"This kind of marriage, this kind of life, I would rather not, save trouble." Every time I comfort myself like this, I really sweat for their later days.
My friend Xiao Lu is a tall, thin girl in Shandong, shy and gentle, and occasionally a little naughty, especially for the older members of the opposite sex. QQ is popular when reading, and Deer also has several male net friends to chat with. Although they have never really met, they pour out their hearts through words every day, much like Platonic love, which is quite suitable for that young and ignorant age.
After graduation, Xiao Lu went to Shanghai to work as a secretary, where she met Lao Zhao. Lao Zhao is older than Lu 12 years old. He is the owner of a small home improvement design company and has a fiancee who has been in contact for many years. The reason why it is called fiancee is because Lao Zhao is really engaged to someone else's girl, but he has been slow to get a certificate and there is no sign of the wedding. In Lao Zhao's own words, "I feel that I haven't had enough fun, and I'm not sure if this person wants to spend the rest of my life together."
Lao Zhao and Xiao Lu didn't like each other at first, but because of frequent contact at work. Later, when the landlord in Xiao Lu wanted to raise prices, Lao Zhao often dealt with real estate agents. By the way, he helped Xiao Lu find a cheap "new home" near the subway station. After a while, they naturally became closer. Whenever Lao Zhao is free, he drives a deer through the streets and alleys of Shanghai. On weekends, he will accompany the deer to visit IKEA. This walk made the deer worship Lao Zhao, just like a young couple who are old and have fewer wives, buying new things for their home.
As Lao Zhao, he is naturally happy. As a man, even holding a little girl who has no substantive relationship will attract a lot of envious eyes on her face, so the deer has been mixed with Lao Zhao in those years in Shanghai. But with the growth of age, the deer's parents are unhappy. Girls will get married after all. Being with such a man all day has no result, and it will only delay girls in the end.
Deer finally decided to completely sever the relationship with Lao Zhao, went back to their hometown to work from nine to five in the unit arranged by their parents, and went on blind dates on weekends and holidays, and really embarked on the ranks of women to be married.
Tamia Liu is the current husband of the deer. They met on a blind date through a friend's introduction. At the beginning, Tamia Liu's appearance didn't make the deer have any affection for him, but women are hearing animals, and they will soon be moved by saying some sweet words. Tamia Liu is a civil servant. After his parents retired, he ran a fishing gear shop. When Tamia Liu's mother first saw this deer, she was full of praise. Obviously, she likes her future daughter-in-law, and the deer's parents are obviously satisfied with such a family. So they soon reached the stage of talking about marriage.
As soon as Liu Tao got the key to the new house, he took the deer to see it. Although it was still a blank of cement at that time, after Tamia Liu's rhetoric and description, the deer seemed to see the future life and was full of expectations for the upcoming marriage life. The house was decorated by Tamia Liu's parents. Just when everything was finished, Tamia Liu's parents moved into the new house.
It turns out that Tamia Liu let his parents live in. He said to the deer, "It is not easy for my parents to live in a new house all their lives. Let them live in the old house before we get married. This is filial piety. " Even if there are 10 thousand unhappy deer and their parents, it will not help. In Tamia Liu's mind, this is what children should do. The deer couldn't stand all kinds of "well-meaning" of Tamia Liu, and finally got married in the great dissatisfaction of her parents.
Marriage pays attention to reciprocity. If you give in at the beginning, you are doomed to be passive all your life. Deer are a typical example. After marriage, she gradually discovered that Tamia Liu was a typical "mother-in-law". Although I don't live in a new house, it's good not to live with my in-laws, and there are fewer contradictions. But Tamia Liu soon offered to move in with her parents. Since then, all life has changed. I pay my mother every month, and I have to buy gifts for my mother from time to time. All kinds of concerns and surprises about the deer before marriage disappeared after marriage, and even the deer's birthday was not expressed at all. On weekdays, Tamia Liu never goes home, so he never eats dinner, let alone the food on the table. All these are Tamia Liu's favorites. Even if he goes to the supermarket to buy it, the deer will have to pay. As long as the deer objected, Tamia Liu would kidnap her morally with "unfilial". The most terrible thing is that Tamia Liu didn't feel anything wrong. The deer felt that it was going to collapse several times.
The most uncomfortable thing for the deer is that her parents are very dissatisfied with Tamia Liu because of the new house, but she refuses to listen and insists on getting married. Now that life has become like this, she doesn't know how to tell her parents.
Occasionally, the deer will think of Lao Zhao. If he hadn't left Shanghai, if he had followed Lao Zhao wholeheartedly, I wonder if he would have lived another life? Will Lao Zhao suddenly change his face like Tamia Liu after marriage? If so, what kind of man can be entrusted for life?
A man may be obedient to you before marriage, and his parents may feel sorry for you, but often when it comes to talking about marriage or getting a license, he will turn his face and embarrass you and your family. At this time, many girls will choose to compromise or endure a period of calm. In fact, this will only push yourself to a bigger abyss.
Life is your own, and marriage is your own. Since you want to live, don't force it. Everyone has only one life, and there are not so many opportunities.
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