I wrote this article today is because of the contribution of reader Xiaofeng. She told us a wonderful thing that happened to her.

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Xiaofeng is 33 years old and has just been divorced for more than half a year. She's still in emotional recovery. The last marriage lasted for nine years, but it ended in failure. This made Xiaofeng a little hurt.

The reasons for Xiaofeng's divorce are very complicated, including the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the breakdown of her relationship with her husband. The last straw that crushed the camel was Xiaofeng's discovery that her husband was having an affair with another woman. Although she didn't cheat, it was unforgivable for Xiaofeng.

When Xiaofeng married her ex-husband Wang Jia, Wang Jia was still a poor boy with nothing. He came from the countryside, and Qi Xin, the whole family, gave him up. Xiaofeng knows that Wang Jia is actually the Phoenix Man now. But at that time, I was too young to tell the good guys from the bad guys. All I know is that I will marry him if I like.

Xiaofeng married the poor Wang Jia, and their wedding was very simple, with no house and no bride price. After I got married, I lived in a small house rented by Wang Jia, which was less than 50 square meters. Everything in the family depends on two people.

But Xiaofeng didn't regret it at that time, and her mind was all on Wang Jia. She does whatever Wang Jia tells her to do. Xiaofeng continued to work after marriage, and Wang Jia resigned to start a business.

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In the following days, Xiaofeng and Wang Jia suffered a lot together. But everyone gritted their teeth and held on. Wang Jia is very capable and her career has begun to develop step by step.

Xiaofeng's son was five years old at that time. Life is finally beginning to have hope. You know, Xiaofeng has to take care of her family and work, and she also has to receive some "relatives and friends" from Wang Jia's hometown every now and then.

The contradiction between Xiaofeng and her mother-in-law has long appeared. As early as the year Xiaofeng was pregnant, she and her mother-in-law had already had conflicts.

Xiaofeng was pregnant at that time, and Wang Jia took her mother from her hometown to take care of her. However, the arrival of her mother-in-law did not take care of Xiaofeng, but began to criticize Xiaofeng.

The mother-in-law thinks that her son is so excellent that Xiaofeng is not worthy of him. Moreover, Xiaofeng only needs to come and take care of herself when she is pregnant, and it is not a big deal.

At that time, my mother-in-law often said, "Isn't it just pregnancy? What a coward! I was still working in the field when I was pregnant with my son. How could I come to you and need someone to take care of me? "

In the face of her mother-in-law's provocation, Xiaofeng has just begun to choose patience. But it turned out that my mother-in-law was the kind of rural bitch who bullied the weak and feared the hard and made trouble without reason. So Xiaofeng began to be rude to her.

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The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is getting deeper and deeper, and the number of quarrels is increasing. As a husband, Wang Jia chose to escape. He didn't help each other and let two women quarrel at home.

Xiaofeng drove her mother-in-law back to her hometown after giving birth. Because at that time, as long as two people get along for less than five minutes, there will be quarrels.

With Wang Jia's career getting better and better, their lives have also changed a lot. They moved to a new house and drove a new car. Xiaofeng doesn't need to work to make money. Wang Jia can support her and her children. Xiaofeng felt that all her previous sufferings were worth it, and she finally got through it.

On the other hand, the mother-in-law saw her son developed and began to ask him for living expenses. Xiaofeng hates her and wants to give it to her. But Wang Jia said that was my mother. Not giving is unfilial. So Wang Jia gives her mother living expenses every month.

Seeing Wang Jia doing this, Xiaofeng was very helpless. After all, he earned all the money. I'm just a little angry inside.

But as time went on, Xiaofeng found that Wang Jia was becoming more and more cold and impatient with herself. The couple can't say a few words at home on weekdays, and most of them discuss children's affairs.

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The indifference of her husband's attitude also made Xiaofeng suspicious. She began to spy on Wang Jia, and like most women, she watched all other women who approached Wang Jia.

At that time, there was nothing wrong with Wang Jia, but Xiaofeng did this, and Wang Jia was in a bad mood. Often quarreling with Xiaofeng, the couple's feelings plummeted.

In the end, the two men had little in common, and the quarrel consumed their last passion. The rest is silence and indifference.

I don't know when Wang Jia and Xiaofeng began to sleep in separate rooms, and neither of them felt any discomfort. There are fewer quarrels, not because of reconciliation, but because I feel too lazy to quarrel.

Finally, Xiaofeng found the information of Wang Jia chatting with a woman on her mobile phone.

When she questioned Wang Jia with her mobile phone, Wang Jia was surprisingly calm and generous and told her the truth. He just had an affair with this woman, and there was no substantive relationship.

Wang Jia's attitude makes Xiaofeng feel that he doesn't care. He doesn't care about having an affair with this woman. He doesn't care about letting his wife know about it. This attitude makes Xiaofeng chilling.

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Xiaofeng filed for divorce after careful consideration. Wang Jia also agreed, but there was a problem with the division of property. The two men argued and decided to get a divorce certificate first, but they did not separate.

Xiaofeng agreed for the sake of the child. But she really couldn't continue to live with Wang Jia, so she took her children back to her parents' house.

After living in her parents' home for several months, Xiaofeng received news from Wang Jia. There are problems in his company, and some funds can't be turned around. Xiaofeng doesn't care. After all, she is divorced and has nothing to do with herself.

However, after another two months, my mother-in-law actually came to me with a very arrogant attitude. Facing Xiaofeng and her parents, her mother-in-law reached out and said, "Bring money!"

Xiaofeng was not satisfied with her, but she was even more upset when she saw this picture and said, "What money do you want!" " "My mother-in-law actually replied," My son gives me the living expenses every month, but I haven't given them for two months. I'll take care of you! " "

Xiaofeng said coldly, "I divorced him, so don't bother me anymore!" " "I didn't expect her mother-in-law not to leave, but also to play hooligans, which made Xiaofeng and her parents very angry.

Xiaofeng's mother was so angry that she let the dog out and told it to bite her mother. My mother-in-law ran away as soon as she released the dog, faster than the rabbit.

Xiaofeng's mother said indignantly, "shameless bitch, come to my house and run wild!" " "

Because of this episode, Xiaofeng also decided to lift the agreement of not leaving home after divorce. She went to Wang Jia, and after months of negotiation, she finally got divorced.