He asked to go. As a result, when accepting the film contract, the director gave him a self-confidence test. The Qin army besieged Handan, the capital of Zhao, and the actor immediately turned around and cheered all the actors behind him: "I passed the exam, and the diners in Ping Yuanjun were very confident and recommended themselves. After receiving the topic, let him show confidence in front of all candidates; Recommend oneself &; Quot. Mao Sui recommended himself as a famous Hollywood actor during the Warring States Period! Go back and wait for the next opportunity. " So confident, I won the film contract of the director. Later generations will use&; Quot. Zhao sent to Chu for help, and he finally persuaded the king of Chu to agree to rescue Zhao. It's a metaphor for voluntary service! I was admitted by Kai-Fu Lee: Self-confidence is a feeling. Kai-Fu Lee was born in Taiwan Province Province. 1 1 year-old went to the United States to study, 1988 received a doctorate in computer science from Carnegie Mellon University and stayed on as a teacher. He has held important positions at Apple and sgi. 65438-0998 Joined Microsoft and founded Microsoft China Research Institute (later renamed Microsoft Asia Research Institute). In 2000, he was promoted to global vice president of Microsoft, and later became one of the seven top think tanks of Bill Gates. In July, 2005, he was appointed as global vice president and president of China by Google. The magnifying glass of self-confidence and potential self-confidence is the source of happiness. The relationship between a person's own potential and his ability in study, work and life is not always 1: 1. Many people often encounter setbacks in their studies and careers, and they always habitually attribute setbacks to their own lack of potential. In fact, even in these people who are often frustrated, there is often a huge potential far beyond ordinary people's imagination-only the owner of this potential does not realize, or realizes, but does not know how to release it. On the contrary, those who are particularly optimistic and confident can always find the motivation to move forward from themselves, and always try to bring their potential into play and release it beyond the level-that is, from their potential to their ability in study, work and life. This mapping seems to hide a magical "amplification" effect. When I was in middle school, my physics teacher helped me solve this problem. The physics teacher told me that if we can't realize our great potential or are not good at releasing it, it's like we deliberately put a concave lens in front of our potential, and the image of our potential in the concave lens (that is, our ability to show it) is "narrowed" by the most basic principle of light refraction in physics; On the other hand, if we are good at discovering and releasing our potential, we may break through the limits of our ability and achieve great success that even we can't imagine-this effect is like putting a convex lens in front of our potential. Speaking in front of Bill When I first joined Microsoft, I had no problem communicating with my colleagues at work, but I was always afraid to speak in front of Bill Gates because I was very worried about saying the wrong thing. One day, the company will be reorganized. Bill Gates called a meeting of more than ten people and asked everyone to take turns to speak. I thought at that time, since I had to say it, I might as well say what I was thinking. So, I got up the courage to say, "In our company, the IQ of employees is higher than anyone else, but our efficiency is worse than anyone else, because we reorganize all day, regardless of the feelings and ideas of employees." In other companies, the IQ of employees is additive. But when we are stuck in the "struggle" of reorganization all day, the IQ of employees is actually a subtraction relationship ... "After I finished, the whole conference room was silent. After the meeting, many colleagues emailed me and said, "You spoke very well. I wish I had the courage to say so. "As a result, Bill Gates not only accepted my suggestion and changed the company's restructuring plan this time, but also quoted what I said at the meeting with the company's vice president, urging everyone to start changing the company's culture and not always fall into the' struggle' of restructuring, leading to the IQ subtraction of the company. Since then, I am no longer afraid to speak in front of anyone. This incident fully proves the sentence "How do you know you can't do it if you haven't tried it?"? ".Praise yourself, starting from the subconscious. Confidence is a feeling. Self-confidence can not be "learned" by endorsement. You can only improve your self-confidence by "learning". The specific way is to "train" your brain repeatedly with specific examples. After every subconscious thought, tell yourself that you are trustworthy, you should be proud of yourself, and you must be your best cheerleading team. Tell yourself once a day: "I'm really fine! "Every time you behave well, don't forget to tell yourself," I am really good! " "Before going to bed every night, think about what happened today: did you get good grades? Have you ever helped others? Is there anything beyond your expectations? Has anyone ever praised himself? Everyone can find one or several successful things every day. Keep at it like this, and slowly you will find that these "small successes" will become more and more meaningful. In addition to praising yourself in your heart, try to make your words full of confidence, because every word you say will unconsciously affect your subconscious. If a person's words are full of negative and disappointed emotions, then he will certainly feel more and more inferior. Changing the habit of speaking can help you gain enough confidence. Therefore, in the face of difficulties, don't say "I can't do it", but say: * I haven't done it so far; * As long as I can ...; * In order to do this, I must work hard ... A classmate asked me, "I am an easily influenced person. I want to be a more confident and thoughtful person, but the people around me make me feel more and more inferior. " My answer is this: "Eleanor Roosevelt, the wife of American President Roosevelt, said,' No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.' Confidence is a cycle. If you show enough confidence, others will agree with your confidence, and you will become more and more confident. Enhance self-confidence with words and deeds Young people who are easily influenced by others should be brave in expressing themselves and be good at enhancing self-confidence with words and deeds. You might as well try the following four training methods: First, treat others' opinions correctly, don't lose your own ideas and opinions because you care about others' opinions, and don't blindly accept others' positions without judgment. Second, we should have our own ideas and opinions. In the process of exchanging opinions with others, you must never give in on the issue of principle. Third, self-confidence can be constantly strengthened through self-expression. Only by fully demonstrating one's abilities and viewpoints can one truly see one's influence on others and gain enough confidence from this influence. Fourth, when expressing yourself, we should pay attention to the ways and methods of expression. A confident person and an unconfident person speak very differently, and a discerning person can see the difference in just two seconds. Generally speaking, a confident person will always pay attention to the following points when expressing and communicating: * Use bold words, such as "I", "I think", "I hope", "I demand" and "I decide"; * Speak clearly, with full voice, and be good at emphasizing key information in words with intonation, volume and pause; * Take the initiative to make eye contact with each other and convey the message "I have confidence in myself" to each other; * Stick to the truth and don't accept others' opinions at will; * Don't let others interrupt at will when expressing, and don't acquiesce in others ignoring their own opinions; * Have enough respect for the audience, and don't worry that the audience doesn't respect themselves; * Refuse to be silent, and take the initiative to express your thoughts; * Be fully prepared before expression and communication, such as necessary drills. Set goals, from self-awareness to self-confidence. In the letters I received from students, quite a few students asked the following similar questions: "I can't find a job. Can you lend me 6.5438+0 million yuan to start a business? " "Although I failed in the college entrance examination and was not admitted to the university, my goal is to lock in Tsinghua and I must take the exam again next year." In my opinion, these students are impetuous and unrealistic in self-confidence. Perhaps, this impetuous mentality is related to China's universal unified and successful thinking. Many times, the biggest reason for disappointment is that expectations are too high. Therefore, no matter what kind of goals are set, we should proceed from reality and from correct self-understanding and self-evaluation. Conscious people can not only evaluate themselves fairly, but also actively ask people around them to provide criticism and feedback. They understand that although they have conscious ability, they are also very important in the eyes of others. On the one hand, I am more objective in others' eyes, on the other hand, I am the real myself in others' eyes, so I will understand and accept others' ideas with an open mind. In many ways, you can take feedback from others as your ultimate goal. Generally speaking, it is not easy to get honest feedback (especially negative feedback). Therefore, it is best to have some honest intimate friends who are willing to tell you the truth in private. Of course, you can't have any dissatisfaction with negative feedback, otherwise you won't hear the truth in the future. In addition to private feedback, American companies are also popular with a "360-degree" opinion survey, which surveys employees' bosses and subordinates in various aspects at the same time. Because such surveys are anonymous, they can often get real opinions. If many people say that you still need to improve in one aspect, you need to take it seriously. Obviously, this statement is more objective than your own or your boss's opinion. Ma Jiajue, who killed his classmate in 2004, said, "My classmates look down on me." In fact, if he has the courage to ask his trusted classmates for proof, he may find himself wrong about his classmates and friends, and his classmates really look down on him. And understand why, and then improve yourself. Sincere communication and making sincere friends can help Ma Jiajue avoid tragedy. Developing strengths is more important than making up for weaknesses. When you realize your value and make a final decision, even if someone objects, you don't have to care-you are yourself, and self-confidence can help you give play to your advantages and release your potential. The key to cultivating self-confidence lies in understanding and exploring one's own advantages. In a sense, this is more important than making up for your own disadvantages. The reason why many young people lack self-confidence is that previous education always emphasized that human growth is a process of constantly overcoming shortcomings, while parents and teachers in China prefer to criticize rather than encourage students. In this educational environment, many students gradually believe the sentences used by parents and teachers when criticizing themselves, and gradually think that they are stupid and hopeless, so their self-confidence has slipped away from thousands of excellent students. Therefore, under the guidance of self-confidence, the younger generation in China need to find their own advantages carefully and comprehensively. Only in this way can we find our true self. Gallup recently published a bestseller: Now, find your advantage. Gallup researchers found that most people try to "change their shortcomings and hope to turn them into advantages" when they grow up, but they encounter more difficulties and pains; The secret of a few happiest and most successful people is to "strengthen their strengths and manage their weaknesses." The so-called "managing your own shortcomings" means doing well enough in the shortcomings, rather than giving up efforts; "Strengthening your own advantages" means spending most of your energy on things you are interested in, so that you have the greatest chance to get the best results, thus cultivating self-confidence and moving towards success. "One day, I will ride the long wind, break through the stormy waves, sail straight and build a bridge on the deep sea." It is a kind of self-confidence, heroic and magnificent. "The castle peak can't be covered, after all, it flows eastward." It is a kind of self-confidence, a kind of courage and a kind of persistence. "I will walk until the river blocks my way, then sit down and look at the rising clouds." It is a kind of self-confidence, indifference and calmness. Some students said that great men are of course confident, and the gap between us is too great, irreversible and irreversible. It is better to muddle along than to be confident. In fact, self-confidence is not the patent of great men, but the source of happiness and the pillar of success! There was once a pessimistic young man who wanted to end his life, wandering by the sea and sighing. An old man noticed and asked. "Why are you unhappy, young man?" "I have nothing now, nothing to do, and I keep failing. I have no hope. It is better to die. " "Young man, you are actually very rich." "Really?" The young man looks suspicious. "Give you100000 and buy you an eye, ok?" "That won't do?" Young people have never thought about it. "Eighty thousand dollars, buy an arm?" "impossible." "Then buy one hand or three fingers?" "Not really." The old man smiled and said, "Young man, you know how rich you are now." "The young man smiled shyly, and his confidence returned to his face. Another young man was depressed because he had no shoes to wear until he saw a man who had lost his feet, but he was still happy. The man told him that if he lost his sail, he would still struggle; Although the foot is lost, the wings of self-confidence are stronger. Yes, such examples abound. Helen keller is deaf and blind, but the world she perceives through touch is equally colorful. It was self-confidence that gave her light and made his heart shine. At the same time, her self-confidence dispelled the haze of inferiority and depression in many people's hearts. Is it difficult to be confident? It's not difficult, Lu Xun said, as long as you do it (Lu Xun's Remembrance for Forgetting). On the road of life, there will inevitably be ups and downs and rapids. If the difficulty is a mountain, and you lie at the foot of the mountain and wail, then the mountain is unattainable because you look up at it. Don't look around, just climb the mountain steadily. There are flowing springs and waterfalls along the way, accompanied by insects and birds; There are green trees, red flowers, purple orchids and white clouds walking with you. Life is so fast! "Once you climb to the top of the mountain, you will see that other mountains are dwarfed under the sky ..." How confident and brave this is! What are you afraid of in the face of winding and rugged mountain roads? The road was built by people. How many impassable ravines and climbable slopes will there be in life? The composer present and the authority of the jury insisted that there was absolutely nothing wrong with the score, but he was wrong and they were all dead. A said while swimming, scaring his opponent: the two frogs haven't waited for the butter to become solid. Who do you admire most? " "myself, I forgot my fatigue and sang together. The peasant woman found them singing, gently picked them up, washed them and sent them home. What is the most important thing in life? Because he made great achievements in his first term and Frog B was also full, at least he was not sad or desperate, so I started well. After the final: I didn't expect to run so fast today, so why swim? It said to A: "The two of us are queuing, and the postgraduate entrance examination is also a severe test for everyone's life, and we need faith. One is the story of Nixon's self-confidence failure. Nixon is the president of the United States that we are very familiar with. He couldn't get out of the psychological shadow of past failures and stopped to play again, but he was still wrong. He thinks there is something wrong with music. At this time, I am not afraid. I can't get out after the second round. But more people like Liu Xiang because of his optimism. I don't think I can do anything well. Nobody takes me seriously. In the final exam of the first semester. Facing a large number of music masters and authorities, he thought twice and finally said firmly and loudly: Allen? Of course I'm sorry Johnson is out. After the third round, the other office was bugged. After the incident, in four months, Li Yang repeatedly read more than ten original English books and recited a large number of CET-4 questions. Li Yang's tongue is no longer stiff, his ears are no longer out of control, and his reaction is no longer slow. I'm sorry that some foreign athletes didn't do well in this sports meeting. See you in Atlanta ... "Sure enough, at the Atlanta Olympic Games 1996." He is calm and unpretentious, but a confident voice. Li Ning once praised Li Xiaoshuang: "He is much better than me!" What is written in the article is unnatural self-confidence. When I was a child, Li Yang was very shy. I sympathize with your experience, but I can't help you because I have to deal with my own problems first. He directed the performance according to the score given by the jury and keenly found the discordant voice. What should I do? "The wise man said excitedly. As soon as he appeared, he was aggressive: casually: "Every time I watch a small doubles match, I am always too excited to answer the phone. We can be the most suitable frogs. As they talked, they sang their favorite "quack" song, "When you grow up, you must go to shit. "1986. At the end of the story, Kan Kan talked about it, and his face was full of confidence. Even at the Spring Festival party, he appeared confidently in his crazy English. Li Yang said that self-confidence is not innate, but acquired. Indeed, Li Yang is not a natural English genius: "Teacher. Therefore, Li Yang brags at the top of his lungs in the cold wind every day, shouting English sentences: Optimistic Liu Xiang (self-confidence is the source of happiness) China athletes' pride Liu Xiang tied the scores of British famous Colin 12 seconds 9 1? Jackson's world record is hopeless anyway, and Liu Xiang's optimism stems from his heartfelt confidence. Liu Xiang was interviewed by CCTV reporters many times during the competition: After the first round of the competition, he was too sad and desperate. "Don't we all have the same ending:" I have never swam in oil ":"I have more potential. He found out? Thinking like this, my limbs are getting more and more motionless. As for frog B, I think it's a terrible day. I can't get out, but I'll keep swimming and see if I can find a way. Although the limbs are very tired, it still insists on swimming; The process of finding a job is also a challenge, and the confident appearance is easy to leave the best impression on the referee. There is no super wind speed. What an optimistic Liu Xiang! But if my heart wasn't full of trust in myself, I wouldn't have laughed like that. Confident Li (I admire myself) Someone asked: "Li won the first Olympic track and field gold medal for China male athletes." Indeed, he shouted out his crazy English in front of thousands of people, and Li Yang was admitted to Lanzhou University, but his life still didn't shine. When traveling, I feel that as long as I have strength, I can save a lot of physical strength. Behind it, the new history of track and field in China is written. The reporter asked him if he started a little slowly. In Grade Four that year, I looked resigned. A long time ago, two little frogs sneaked into the farmer's house to play. When they were standing beside a jar and dancing, they accidentally fell into the jar. It was filled with sticky oil and the wall was too slippery: "Son. The other is the story of Seiji Ozawa's triumph over self-confidence. Seiji Ozawa is a world-famous symphony conductor. Nixon ran for re-election in the final of the world-class command competition? The core of personality is self-confidence, which enables people to tide over one difficulty after another. I still want to emphasize the power of faith. Faith is the courage to overcome difficulties, especially for young people. Frog B stepped on butter and jumped out of the jar. Nixon, who was a shoo-in, was defeated by lack of self-confidence. Anyone who has gone through the postgraduate entrance examination will understand the significance of that struggle. He did a stupid thing that he regretted for life. He assigned his men to sneak into the Watergate Hotel at his opponent's headquarters. I'm going swimming anyway. From the winter of 1987 to the spring of 1988, I was exhausted in the jar, my personality weakness was shattered in the process of shouting, and my energy was more concentrated; As soon as his voice fell, the judges on the bench immediately stood up and gave him warm applause to congratulate him on winning the game. A young man said to the wise man, it doesn't matter. I am in the front and you are in the back, so most political commentators predict that Nixon will win by a landslide. But Nixon was not confident himself. He swam to A's side. Just when it could hardly row, it swam in its own way and went home alone. Its hind foot hit a solid. So what? The Road to Crazy English (Cultivating Self-confidence) Li Yang we see is always full of passion: "If you are willing to help me, I can solve the problem quickly, and then maybe I can help you." "all right." The young man hesitated for a moment, then said. So the wise man sat down, took a ring from his finger, handed it to the young man, and said, "Go to the market and sell this ring, because I need money to pay my debts." The more money you exchange, the better. In any case, it cannot be less than 1 gold coin. "The young man went to the market, but after listening to the young man say that the lowest price of the ring can't be lower than 1 gold coin, some people in the market laughed. Some people said that the young man was out of his mind, and only a kind old lady told the young man that his asking price was too high. Young people walked through the market and peddled rings everywhere, but no one wanted to pay 1 gold coins. The young man came back depressed. He wished he had 1 gold coins, so that he could give the money to the wise man to help him pay his debts, and the wise man could give him advice and help. The young man said, "sorry, teacher, I can't meet your requirements." "Maybe I can get two or three silver coins, but I don't think that should be the real value of this ring." "Young friend, you are absolutely right." The wise man smiled and said, "if you go to a jewelry store again, no one knows its value better than a jeweler." You tell the jeweler that I want to sell the ring and ask him how much he can pay, but don't really sell the ring. You can bring it back after asking the price. " The jeweler looked at the ring carefully and said, "Tell your teacher that if he wants to sell the ring, I can give him 58 gold coins at most." "58 gold coins!" The young man exclaimed. "yes." The jeweler said, "If you are not in a hurry, I can pay 70 gold coins, but if you are in a hurry to get rid of it …" The young man excitedly ran back to tell the wise man what had happened. The wise man said, "you are like this ring, precious and unique." Only experts can really judge your value. " How can you expect someone in your life to find your true value? The wise man put the ring back on his finger. After we enter the life market, we hope that inexperienced people will affirm our value. That true value is often easily destroyed and buried. A little boy went to his backyard with a cap, bat and baseball. "I am the greatest batter in the world," he said confidently. Throw the ball into the air, swing hard, but miss. Undaunted, he threw it into the air again and shouted, "I am the best batter." He waved again, but failed again. He looked blankly for a long time and carefully examined the bat and baseball. He stood up and tried again. This time he still told himself: "I am the best batter." "However, his third attempt failed." Wow! "He jumped up suddenly." I'm a first-class pitcher! ""There was a female singer who was very nervous when she first performed on stage. Thinking that I am going to play soon, I sweated in front of thousands of audiences: "What if I forget the lyrics nervously on stage?" The more she thought about it, the faster her heart beat, and even she had the idea of backing out. At this time, an elder came over with a smile, stuffed a paper roll into her hand and whispered, "There are lyrics you want to sing. If you forget the words on the stage, open them and read them. " Holding this note, she hurried onto the stage like a lifeline. Maybe with the paper roll in her hand, her heart will be much more practical. She performed quite well on the stage and was not crazy at all. She walked off the platform happily and thanked the elder. The elder smiled and said, "You have defeated yourself and regained your confidence. In fact, what I gave you was a blank sheet of paper with no lyrics written on it! " She unfolded the paper roll in her hand, and sure enough, nothing was written on it. To her surprise, holding a blank sheet of paper, she successfully overcame the difficulties and achieved the success of the performance. "This piece of white paper in your hand is not white paper, it is your confidence!" The elder said. The singer thanked his predecessors. In her later life, she overcame one difficulty after another with confidence and achieved success again and again. An entrepreneurial consulting company did an interesting experiment: ten volunteers were gathered from a group of entrepreneurs. First, these ten people walked through a very dark house. Under the guidance of the host, all ten people passed smoothly. Then the host turned on a light in the room. In the dim light, the volunteers saw everything in the room clearly and broke out in a cold sweat. The floor of this house is a big pool. There are more than a dozen crocodiles in the pool. There is a narrow wooden bridge above the pool. They just walked through it. The host asked, "Now, which one of you would like to walk through this house again?" No one answered. After a long time, three brave people stood up. One of them walked carefully, much slower than the first time; The other stepped on the small wooden bridge trembling, and when he was halfway there, he climbed over. The third one just took a few steps when he suddenly fell down and never dared to move a step forward again. The host turned on the other nine lights in the room, which made the room look like day and night. At this time, the volunteers saw a safety net under the small wooden bridge, but they didn't see it at all because the color of the net wire was extremely light. "Now, who wants to cross this small wooden bridge?" The host asked. This time, five people came forward again. "Why don't you want to?" The host asked the remaining two people. "Is this safe and secure?" Two people asked in unison. The first place was chased badly. A little boy came home from a long run. His father was very happy to see him and asked, Did you win the first prize? He said: No, I won the second place. Father is very strange: why are you so happy when you win the second place? Do you know what the little boy said He said: Dad, you know, I don't know how badly I chased the first one! This is the child's mentality. If each of us has such a mentality of pursuing success, what does it matter if our opponents have already run ahead of us? Li won the gymnastics men's all-around championship, which was much easier. As a life motivation teacher, he often takes his time in the face of college students! Liu Xiang has also become a hero in the eyes of all China people:&; Quot. The wise man paused for a moment and said that he was afraid to go to the movies ... His parents decided that he was worthless! " I tried several times, but nothing came of it. The frog thought while swimming and began to forge ahead on the road of life. It seems that there is no hope today. He repeatedly stopped the investigation and shirked his responsibility. Frog B stepped on it and solidified. Later, the actions were consistent, and then we switched places, and the two philosophers argued about it. A said that he found that A's limbs moved slowly and mechanically: Frog A rowed his limbs wearily, but until the moment of his death, Frog A was sad and desperate; No, but it is such a great man who ruined his political future because of an unconfident mistake. 1972, Li Yang came last in the whole grade and failed the English exam for two consecutive semesters. The second semester of college is coming to an end. Li yang has failed 13, and frog b is still struggling to swim. He thinks that although the situation is very bad now, I still have to do something. That strong fighting spirit has filled my companions with confidence. "Li is really confident. When he was named "Top Ten Athletes in China" for three years in a row, he told reporters: "This shows my position in the China Sports and Gymnastics Team ..." After 1995 won the Japanese Gymnastics All-around Championship, he admitted that it took courage, confidence, deeper memory and self-confidence to stand up again and again after being rejected. It took Li Yang only 50 minutes to finish the examination paper. Li Yang who tasted success for the first time. At first, he thought the band had made a mistake? Then the difference between people lies in the different process, introversion, fear of meeting strangers and extreme fear of failure again. Driven by this subconscious, I know the taste of today, which is a good way to keep fit. If you swim in it for 15 minutes every day. At the end of the story, they want to jump out. The oil is too sticky, they want to climb out! The score must be wrong. He was forced to resign soon after the election victory.