This can't be simply summarized as omnipotent, treating everyone equally, just showing your ignorance:
Talk to people who don't understand you, your heart is very tired; Working with unreliable people is full of pits; To confide in a mean person will only lead to calculation.
Not everyone is trustworthy. Different people should be treated differently so as not to be hurt to pieces.
0 1 Talking to sensible people is enjoyment.
Ouyang Xiu said: "Friends only have a thousand glasses of wine, and lovers have more than half a sentence."
No one likes silence, but he doesn't meet a listener who understands him.
If you are like-minded, people who are usually taciturn will also become talkative and enjoy themselves.
The strength of people's desire for expression is not static, but varies from person to person.
Facing people who don't know themselves, not catering to them or forcing a smile is the greatest respect for themselves.
Many people sharpen their heads to understand, which is sad and pitiful.
It should be noted that in the face of people who don't know themselves, what they say will be misunderstood.
They like to take it out of context and get to the bottom of it, but they just don't want to put themselves in other's shoes.
And the more you argue, the more they think you are guilty; All explanations are a distraction in their eyes.
As the saying goes, "You know elegance by listening to string songs". People who know you only need to start a conversation, and the other person can pick it up, instead of finding fault with you everywhere and making a conversation boring.
Work with down-to-earth people and feel at ease.
Zhu Guangqian said: "I must take my own responsibility. Success is my success and failure is my failure. "
But in reality, there are so many people who put the aura of success on themselves and push the responsibility of failure outward.
Working with them, I don't know when my hard-earned achievements will disappear, leaving only a bunch of messy things for you to complete.
As the saying goes, "you are not afraid of opponents like gods, but you are afraid of teammates like pigs."
A stronger opponent can arouse your fighting spirit; When you meet an unreliable teammate, you can't prevent it. In the end, it was just a waste of time.
If you are a down-to-earth person, working with them can save half your heart and you don't have to be on tenterhooks all the time.
At any time, attitude and character are always more important than ability.
It doesn't matter if a person's ability is almost poor, but if he insists on principles and is responsible enough, he can still be trusted.
Otherwise, while being burned, it is also calculated by insiders, and it is a dead end anyway.
Talk to honest people and be honest.
"People are afraid of making friends, but they are afraid of giving it to the wrong person."
We are more afraid of giving our hearts to dogs and helping others with money when they are sold than paying too much.
Too many such people will make people become indifferent, in order to preserve our sanity.
But this is only because you choke on food. You can't shut down your kindness because you are afraid of being fooled.
The so-called "friendship is shallow, not deep", and I don't know too much. I can't wait to open my heart and be used by people with malicious intentions, but it is not worth the candle.
People with ulterior motives, even if you give your whole heart, the other person will not be moved and will help you behind your back.
And kind people are simple and kind, and would rather suffer than let people around them suffer.
When you meet such a person, let go of your heavy guard. Even if you put your heart in their hands, they will spare no effort to protect you.
04
Adler said, "All human troubles come from interpersonal relationships."
Without proper restrictions, people always reason with confused people, cooperate with unreliable people and make friends with despicable people.
Everything seems particularly hard, and nothing has been achieved. Perseverance is euphemistically called, but it is lacking in mind.
If you don't know how to know and read people and spend more energy on others, you will "go back to before liberation."
Author: Han Jiushu, this article was first published in the official account of WeChat Sinology Literature Journal (ID:GuoXuewenkan), so that culture can come into life and sinology can warm your heart.
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