But for this marriage, the world also has many criticisms, because Xu Guangping is not the original match of Lu Xun. Before that, Mr. Lu Xun had a wife named Zhu An.
Sadly, although Zhu An was Mr. Lu Xun's original match, she hardly enjoyed any rights as a wife, and became a victim of such undue "feelings", so that when Lu Xun died on 1936, Zhu An issued a famous complaint, and she herself lived alone for this misplaced "marriage" for 4 1 year.
The Zhou family in Shaoxing used to be a big family, and Lu Xun was a descendant of the Zhou family. His grandfather was a scholar in high school and worked as a county magistrate, which can be said to be a glorious lintel, and laid a stable and rich young master life for Lu Xun when he was a child.
Although Lu Xun's grandfather was later implicated in the fraud case in the imperial examination hall and was appointed as a "suspended death sentence" by Emperor Guangxu, it meant that the Zhou family began to decline, but after all, the ancestors were also rich.
Born in 1878, Shaoxing girl Zhu An is three years older than Lu Xun. Zhujiajian is also a family after being an official. Her ancestors also had some local officials such as county magistrate. After all, her family is well-off, her family is also doing business, and her life is very rich.
Zhu An, who grew up in such an environment, was very traditional since childhood and was greatly influenced by her family. She followed the rules and learned some necessary skills of feudal virtuous women, such as needlework, embroidery and cooking.
As Lu Xun grew up day by day, Mrs. Lu began to care about her son's marriage. After all, it is normal for her to get married as a teenager. On the other hand, Zhujiajian Island is also worried about her baby daughter's marriage future. In Zhujiajian Island's view, a good husband married by a woman is a good future.
When Zhu An was four or five years old, China, which was still under the rule of the Qing Dynasty, was still traditionally closed. Young Zhu An was forced to bind her feet by her family, and like all women in feudal society, she began the painful road of three inches of golden lotus. However, Zhu An, who has been edified since childhood, doesn't have much doubt about this. She just endured the pain and tears, but accepted this fate.
Maybe from Zhu An's foot binding, she and Lu Xun were destined to be different people in the world. In the late Qing Dynasty, the society was restless, and everyone was thinking about change. The whole society is also in a state of anxiety, and all kinds of advanced ideas and people seeking change are constantly impacting the fragile feudal rule.
190 1 year, Lu Xun, who is in his twenties but still studying, was secretly married to Zhu's parents by his mother and decided to get married. In the feudal era of "parents' orders, matchmakers' words", even Lu Xun could not completely go against his mother's will, otherwise he would be unfilial, not to mention that Lu Xun was only a young man in his early twenties and still ignorant.
However, people who originally belonged to two worlds, even if they are forcibly pulled together, it is difficult to have a good result in the end. Although Lu Xun could not resist his mother's arrangement, he could handle it with cold violence. In Lu Xun's view, such a marriage is simply a grave without emotional foundation. The two hardly met and talked about communication.
"A happy marriage requires not only the exchange of feelings, but also the exchange of ideas. If you keep your thoughts in your heart, you will push your wife out of your life. " In Lu Xun's view, no combination of feelings and thoughts is empty and soulless.
As Lu Xun was qualified to study in Japan in the year of his engagement and won a scholarship, Mrs. Lu had to put her son's studies and future first, and postponed the wedding that should have been completed in 190 1 year. Mr. Lu Xun once made two requests to his mother, asking him to settle down Zhu and go to a new school.
This is actually Lu Xun's redemption of this inexplicable marriage. If Juan can really learn, maybe they will have a common topic and cultivate some feelings.
However, Zhu An stuck to the tradition and remained indifferent in the end. For Lu Xun, such a Miss Zhujiajian is by no means a good match.
1906, Lu Xun was cheated back to China by his mother on the grounds of illness, and finally completed the wedding ceremony when he returned home. Perhaps in order to fulfill his mother's last wish, or perhaps in order to be filial so as not to make the old man feel cold, Lu Xun finally succumbed to this collocation and married Zhu An.
But Lu Xun moved to the study to sleep on the second day of his marriage, and left home for Japan on the third day. This decisive approach made Zhu An feel like a blow to the head and became the laughing stock of others.
It is conceivable that Lu Xun completed this marriage with what kind of complaints and anger. But in the face of his mother's tough cooperation, this is the biggest concession he can make. Since then, Zhu An and Lu Xun have hardly lived a normal life together, let alone gave birth to a daughter and a half for him.
Three years later, Lu Xun returned to China again, but in the face of Zhu An, who was already his wife, Lu Xun was as cold as ice, with little affection or change. Although Lu Xun treated him badly, Zhu An was perhaps too deeply educated by tradition. He firmly believes that "marry a chicken with a chicken." Now that he is married to the Zhou family, he will be a Zhou family member all his life.
On Lu Xun's mother's birthday, Juan once dressed up, plopped down on his knees, and his eyes were particularly firm, claiming that he belonged to the Zhou family, and the ghost of the Zhou family died. She will do her duty as a daughter-in-law and serve the old lady Lu.
To some extent, maybe it was Mrs. Lu who killed Zhu An. Maybe she will be happier and more flesh-and-blood when she marries an equally traditional husband. Lu Xun once said that he only took Zhu An as a gift from his mother, but after he got married, he returned the gift to his mother.
In fact, Zhu An and her mother-in-law Lu Rui spend most of their time together. But for Lu Xun and Juan, such a marriage is a kind of torment and pain, which is meaningless.
This kind of marriage tragedy makes people deeply moved. However, after Zhu An worried about this for most of his life, after Lu Xun's death, he made a famous complaint that made people feel infinitely sad.
1936, Mr. Lu Xun died unfortunately. After Lu Xun's death, Zhou's life plummeted. In order to improve the life of poverty, Zhu An once wanted to sell Lu Xun's works.
Many people in the cultural circles who heard the news tried to dissuade Zhu An. However, when people asked for the protection of Lu Xun's relics, Zhu An could no longer control his emotions. She poured out her grievances, resentment and dissatisfaction for many years.
Juan said, "You always said that Lu Xun's relics should be preserved. I am also a relic of Lu Xun, and you have to save me. " . This situation can not help but make people cry and feel sad. Zhu An waited for Lu Xun all his life, but finally he couldn't wait for his "change of heart". But can only watch Lu Xun and his younger sister Xu Guangping get married and have children.
This kind of frustration is too cruel even for a traditional feudal woman. However, she can only sigh helplessly. In the end, Zhu An kept Lu Xun's works, which shows his kind nature.
"fenglingdu first met Yang Guo and missed the happiness of his life." For Juan, although Mr. Lu Xun is not a romantic and natural Yang Guo, has she missed her lifelong happiness for such a person who doesn't love herself? Sometimes, maybe people have to think more to get out of the dead end of fate.
We can't judge the right or wrong of this marriage by morality, it is a special product of that era. However, although Zhu An's tragedy has the factors of the times, it also has the reasons of being too persistent. If we can be more open-minded emotionally and look farther, we may have a different life.
In today's new era, I only hope that all female friends will keep their eyes open and not blindly fall into the quagmire of love and finally miss the happiness of their lives.