What is commendable is that Mrs. Cheng's education of the Su brothers is not limited to books, but pays more attention to the cultivation of the Su brothers' personality quality. Not only that, Mrs. Cheng's words and deeds are deeply imprinted in the Su brothers' minds, which has a subtle influence on their lives.
Mrs. Cheng used silent actions to motivate her husband to completely change the state of "idleness and not learning" and turn to "anger" and study hard. During his study in Su Xun, he undertook the task of educating the Su brothers. For the education of the Su brothers, Su Xun focused on making his son accumulate knowledge and transform it, while Mrs. Cheng focused on the cultivation of the Su brothers' personality, and cultivated their morality, sentiment and integrity with stories of success and failure in ancient and modern times.
In Su Zhe's Epitaph of Zhan Duanming, the son of his deceased brother, it tells the story that Mrs. Cheng encouraged the Su brothers to "strive for today's ambition" and "aim high, do not humiliate Su Men and do not regret the country". When Su Shi/Kloc-0 was 0/0 years old, his father Su Xun was an official scholar on all sides, and his mother, Mrs. Cheng, gave books to his two sons, telling them stories of success and failure in ancient and modern times. Mrs. Cheng's story is easy to understand. Su Zhe said that he was only seven or eight years old at that time, and he was already able to "say whatever he wanted".
One day, Mrs. Cheng told the Su brothers about the history of the Eastern Han Dynasty-Biography of Fan Pang. Fan Pang was an official in the late Eastern Han Dynasty. He denounced a large number of corrupt officials and was finally framed by traitors. Before he died, Fan Pang's mother came to say goodbye to him. Fan Pang said to her, "My brother is very filial and can support his mother. I hope you won't be too sad when I leave you today. " Fan Pang's mother said with tears in her eyes, "Fame and longevity often cannot be both. You have such a good reputation today, what am I sad about? "
At this point, Mrs. Cheng did not feel "sighing". She respects Fan Pang, who is upright and upright, and Fan Mu, who is ordinary and has backbone. Hearing this, Su Shi threw himself into his mother's arms and said excitedly, "Mother, will you allow me to be like Fan Pang when I grow up?" Mrs. Cheng was deeply moved and said to Su Shi, "Can you be like Fan Pang, but I can't be like Fan Pang's mother?" Under the mother's instruction, "integrity", "sacrifice one's life for righteousness" and "loyalty" ... a kindling of justice is deeply buried in the hearts of Su Shi's brothers.
Inspired by Mrs. Cheng, Xiao Sushi "worked hard to be strong and had the ambition to live in the world", and since then he has established his ambition to serve the country and is ready to fight for it all his life. Of course, Mr. Cheng is not satisfied with the education of book knowledge, but grasps everything in life that is beneficial to children's education and sets an example with his words and deeds to achieve a subtle educational effect.
Su Shi recorded in the article "Remember the First Lady Can't Idle Birds" that when I was young, there were many bamboos and cypresses in my study and yard, and all kinds of flowers filled the yard. Beautiful phoenix birds with tung flowers gather in twos and threes on tung trees, living in harmony with their owners, and their nests are very low and easy to get. The neighbors were surprised when they saw it. One day, a flower cat at home caught a beautiful phoenix, and the poor bird struggled desperately under the cat's paw and made a piercing cry. Although under the rescue of the Su Shi brothers, the bird was not spared. Su Shi was at a loss with a bloody bird in his hand. Some friends clamored for baking. At this time, Mrs. Cheng came, asked about the situation and taught them to be kind and generous. Su Shi will never forget this matter.
Mrs. Cheng's "benevolence" deeply influenced Su Shi's brothers and made them develop kindness from an early age. They respect the elderly, love their brothers and treat others well. Su Shi brothers have always been people-oriented in their careers for decades. Whether their official career is smooth or they are relegated to disaster, they do their best to benefit the people and do good things for them. Being a lady, Su Shi carried forward his good deeds of adopting abandoned babies and establishing an Anlefang.
Mrs. Cheng's education of the Su brothers can be said to be very successful. Her words and deeds are deeply imprinted on the Su brothers' minds, which have a subtle influence on their lives. Su Shi told two stories about not staying in Tibet in "Remember the First Lady", which can be seen.
The first thing happened in the former residence of Sujia in Shamanxing, Meishan City. At that time, the Su family was not rich and lived in a rented house in Shabi. One day, two maids were ironing silks and satins there. Suddenly, one of them screamed loudly. When Mrs. Cheng and her family heard the news, they saw her feet sinking into the underground soil, two or three feet deep. Everyone quickly found too many chefs to help her dig the soil under her feet and pull her up. At this time, I found an urn covered with ebony under a few feet of soil. Everyone said noisily that there might be property in the urn, and some people suggested taking it out. Mrs. Cheng said it was buried by our predecessors, and it doesn't belong to our Su family, so we can't take it away. She ordered people to fill the pit with earth and told everyone that no one was allowed to dig it.
The second thing happened in the official residence of Su Shi Fengxiang. One day in the middle of winter, it snowed heavily and it was white everywhere. Su Shi, who was enjoying the snow scene in the yard of his house, came across a piece of land one foot square under the old willow tree in the yard, without any snow. When the snow cleared up, a small earthen bag rose in that place. Su Shi thought at that time, is there any Dan medicine buried by the ancients here? Dig it out and have a look. He was about to ask the servant at home to do it when his wife Wang Fu quickly stopped him and said, "If my mother is still here, I won't let you find out." After listening to his wife's words, Su Shi remembered the past when his mother, Mrs. Cheng, stayed in the former residence of Shamuxing in Meishan, and suddenly woke up.
Su Shi not only praised the mother's excellent quality of honesty, but also revealed the far-reaching influence of her excellent quality on her children. It is precisely because of Mrs. Cheng's example of "being honest and clean" that Su Shi's brothers have always adhered to the integrity of being honest and clean in their decades of official career, never hiding evil and accepting evil, and gaining both fame and fortune; And when you are embarrassed, you can stick to poverty and stand on your own two feet. Mrs. Cheng's virtue was carried forward by Su Shi's foresight in dredging the West Lake and Wenchang Danzhou.
Of course, Mrs. Cheng's "examples" are far more than these! Under Mrs. Cheng's management, Sue's family gradually became rich. Mrs. Cheng felt that this was not a good thing-she was worried that wealth would make her children and grandchildren less enterprising. As a result, the person married the "lonely poor" among relatives, and she gave financial assistance; She gave alms to those villagers who were in trouble. Later, Sue's reserve was not enough for one year's expenses. It can be said that Mrs. Cheng's "model" of "integrity and honesty" has played a great spiritual role in shaping the Su brothers' integrity and official products.