While appreciating Daiyu's elegant temperament and outstanding talent, readers often resent or regret her misfortune. Her personality is so sensitive, self-respecting, arrogant, willful, and sometimes bitter and inhuman. I don't know how much she should suffer.
Many readers may have this idea, how can a girl who is clever, pure and lovely and very versatile become such an unreasonable person? Since the author wrote her as the No.1 female in A Dream of Red Mansions, and she really devoted herself to infinite feelings, why should she be shaped like this? Can't you make her character more perfect?
Daiyu's personality has some obvious shortcomings, and some of her words and deeds are indeed out of line and excessive. However, when people criticize or condemn her, they may seldom think about it further. Why on earth did she become like this? With her extraordinary intelligence and understanding, doesn't she know that doing so will not only make her lose her dignity, but also attract unwarranted accusations from people around her, and it will also be annoying and fall to the point where no one can hide?
In fact, the formation of a person's personality, of course, is related to his specific physiological conditions and his unique temperament conditions, but more depends on his environment and his life experience and experience formed in a certain environment. It can be said that a person's personality is the product of the interaction between people and the environment, and the environment often plays a key and decisive role in the formation and development of a person's personality.
Therefore, in order to correctly understand and evaluate Daiyu's character, specifically, her life path and result, we must explore the deep-seated reasons for her character formation from her own conditions and living environment, and fundamentally understand why she is like that. Only in this way can we truly understand the pain in Daiyu's heart and fully understand how difficult it is for a versatile and affectionate strange girl to forgive and understand her "little girl" character.
Then, how is Daiyu's sentimental, headstrong, withdrawn and suspicious character formed under the dual role of herself and the environment? Is it her fault to be a "child" often or the fault of her living environment? How to correctly understand and evaluate Lin Daiyu?
Compared with other women in the Grand View Garden, Daiyu is a very complicated role. Her personality has some positive aspects, such as frankness, innocence, carefulness, intelligence, indifference and no desire, but at the same time, it also has some negative aspects, such as sensitivity, paranoia, arrogance and sharp words, especially the latter has a great influence on her life and life.
Even the positive factors in her personality don't seem to bring her much benefit. For example, her intelligence and comprehension ability must be no less than Baochai's. But mainly in writing poems and songs, rather than dealing with people or changing her own destiny. In this way, she suffered more than others and experienced more pain and sadness.
Was Daiyu like this from the beginning? I don't think so. You must remember that when she first arrived in Jiafu, she wrote in the book, "I often heard her mother say that her grandmother's family is different from other families." The reason why Daiyu remembered her mother's words was obviously that she secretly warned herself that although the Jia family was a grandmother's family, she should "do as the Romans do" and not be as casual as at home.
Therefore, she "pays attention step by step, always cares, refuses to say a word easily, and walks step by step for fear of being laughed at." This shows that she was a good-natured and sensible girl from the beginning, instead of the kind of woman who often turned herself into a "little girl" and was always mean when she opened her mouth.
What on earth made her like this?
First of all, her fragile and depressed temperament makes Daiyu easy to be sad and depressed.
Daiyu was "extremely timid" since she was a child and never changed, which brought great misfortune to her life. When she first entered Jia Fu, everyone saw that she was weak and asked with concern. Daiyu told everyone: "I was born like this. I have been taking medicine since I knew how to eat and drink. Until today, I have asked many famous doctors to prescribe prescriptions, which have no effect. " It can be seen that she has been weak since she was a child, and taking medicine is a common practice, but it has not played any obvious role.
Generally speaking, a person's physical condition is related to his personality development and affects the formation of his personality. Congenital weakness has become a burden to Daiyu, which has brought a heavy shadow to her daily life. She can't think positively like a healthy person, but her reaction to things is generally negative.
Readers should notice that when she encounters problems, she often thinks from the negative side, which leads to her always being immersed in depressed and sad emotions, so she belongs to a typical depressed temperament. This temperament has played a considerable role in the formation of her sensitive and suspicious personality, making her sentimental, negative and pessimistic, and has been living a Lacrimosa-style life.
Second, the death of parents and the lack of family happiness have caused great psychological trauma to Daiyu.
The formation of a person's personality has a lot to do with his childhood family environment. Modern psychological research shows that infancy to early adolescence is a period of personality formation, and the quality of family environment in this period has a profound impact on a person's growth. Children who lost their mother or father in childhood often have a lot of inferiority and loneliness because they grow up in an environment lacking maternal love or fatherly love, resulting in huge defects in their personality.
Daiyu's mother died early, which made her lose her maternal love since she was a child; Soon after, her father died, which made her lose her father's love again. Wave after wave of blows made her suffer more than others. She became a veritable orphan, helpless and lonely, so she had to leave her hometown and live in her grandmother's house. In Jiafu, she has no parents' support and no sisters and brothers' support. She has nowhere to complain when something goes wrong, and all her troubles and sorrows must be swallowed silently by herself.
The misfortune of her life has become a shadow that she can't get rid of. Her most sensitive point is to see that others have parents and can enjoy family happiness. "A person is helpless and can't help crying." Losing her parents not only made Daiyu emotionally unsatisfied, but also put herself in an embarrassing situation of fighting alone.
Third, the living conditions under the protection of others have aggravated Daiyu's sensitive, suspicious and sentimental personality.
Daiyu lives in grandma's house. Although her grandmother loves her very much, Jia people generally don't treat her as an outsider, and the treatment in life is no different from that of other girls, but she is still very unhappy. There is a simple reason. No matter how good the Jia family is, it is also my uncle's home. Daiyu can't get rid of the status of relatives and can't find the feeling of intimacy in her own home, so she can't really live in peace.
Baochai is also a relative who lives in the Jia family, but Baochai doesn't feel too uncomfortable with her mother, brother and family. Xiangyun, as a relative, often goes to Jia's house, but she doesn't have to look down on Jia's eyebrows. Although her uncle and aunt are not very kind to her, it is her home after all. She was unhappy when she came to Jia's house, so she went home as soon as she lifted her feet.
However, Daiyu can't compare with them. She has no home of her own. She lives alone in Jiafu, and she has to run everything by herself. No one can really help her. This embarrassing situation has deeply affected her thinking and personality, making her more sensitive and suspicious, so that she is in a state of fear and fear.
Things that had nothing to do with her or nothing to do with her would be magnified, clung to, and even abused by her, which not only kept many people away from her, but also added a lot of trouble to herself in vain, which made her nervous all the time and greatly increased the burden on her body.
In a word, Daiyu's personality characteristics are quite rich, profound and multifaceted, especially the negative factors in her personality, which are caused by her body and temperament, her life experience and living environment. Many factors interweave and combine to form her unique and complex personality.
Of course, some negative features in her personality are often twofold, such as her "small nature", which is not entirely a defect. Sometimes it is a counterattack against trauma, and it is also a manifestation of her maintenance of personal dignity.
Therefore, we need a broader perspective to analyze Daiyu's personality characteristics and the reasons for its formation. If we can't reveal the complicated and tortuous reasons behind it, it will be difficult to fully and accurately grasp such a unique image of Daiyu.