If it is really time for divorce, many children are still happy to live with their mothers.
When you find the man cheating, don't worry about divorce, but consider the integrity of the family.
Getting rid of mistress, saving marriage and family is the most important thing.
Then again, no matter how young the child is, whether he can distinguish between right and wrong, don't involve the child in the dispute.
Don't think children don't know anything. Once they become children's knots, it takes a long time to heal.
Just like a case handled by Schwab some time ago, I was really shocked when I received this case.
Ms. Cheng told Jiaxin that her husband had been with San Xiao for a long time when she knew he was cheating.
Ms. Cheng and her husband have been married for five years and their children are four years old. Life has always been dull.
There was no fuss, life and work were very stable, and I never thought my husband would cheat.
She also knows that her husband has always liked to travel, and he is busy with work and has no time to accompany him.
My husband signed up for a trip himself and will bring some souvenirs to Ms. Cheng when she comes back.
Later, for a while, her husband traveled a lot. Ms. Cheng feels that her husband is not busy at work, so it is normal to go out and relax.
Unexpectedly, one day Ms. Cheng's children told her that her father asked her to call an aunt "Mom".
Jiaxin learned from in-depth communication with Ms. Cheng that San Xiao constantly provoked Ms. Cheng and even insulted her later.
The derailed husband is still on the side of mistress, and every little thing blames Ms. Cheng, making Ms. Cheng miserable.
But for the sake of her children, she chose patience.
At the same time, she also told Jiaxin that she only hoped that San Xiao would leave her husband and that she would not divorce.
During the conversation, I could feel that Ms. Cheng was actually struggling.
Knowing that Xiao San is constantly destroying the family, there is nothing she can do.
After analyzing the whole thing, Jiaxin gave Ms. Cheng several solutions, which would not only make San Xiao leave, but also leave no psychological shadow on her children.
Because the child already knows the existence of Xiao San, and her father asked her to recognize Xiao San as "mother"
Although the child is very resistant and refuses to call this strange aunt, it actually has an impact on the child.
First, Schwab asked Ms. Cheng to communicate well with her children. This is also the most important thing, giving priority to ensuring that her children have no psychological problems.
Tell her that her father actually played a joke on her. Is it at this time that children find that their parents are their favorite, not strange aunts?
The child felt that what her mother told her was really a joke, and told Ms. Cheng that she also felt that her mother was the best.
This reassured Ms. Cheng and told her children that, in any case, her mother loved her children the most.
Mother gave her children love that others couldn't, and told them many stories about Ms. Cheng who was pregnant with her at that time.
This makes the child more determined, and the mother is the best for her in the world.
Second, find the weakness of mistress and make a plan for it.
Jiaxin let Ms. Cheng know the position of Xiaosan in her husband's heart and her personal situation.
Because Xiao San constantly provokes Ms. Cheng, this gives Ms. Cheng the opportunity to contact Xiao San.
Ms. Cheng saw her and her husband buying flowers after work. When Ms. Cheng tried to argue with San Xiao, San Xiao fell to the ground and said that Ms. Cheng had pushed her.
When the husband saw this, he helped her up and complained about Ms. Cheng, thinking that she was not serious.
According to her husband, Xiao San is his good friend. There is nothing wrong with him going shopping with his friends, but he doesn't admit that he cheated.
From the photos in her husband's mobile phone, we can find that this mistress met her when she was traveling with her husband, and they also traveled together several times recently.
The chat between Xiao San and her husband is very green tea, and every sentence contains countless grievances.
Ms. Cheng found that in the words of this mistress, there has always been a desire to have children.
And urged her husband to divorce quickly, hoping to get custody of the children.
Ms. Cheng saw a physical examination report in the circle of little three friends, found a hospital for a physical examination, and found a friend to read the report.
Knowing that mistress is actually infertile, she can't have children at all.
This can explain why Xiao San always divorces her husband and wants custody of the children.
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Show your cards to the cheating husband and save the marriage directly. It's the first time for Ms. Cheng to have such a formal communication with her husband. When Ms. Cheng asked her husband if he was cheating, he was still arguing that he was just making friends with Xiao San.
At this point, the husband has not felt the impact of his infidelity on his wife and children.
Ms. Cheng listened to the conversation between her husband and her children. The children made it clear that her husband had brought a mistress and asked her to call her "mom".
The husband didn't speak after listening to the recording.
Ms. Cheng asked her husband if she ever thought that Xiao San was actually ruining their present marriage.
Show her husband their chat records. The record of mistress abusing Ms. Cheng and forcing them to divorce is in front of her husband, which is a great blow to her derailed husband.
Even Xiao San secretly took pictures of her children and sent them to Ms. Cheng, which made her husband feel panic and fear.
"Do you really know someone you know when you travel? He is always watching your family, always wanting your children, and filming their lives?"
In the face of Ms. Cheng's questioning, her husband collapsed and he felt a sense of crisis for the first time.
This is not brought by the outside world, but caused by his derailment.
Ms. Cheng showed her husband the test report, which is why San Xiao always wanted children.
"Have you ever thought that if you really get divorced and you can't get custody of your children, will she do harm to our children?"
As soon as the words sound just fell, the derailed husband immediately called San Xiao and wanted to break up with San Xiao.
Xiaosan refused to scratch and cried on the other end of the phone, hoping not to break up.
Ms. Cheng's husband blacked out Xiao San, blocked his circle of friends and deleted the photo with Xiao San.
And constantly apologize to Ms. Cheng, hoping to be forgiven.
The husband said he would turn over a new leaf, try to protect his family and protect this family, and it won't happen again.
This is the first and last time I cheated myself. I hope Ms. Cheng Can will let bygones be bygones.
When the husband goes to pick up the children at night, he apologizes to the children.
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This solution is made by finding the weakness of mistress.
Every mistress will pose a threat to the original life.
Just more or less different.
When facing the mistress, first analyze the purpose of the mistress.
In this way, San Xiao can leave her cheating husband as soon as possible and clear her original family.