After giving birth to a 30+ baby, my friend Juan Lin finally reached the point where the baby was a little older. She wanted to find a job closer to home, and submitted several resumes, all of which sank into the sea.
Finally, when someone replies, call immediately. As a result, as long as they are post-90 s people, they all say that the team is young and needs fresh senses and aesthetics. She instantly felt the middle-aged crisis and the deep malice of middle-aged treasure mothers in society.
I feel that in this era, it is really difficult for women to weigh between career and family.
However, not only older mothers have had this experience, but even post-90 s mothers may have this experience, because they think you have derailed from this society.
Employers are most afraid of female employees getting pregnant and having children. If you go home for labor, maternity leave and breastfeeding, it is conservatively estimated that you will not be able to go to work normally for one year. How about this position? It's not worthwhile to recruit again.
Therefore, the law should stipulate that men must take maternity leave with women so that women can be treated equally.
Don't let women feel that they have no financial resources, feel inferior, reach for money and be careful.
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The famous movie star Chen Yao once said: "This era needs many women. If you choose to be a professional woman, some people will say that you are a bad mother who doesn't care about your family. If you choose to be a full-time mother, some people say that giving birth is a woman's bounden duty. This is not a career. "
Sebrina speaks the mind of every housewife. Personally, I think that as long as some people love and respect women, it will also drive most people to love and respect women.
Women should have their own careers. Whether to be a stay-at-home mother or not is actually a lifestyle they choose. If you feel that being a stay-at-home mom is isolated from the world, asking for money from your husband, failing to develop your career and setting a good example for your children, it only means that you are not suitable for being a stay-at-home mom.
Going out to work, social diversification, everything has two sides. In this era of developed Internet, many opportunities have also been given to women. Women are born friendly and social experts, so they should get in touch with the society and look at it from another angle.
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Not going to work does not mean being out of touch with society. As long as you want to make progress, you can study hard in any environment. Anxiety itself is not being a full-time mother, but being forced to be a full-time mother.
If you feel anxious, it's time to recharge your batteries.
To be strong, a woman must first open her social circle, not just around her family. Women should be independent and have their own ideas.
Life is more than nurturing and self-maintenance. Life needs goals, pursuits and self-improvement. Only when the heart is not rich enough will you feel lonely.
Learning and reading are things that quickly change people's destiny. Even a stay-at-home mother is a well-educated and educated housewife, and no one looks down on you.
Learning is something that runs through our life. Only by continuous learning and thinking can we become stronger and get rid of the fate of conformity.
All the sense of security is earned by women themselves, as long as they maintain a certain status and value.