First, understand and trust students. Students are living people with thoughts, feelings and personalities. On the surface, there seems to be little difference between students, but in fact, each student has his own unique and distinctive side. If teachers don't understand and trust students, it is impossible to have real love for them, let alone educate them in a targeted way. Teachers should not only understand students' past lives, but also understand the family life environment where students grew up and all kinds of people and things they often contact. We should not only understand the students' performance, but also their inner world, including their distress and sadness. Only by fully understanding and trusting students and educating them according to their characteristics can we receive good educational results and promote the full development of students' personality.
Second, be a tutor for students. With the growth of age, students tend to hide their troubles, worries and secrets, and are unwilling to tell their parents or teachers. Only when they encounter problems that they cannot explain and solve, will they find someone to tell, consult and give advice. Therefore, a good teacher should take the initiative to be intimate friends with students, listen to their voices and help them solve practical problems, including their inner worries and worries. In this way, teachers will understand students more comprehensively and deeply.
Case:
Zheng is a senior teacher at Chuiyangliu Central Primary School in Chaoyang District, Beijing. Since teaching 10 years ago, she has enriched the children's spiritual world with her wisdom, cared for children with love, guarded their childlike innocence with love, and appreciated the joy of teaching in their growth.
When I first joined the work, the education method was simple and rude. For naughty students, she will talk to them every day, but if not, she will "complain" to their parents ... Once, a naughty boy in the class didn't finish his homework, so she left him, watched him finish his homework and sent him home. When she met the student's father, she reflected his performance in school-not finishing his homework on time, making small moves in class, fighting with his classmates in class and so on. Zheng Da later recalled that when she said these words, she never realized the feelings of her parents and children. When she came out of the student's house, there were shouts and reprimands from her parents, followed by the cries of the students. I suddenly realized that my so-called "expression" of complacency was at the expense of hurting children's hearts. From then on, she began to reflect on herself, explore ways to enter the child's mind and enrich the child's spiritual world.
Zheng Da first approached the children emotionally, and she also showed great interest in what the children were interested in. She joined the children's favorite game and had fun like a child. Being so close to children, she not only realized the innocence and frankness of childlike innocence, but also gained insight into the "narrow-mindedness" of many children in the eyes of adults. Not only that, Zheng Da knows that every child's heart is a unique world, and we must choose a "one-on-one" approach in the development of children's inner career. So, she began to try to write "whispers" with the children to understand the secrets in their hearts. In addition, there are many ways for her children to "practice their hearts". For example, she designed an "emotional barometer" for children, asking them to reflect their feelings by painting "smiling face" or "crying face" every day. More importantly, she touched the children's hearts again and again with her true love. A student recalled Zheng, saying: Most of what Mr. Zheng said and said can't be remembered, but the gesture of touching his head affectionately in class every day made him unforgettable and extremely happy. Yes, the last thing left by education is not knowledge, but emotion. In addition to knowledge, what Zheng Da gave the children was more touching.
Life is full of heartfelt love for every student. Although some students have faults or even deviant behaviors, and although they may bring many unpleasant things to teachers, teachers should always love their students. Teachers' concern and love for students will produce lofty moral feelings of loving education; Zankov said: Children are very sensitive to the kindness given to them by their teachers, and they will repay their teachers' love with love. When students get the teacher's love, they will turn it into learning motivation, enhance their confidence and grow up healthily, so they will also love and respect the teacher and greatly improve their prestige.
Fourth, be kind to students. Teachers' love for students should be closely combined with strictness. Strict should be reasonable and moderate, and students should not be indulged, indulged or spoiled. In other words, teachers' requirements for students should conform to the Party's educational principles and policies, the reality of students, and the needs of the new generation in 2 1 century. It should be conducive to the healthy development of students' physical and mental health, learning progress and the formation of good behavior habits; It is something that students can achieve, accept and consciously implement through hard work.
One is to be rigorous and reasonable. The so-called strictness and reasonableness means that all the requirements put forward by teachers for students should conform to the party's educational policy, which is conducive to students' physical and mental health, academic progress and the formation of good behavior habits. Students are "strangers" who are growing up in all aspects, and there will inevitably be shortcomings and mistakes during their school days: some students are rude, don't respect teachers and don't listen to advice; Some students make noise and trouble among their classmates. For such students, teachers often hate iron not to produce. Some teachers can hold back their temper, stabilize their emotions and convince their students with wisdom and reason. However, some teachers sometimes punish students when their anger suddenly rises. This kind of situation and behavior seems to be strict with students, but in fact it is harmful to their physical and mental health. Teachers should resolutely put an end to this practice, otherwise it will violate teachers' ethics. Einstein once pointed out: "If the school bases its work on intimidation and artificial authority, it is the worst. Such an abnormal system will stifle students' healthy emotions and straightforward personality and dampen students' self-confidence. " True love for students should be reflected in strict and strict requirements for students, without harming their physiology and psychology, so that students can take it orally and accept it willingly.
The second is to be strict and moderate. This is to teach teachers to love students, and all kinds of requirements put forward for students are in line with their identity, age and characteristics. If they are too far away from the actual situation and demand too much, it is meaningless to be strict. Although they are about the same age and in the same classroom, due to various factors, students' ideological level, cognitive level, knowledge level and understanding ability will not be exactly the same. Therefore, strict requirements must prevent "one size fits all". Some requirements may be moderate for most students, difficult for underachievers, but low for good and excellent students. Therefore, in view of such problems, teachers should treat them differently and properly in order to receive good educational results.
The third is to be strict and strict. Aesop has a fable: the sun and the wind are arguing about who is better than who. The wind said, "Of course it's me. Look at the old man in a coat below. I can make him take off his coat faster than you. " While he was talking, the wind blew violently at the old man, hoping to blow his coat off. But the more the wind blows, the tighter the old man is wrapped. Tired by the wind, the sun came out from behind the clouds and shone warmly on the old man. Soon, the old man began to wipe his sweat and took off his coat. Therefore, the sun said to the wind, "gentleness and friendliness are always better than violence." Whether the teacher's strict requirements for students can achieve remarkable results depends on the method. It is condescending and domineering to ask students to do this and that, regardless of their psychological feelings. Even if students are listening and obeying on the surface, they will not be convinced in their hearts, and their psychological distance from teachers will become larger and larger, and even they will feel disgusted with teachers. Teachers should also be patient and persuasive in their strict demands on students and integrate education into teaching. Education involves various activities and contacts between teachers and students. Only with proper methods can strictness play a role in education and cultivate excellent students.
The fourth is Yan Yiheng. The so-called constancy means long-term persistence. Strict requirements for students, can not be absent from time to time, must maintain a certain stability. Since students are set a higher standard, they should stick to it and never relax. We should always supervise and check and implement the requirements until students develop good living habits and study style. Teachers are most afraid of being lax with their students. If they say something, they will stop the inspection and will not do anything. In the future, no matter how they ask, students will not pay attention to it, and the prestige of teachers will be damaged, and the educational effect will be greatly reduced.
The fifth is strict and meticulous. Feaster Locke, a famous Swiss educator, once said: "Every good education requires an accurate understanding of every change of children's inner emotions from their eyes, mouth and forehead movements at all times." "Essence" means not letting go of any problems that you can understand and perceive. In the complicated work, teachers should try to find time to listen, ask, watch and think more, understand students from life, study, thought, labor, work, activities, family and other aspects, care about students, be good at finding potential problems from details, guide and standardize them in time, prevent problems before they happen and avoid making big mistakes. "Good" is love.
If teachers want to cultivate students into useful talents needed by society, they must pour selfless love and sincere feelings. This kind of love and affection is care, consideration, help and strict requirements. This kind of love and affection is both profound and broad. The reason why loving mothers are selfless to their children is because they are related by blood. Teachers pay unselfish love and sincere feelings to students, and tender feelings like maternal love are higher and greater love, which strongly affects the younger generation and makes them realize life and move towards it.
Second, walk into students' hearts with respect.
Emerson said: The secret of successful education lies in respecting students. Respect and understanding must first be based on equality. Without equality, there is no respect and understanding. Compared with teachers, students are generally younger, and their knowledge level and life experience are definitely not as good as teachers. But as a teacher, we should know that students are equal to themselves in personality. In real school life, many teachers treat students unequally. No matter how students feel, right or wrong, students will scold, even satirize, attack and even punish them if they are unhappy. As a result, many students are afraid of teachers, stay away from teachers, have worries and worries, and tell their secrets to their classmates and partners, but never dare to tell them. This phenomenon is very common, which hinders the relationship between teachers and students, increases the difficulty of educational activities and weakens the effect and quality of education.
Teachers must treat students equally in educational activities. On the one hand, teachers should treat students as people with thoughts, feelings and knowledge of good and evil, be frank with each other, get to know friends and establish true feelings between teachers and students. On the other hand, teachers should treat every student equally, especially between top students and underachievers. They should never look up at those who study well and ignore those who study poorly. This will hurt some students' self-esteem, affect their mental health and growth, and adversely affect the whole educational activities.