But my father never regretted it. He doesn't feel that he has lost a lot. This is enough for him. He has never been dissatisfied. I always feel that my father's mentality is really good. At least, he is really happy. Because the content is not greedy, it is easy to get happiness, and it is precisely because of happiness that it is easier to realize the happiness of life.
Many people may feel that their life is really a failure. There are always things they can't get, and things they choose wrong often happen. They always feel that they can get better, and they are depressed all day long. Even though they have lived a life envied by others, they are still not satisfied and are still "hungry." They always want more than they need to envy anyone.
However, it is almost impossible not to envy anyone's happiness. Young people are short of material resources and will envy middle-aged people for their successful careers. When they reach middle age, they will turn around and envy the young people's abundant energy and healthy body. Those who choose to marry love will envy those who marry material things who don't have to live a trivial life, unlike those who know it who have been poor together, but those who marry material things will also envy the sincere feelings of couples who love the piano and sing for a lifetime.
It sounds as if people should not be greedy, and they should be happy with everything, no matter what the life situation is, but in fact it is not entirely the case. Satisfaction is a kind of fate and a simple way to get happiness, but it doesn't mean that dissatisfaction must be a bad thing.
My best friend Li Liu (a pseudonym) and my best friend's husband are named Zhou Hui (a pseudonym). During the Spring Festival last year, Li Liu followed Zhou Hui back to his hometown for a week, during which something happened.
"I have a good relationship with Li Liu. We usually meet often, and even if we don't meet, we will chat online. Basically, we have nothing to talk about. She followed her husband home last year and kept in touch with me. She told me that her husband had a class reunion and invited him to join her. She hesitated. She felt that her husband's coming home, someone she didn't know, was just sitting there worrying. I comforted her. Anyway, she is also a supporting role. In fact, not many people care. Don't go, don't go. It doesn't matter. Later, I decided not to go.
But not long after, she sent me a message saying that she changed her mind and said that she must go. The reason is that she accidentally saw some classmates' speeches among her husband's classmates, and one of them made her particularly concerned. It was a woman. That woman, who has always been very close, called me her best friend, Brother Hui, and started booing when talking to other students, which made her feel suspicious. Later, when she asked Zhou Hui, she realized that this woman was Zhou Hui's first girlfriend. That woman has been telling her husband that she must come, and he is particularly concerned.
Maybe a woman's sixth sense is at work. Although my best friend, her husband, is a very straight person and knows nothing about flirting, Li Liu finally decided to spend some time with her husband. I thought she was a little nervous, but it turned out that Li Liu was right. On the day of reunion, Li Liu went with her husband, and a woman who just entered the door stood up and smiled. "Hui elder brother, you are really too busy. I have been waiting for you for a long time ... "
Words not to say that finish, when she saw Liu Lishi followed, the smile on her face froze instantly, perhaps because she was caught off guard when she received the news that Li Liu didn't come, but she quickly reacted, immediately turned around and took Li Liu's hand enthusiastically, and the elder sister was short and affectionate, chatting with Li Liu as if she were very familiar.
Li Liu first came here to set off her husband with green leaves. She didn't expect to pick more. For her husband's first love, she just smiled perfunctorily. Although she rolled her eyes, she didn't say anything. Li Liu did it on purpose. On the one hand, she is interested in seeing her husband's first love, on the other hand, she is also putting on a show for her husband. So she has no sense of existence and looks like a little woman who has no opinion and can't talk. Compared with Li Liu, this first-love lady is very outspoken.
After three rounds of wine, everyone began to say that Hu Kan was bragging. The young lady started her performance, and she was still far away from her seat. She walked up to Hui Zhou with a glass of wine and began to recall their past. In fact, Li Liu had heard her husband talk about his first love before. Zhou Hui used to be a poor boy, unknown, with no skills and no family conditions. Later, his first love dumped him, and he soon married the son of a local small boss. Obviously, she is too poor to fall in love with rich people, but she has become her young and inexperienced hand in this lady's mouth. At that time, she felt that she was incompatible with Zhou Hui's personality.
"Blame me me for being stupid, blame me for my hard luck. I don't have my sister's blessing. I didn't marry well. Men have some money, but they don't touch home all day. What is the use of money? It's better for my sister to marry a potential stock. Brother Hui has a good personality and a good personality. When my sister marries him, she will live a very comfortable life. I also heard that brother Hui recently opened a company and his career is in full swing. What does it look like me? Those who are not blessed only envy. " The lady seems to be feeling and telling her true feelings. Li Liu listen or didn't speak. Perhaps she looked at Liu Li with a very accommodating look, and she began to intensify. Turning around, she assumed a delicate and touching posture again.
"I have been unable to let go over the years. I really feel sorry for Brother Hui. I am too young to hurt you and miss a happiness that should belong to me. I feel particularly sorry for you, and I have been thinking about it. I just want to apologize to your face. If you can forgive me, can you give me a hug as before and let us bury the hatchet? "
Borrow input rope hug said grandiose, pulled the endless, midway also didn't look at Li Liu, didn't care about Li Liu this real wife's mood. The students around were drunk and booed around them. At that time, the scene really became one-sided, which was very unfavorable to Li Liu.
Li Liu's husband didn't think much. Hearing the sincerity of his first love and seeing her so pitiful, he was moved with compassion, but before he could respond, Li Liu, who had always been willing to be her husband's foil, stopped him.
Li Liu nodded slightly, got up gracefully, grabbed the first lady's shoulder and said with a calm smile. "You call my sister, then I should also think of your sister. It's not that my sister is stingy. My sister is too lazy to care about these past things. It's just that my husband has always been a man, which is inconvenient after all. I really think it will cause gossip. It doesn't matter if the husband is a man, but if the sister is a woman, she can't help caring.
So, I will take it instead of my husband, as long as you are satisfied. Let's see if it works. ""Don't ... "Li Liu threw herself into her arms without giving the other person a chance to speak. Not only that, she also said a word in her best friend's ear." Do you know why you are miserable? Is it because I am not satisfied or because I am too greedy? I always think other people's food is delicious. I don't know what's in the bowl. Look at what's in the pot. I just don't want to say that you are ashamed of yourself. If you don't want to embarrass yourself, just put your hand in someone else's bowl and ask for less embarrassment. "
In a word, Miss First Love is pale and depressed, and has returned to her position. In the face of her husband's first love, Li Liu didn't make any noise or make trouble. An elegant counterattack made "green tea" completely defeated and won beauty. Li Liu is undoubtedly highly emotional and has a way. A reader friend of mine later explained: "There is a reason for being so hard-driving. Originally, Zhou Hui could get ahead. A large part of the reason is that Li Liu's family background is very difficult, so she helps to support her. Otherwise Zhou Hui hasn't specified anything yet. Envy, if you want to steal the fruits of others' victory, you must also recognize the reality. If you are insatiable, you should hit your face. "
Some people are just not satisfied or too greedy. They look at the bowls in the pot and feel uncomfortable. They always think that others are good and others are baba. Such people will never be happy. Because you are too greedy to swallow an elephant, and your desire is greater than your ability, which will support you to death. I have said before that dissatisfaction or greed is not necessarily a bad thing, and I am still saying this. Greed is a double-edged sword, but it varies from person to person. Some people will use greed as a weapon and turn it into a driving force for progress.
But in some people's hands, this excellent weapon becomes an inverted blade sword, which will harm themselves. Being insatiable, just thinking about taking shortcuts, or complaining about others, extremely negative thoughts gradually affect the three views, which will only make your life worse. Either be content and live in the present, or make yourself strong enough to satisfy any of your desires. What you are afraid of is greed, only thinking about stealing, only thinking about other ways. These people, they will never know that it is not others, not fate, but herself that makes life a complete failure.