Speaking of class reunion, it would be really sad if the last person we want to invite is the head teacher. You can't simply accuse children of "low quality" and don't know how to be grateful. I remember a superior leader said earnestly: if there is a problem with the teacher-student relationship, the teacher is more or less responsible. The essence of this problem may still lie in the management system, educational concept and teachers' working methods.

Monty's father is a horse trainer on a farm in the western United States. He grew up on a ranch and lived with Mercedes-Benz horses every day. At the age of three, he won the championship in the eight-year-old children's race. Living in a pasture, he was trained by his father from an early age-training horses. Father's way of training horses is "tying, tying, beating and hanging". Even the arrogant wild horses will be impressed after a month of cruel torture. But Monty thought it was inhuman. He wanted to train horses in a humane way. By carefully observing the horse's whereabouts and behavior, and observing the punishment method of the mare to the pony (pushing the pony out of the herd, letting the pony stand alone outside the herd, as if to reflect, and inviting the pony in later to communicate with the pony when the pony is particularly good), he proposed that there is no need to tame the horse by such inhuman means, and a "special way" can be used to make the horse obey people's will. It takes adults a month to train a horse, but Monty Jr. tamed it in one day. When he told his father cheerfully and showed it to his father, he was beaten by his father. Because the father can never accept that his son can change the horse training technique that he is proud of all his life, and he can't tolerate this challenge. Monty's insistence did not win his father's understanding. On the contrary, his father broke up with him and never got his father's forgiveness. But he proved to the world that "convincing" is better than "convincing", and this sentence should be applied to "animals".

Monty believes that any living thing has the need to "satisfy", but the world also has "principles" to adhere to. To correctly handle the relationship between the two, we must grasp the "degree" and get twice the result with half the effort. Because of his horse training method, many people have questioned him ―― that he trains horses in advance and then teaches others how to train them. Therefore, when Monty62 was 62 years old, he cooperated with British BBS TV station to record the process of taming wild horses for three days: first, he selected a wild horse from a herd of wild horses and asked his assistant to help him separate the selected horse from the herd. What we can see is the unruly wild horse, running wildly on the grassland. No one knows where this wild horse is going! Monty, 62, kept chasing wild horses for 24 hours, letting them run to their heart's content, venting his pain of being excluded from the group and his unwillingness to be used by others. In the first 24 hours, Monty's only action was to catch up, without any language; Later, it took nearly 24 hours to start close communication with horses. He kept talking with horses and affectionately called Mustang Boy. . It took nearly 24 hours to approach it slowly, put ropes and saddles on it step by step, and finally became a mount for people.

Education and horse training are interlinked. I have always believed that if students want to "believe in their way", they must "be close to their teachers", and I have always believed that this is the concept that every excellent class teacher agrees with. For young class teachers, I have always suggested that we must cultivate feelings with students, love students, and love students from the heart. Education without affection and love is absolutely a failure. We should follow the direction of students, pay attention to him, observe him, give students time and space to accept, and communicate in a way he can accept. Let him relax his guard and be willing to accept your request. This "willing" process is very important. Just like Monty's later application of all communication skills was based on his first day and night with the horse. And our teachers and parents sometimes just lack this patience. They just instill their ideas into their children with wishful thinking, regardless of whether they have established such a trust foundation that students are willing to listen to. I have seen it with my own eyes. A class teacher spoke on the stage, and the students bowed their heads and showed all kinds of disdainful expressions below. This is actually what I said: teachers and students are not on the same "channel", and students can't receive the signals sent by teachers at all.

Some class teachers may say that some "powerful" class teachers don't need any "love" and "communication" at all, so don't they bring the class well? In fact, these so-called "fierce" class teachers are basically the same as Monty's parents and grandparents in training horses. This method is coercion, barbarism and obedience. It uses violence to make many stubborn horses yield, and uses "fierceness" to make students afraid of finally giving in. They are equally successful, just like Monty. But the process of their horse training is completely different, because the ideas supporting their horse training methods are different. Obviously, Monty's horse trainer is based on respect for horses, and his love for horses has changed the brutality of horse training inherited from the past.

In the process of our education, love is undoubtedly the rain and dew that irrigates flowers. Inspired by our love, many students have learned to be kind, grateful and enterprising. However, it is undeniable that there are still many compulsions in our education work, and we also emphasize that students should obey, and we still lack the perspective of students to look at and think about problems. I have heard of such an example. A student admitted to Tsinghua was invited by the head teacher to go back to his alma mater to tell his younger brothers and sisters about learning methods. He immediately asked, I'll go back and talk about it. How much does the school give me? It makes me feel cold. I have even heard of such a thing. For classes with high enrollment rate, there is an unwritten rule for the party after graduation, that is, you can't invite a class teacher. As long as the head teacher goes, most students will not go. I don't know what the class teacher will think, and whether he will think that his education is successful. As a teacher, when it comes to this, I think it is not a failure, but a bit bleak. Education, love alone is not enough, but without love, I am afraid it is not enough.

Horse training is an art, just like education is an art. From the process of horse training by Monty, we may be inspired to know how to communicate with students artistically, thus subtly influencing them and making them truly capitalized "people".

(Wen Qingdao Laixi Li)