Advantages and disadvantages of a husband:
Advantages: kind, brave, responsible, responsible, family-oriented, hard-working, considerate, original, patient, careful, filial to parents, caring for family and helpful.
Disadvantages: lack of self-confidence
Advantages and disadvantages of daughters:
Advantages: Kindness, courage, sense of responsibility, filial piety, hard work, ingenuity, patience, being able to take the overall situation into account, being careful and meticulous, having a strong sense of responsibility, striving for perfection, strong learning ability, financial management concept, strong control ability, strong observation ability, and good at planning and execution.
Disadvantages: lack of self-confidence, difficult choice, and the concept of time needs to be strengthened.
Advantages and disadvantages of sons:
Advantages: Kindness, courage, responsibility, filial piety, high emotional intelligence, strong observation and communication skills, comprehensive consideration of problems, strong sense of time, strong financial management concept, good communication with people, strong learning ability, helpful, good at planning and execution.
Disadvantages: lack of self-confidence and lack of practicality in learning.
? I always feel that there are many shortcomings in my family, but I wrote it down carefully and found myself staring at the shortcomings of my family, magnifying the shortcomings and ignoring more advantages; And many shortcomings will become his advantages because of the change of a mentality. I am stupid enough to constantly reinforce the shortcomings of my family. Fortunately, my family is not biased.
? My two sons and daughters grew up with grandparents in the early days. I didn't reply to them until 20 17. I have just returned to my hometown, and I need to adapt to working in my hometown. At the same time, I have to take care of the decoration of my house, and I have not been able to accompany my children with high quality. I remember once my daughter complained to me that after I went back to my hometown, it was not as good as when I was away from home, so I took it over in the summer vacation. When not at home, accompany her (him) to the summer camp, take them to the zoo and park, make handmade buns and make jiaozi, and raise goldfish and turtles together. At that time, I watched my daughter's little hands make those buns into the shapes of hedgehogs, turtles, pig heads, rabbits, butterflies and roses, and they were still lifelike after steaming. I always marvel that my daughter's hand is enchanted; It is a good memory to take (him) to participate in the activity of "Little Volunteers Send Cool to Sanitation Workers in Summer" and so on.
? But since I came back to be with them, it's really like my daughter said, just to accompany me to eat, sleep and send me to school. As my daughter grew up and entered junior high school, she began to have the consciousness of adolescent independence, but I still stayed at the stage of educating primary school children, making all plans for her life and study and ordering her to put them into action. To this end, my daughter, who has always been clever, tried to communicate with me from the beginning, but after I kept repeating it, she escalated to sometimes arguing with me. I didn't realize my problem at that time, but I had a headache, so I started to find fault and tried to get rid of her. I should have given appropriate guidance and encouragement after the flowers bloom, but I criticized and guided blindly, emphasizing the importance of learning, which made my daughter reluctant to talk to me for a time. Fortunately, her daughter was generous, and no matter how her mother treated her, she finally forgave her.
? Because my son didn't develop good study habits when he was a child, I couldn't wait for my child to learn, which once made my cheerful and lively son have no smile on his face. At the same time, I haven't been idle at home for a moment, making everything a mess. Sometimes, I really worry that my child is a little ADHD.
? I'm confused. I know how to be a good mother and how to love children in a way that makes them feel loved. How to discipline?
? My family and I were lucky enough to meet Mr. Jin, who led me to pay attention to my proud parents, the official account of WeChat, and guided me to listen to related courses. I understand why my daughter and son have conflicts. Because I have cognitive problems, my children have grown up, but I still keep them as babies. After listening for a while, I have changed a little and my family relationship has improved. Because I am preparing for the intermediate accounting title, the lecture is intermittent and the effect is not ideal. I am struggling with my studies and children's education. Which way should I lean? In this way, this year, under the guidance of Sister Liu, I participated in the training class of Teacher Su, and began to read mindfulness every day, internalizing it in my heart and externalizing it in my actions; At the same time, it is an honor to join this big family and move forward with the team.
? I am grateful to my husband, who has been patiently persuading me to study family education and psychology courses when I have a dispute with my children. Thanks to my children, even if we had an argument a second ago, they chose to accept it all because of their love for their mother. I am not as good as the children. My babies, let's see what mom will do in the future. I believe our family will be happy!
Encourage each other with the following poems:
Sooner or later, you will be who you want to be.
As long as you think it's worthwhile,
As long as you make up your mind,
Once you start to change,
This could happen any day in your life.
Of course, you can stay where you are until the end of your life.
There are no rules to follow.
You may live your true self, or you may maintain the status quo that you are tired of.
It doesn't matter, no one will praise or criticize you for it.
But I hope you can eventually become what you want to be.
I hope you can see the wonders of the world,
I hope you can experience something you have never felt before.
I hope you can meet interesting people,
I hope you can live a proud life.
If you don't do this,
I hope you have the courage to start over.
Benjamin wrote it to his daughter. I admire this outlook on life.
I believe that everyone will become what he wants to be sooner or later. Come on, let's all run to our happy future! Try to make yourself better!