Qin Xiao:

Hello. If you want to transform into a psychological counselor in the middle, you can. Fortunately, we were born in China, but China's requirements for this industry will be higher and higher, which is also the reason for canceling the national psychological counselor examination.

Because what you are talking about is not the psychological confusion in life, I can boldly give you suggestions in this question and answer. After making suggestions, I can share the pressure that this profession may face, hoping to help you understand this profession from many angles.

Here are three practical suggestions:

1. In order to conform to the future development trend of the industry, it is recommended that you complete the professional study related to psychology and obtain a degree certificate, either undergraduate, master or doctor. After all, psychological counseling is a professional job, and it depends on your academic background in the future. This symptom has already appeared. For example, the Registration Committee of Clinical Psychology of the Chinese Psychological Association has a hard index for the application of registered psychologists, that is, they must have a bachelor degree or above in psychology, medicine, education or social work.

In addition, because the national examination for psychological counselors has been cancelled, reading relevant degrees is also a stepping stone to enter this industry. Since you plan to engage in a career of psychological counseling, you should study psychology hard, which is closer to practical application.

This involves the exam. If you have a bad feeling about the exam, I suggest you deal with your own problems first, which may help you better understand yourself and see what is behind the impedance.

2. After completing the continuous professional system training for one year or more, many institutions are still very concerned about the system professional learning background of consultants when recruiting consultants.

There are many such courses in Wuhan, Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen. Flying classes are very common in this industry, and the teachers and quality of the courses are more important. I recommend the courses of Simple Psychology, Next Psychology, Sugar Psychology, Zeng Qifeng Psychology Studio, Derem Psychology and Guangzhou Baiyun Psychological Hospital, all of which are good. If you like Jung's direction, the Institute of Oriental Psychoanalysis is a good choice.

3. Insist on reading and learning, do personal experience (become a visitor), accumulate more consultation (this is a hard indicator of employment, and you can accumulate experience from public consultation), and insist on case supervision. We will share more related content later.

I also transformed into a psychological counselor halfway. At that time, our research class had nearly ten small partners. For several months, we got together once a week to study together, grow together and encourage each other. Everyone is vaguely looking forward to becoming a psychological counselor. Two years later, only I became a full-time psychological counselor, and the other started a part-time job and started a case sporadically. Other friends give up halfway.

To be honest, this road is really not easy. Too many people invested a lot of money and time in the early stage, but finally failed to really enter this industry. There are many reasons for this situation, and I personally feel that there are three main pressures.

There is a saying in the industry that psychological counselors should not expect to make ends meet in the first three years, which is true. In the first three years, excluding the study period, you must have at least one whole year of systematic basic study period before you can accept the first case consultation.

First of all, this is a career that requires lifelong learning. When you come in, you will find that the tuition can't stop at all, because it is a job that tests professional knowledge and skills. In the first few years, in the face of various incurable diseases, I can't help but want to recharge. This is normal. Even if we are really patients with learning personality disorder, there is still a big gap between the thickness of later knowledge and skills and the professional requirements of psychological counselors in Europe and America.

The training fee in this industry is really not cheap, and there are thousands of workshops in just a few days. When you accumulate to a certain extent, you can finally reach the entrance threshold of such high-standard training as Chinese classes in Durban or a psychoanalytic institution. After you fill out your resume excitedly, apply for registration and pass the interview, tens of thousands of dollars go out again.

Tuition fees, this bottomless pit, are nothing compared with the personal experience fees and supervision fees to be paid every week.

If you want to be a qualified consultant, you must accept personal experience, so as to make your personality more perfect. Having a more perfect personality can avoid being dragged into the quagmire in consulting work, and can also avoid hurting each other with visitors in consulting work.

Supervision fee is as important as personal experience fee. Zeng Qifeng said that psychological counseling without supervision cannot be called real psychological counseling. I am in favor of consulting work under the guidance of more professional practitioners, which is responsible for visitors and for myself. The supervisor will not only help you guide professionally, but also help you share a lot of work pressure invisibly.

Personal feeling For novice consultants, according to the charging standard of domestic industry, the personal experience fee and supervision fee to be paid every week add up to almost 1000 yuan, and the minimum is 800 yuan, otherwise the quality will be difficult to guarantee. A colleague once wrote that a third-and fourth-tier house should be prepared for the growth of psychological counselors. I don't think it's that exaggerated, but it's still necessary to prepare a hundred or two hundred thousand.

With the blessing of personal experience and supervision every week, your work pressure will be much less, but it doesn't mean that there is no pressure at all. Psychological counseling is a job that respects the profession and looks at people very much. I think this is a job that affects life with life.

Psychological counselors' work stress is different from workplace stress. No matter how stressful the workplace is, your pulse will not be scattered on the spot. I met a colleague who just came out of the clinic. When he was attacked by a visitor, his hand holding a cup shook for a long time. I also experienced being stuck on the sofa for five minutes after a consultation.

But interestingly, the biggest charm of this job is that it has such unique work pressure, and only when the soul really touches the soul will you realize this kind of consumption. Do you think you will hate your visitors when you are drunk? No, no, you will still love them as soon as you are refreshed, and with the deepening of your work, you will find them more and more lovely.

Why do you love visitors after being abused thousands of times? Part of the reason must be that this is your job, you have received money, and each of us wants to do it well. Another reason, I think, is that when the soul is in deep contact, trust and link with the soul, it will definitely inspire love. For example, when a person trusts you so much and tells you what he/she feels most ashamed and secretive, it's hard not to make him/her more relaxed and happy. Even if you want to restrain yourself on the surface and do nothing, you will be moved when that person grows up a little.

Of course, you are also a normal person. If you hate it for a long time, you find yourself afraid to meet visitors, or you have a strong sense of powerlessness in that consultation. At this time, out of responsibility for visitors and yourself, you should talk to your experiencer as soon as possible, see what is behind your emotions, see which complex you have been ticked off, and take the opportunity to improve your personality. So, sometimes, it's really consultants and visitors who grow up together.

As your personality becomes more and more perfect, your experience becomes richer and your skills become deeper, you will feel less and less consumed. This is a long and beautiful road.

When your work is on the right track, you will find that it is a very busy job and a very lonely job.

You are busy consulting, taking notes, typing word for word, meeting with experiencers, meeting with supervisors, attending various courses, reading a lot, and perhaps writing ... Finally, you find that the people you can meet in life are either your visitors, your experiencers or supervisors, and they are all one-on-one.

This is very different from the office environment. No matter how false and flashy the office relationship is, people come and go. Sometimes counselors like to attend classes, and there is another reason, that is, because there are many people and it is lively, how can they have the opportunity to meet so many people at ordinary times!

In addition, you will have a deep connection with your visitors and a deeper connection with the experiencers, but these relationships are subtle and more real than the real ones, but they will never be real. You may be confused for a moment and can't tell which ones are true and which ones are false. However, when visitors deeply touch you again and again, and the experiencers accept you again and again, it is easy for you to feel that there are too many falsehoods and disguises in your life and the social quality is getting lower and lower.

Therefore, you would rather be alone than indulge in "falsehood". People's troubles are caused by comparison.

You are eager to meet a friendship that you can communicate deeply. How can you meet? Colleagues should talk better, after all, there are too many similarities. First of all, the supervisor has no time to make friends with you. What about other colleagues? You get to know a few people enthusiastically, and then you find that many of your colleagues have become immortals, and they don't respond to the signals of your friendship development. Don't be discouraged at this time, it's not your fault, but they are no longer good at making friends.

Psychological counselors make friends with psychological counselors, which are manifested in: discussing defense mechanism and existentialism in WeChat group when they are serious, and then summing up new understanding; As soon as you relax, WeChat groups attack each other, hug each other, and then talk about self-cognition.

There are also some consultants who don't even hang out in groups. Occasionally, I will like each other's articles, and I will praise them after leaving a message. It's warm.

Why do so many counselors like writing? I think, I'm afraid there is nothing more lonely than writing. Fighting loneliness with loneliness and fighting poison with poison can no longer be effective.

After two or three years, you finally broke your high-energy firewall, thinking that it doesn't matter whether it's true or not, just be happy. This is the wisdom of life. But soon you will find that you still can't go back to the flowers, because you have become an immortal alone.

Regarding the loneliness of psychological counselors, I think this is a question of laying eggs or laying eggs on chickens. Have you become lonely as a counselor? Or is it because a person is lonely that he chooses to become a psychological counselor? I think it is the latter.

Li Mengchao said that psychological counseling is not a career to be done, but a career of choice. Zeng Qifeng also said that not everyone is suitable to become a psychological counselor. He even suggested that before a person decides to become a psychological counselor, he should go to a professional to make an evaluation to see if he is suitable, otherwise it would be a waste of time and money. I don't think it's so exaggerated, but if you are more comfortable with loneliness, more empathetic and more persistent, you will really go further in this industry.

Some loneliness doesn't mean you can adapt. You adapt quickly because it's really your nature. Maybe a few years ago, you were immersed in the noise just as a way to resist loneliness. Finally, you have the courage to be generous and lonely.

There is no "lonely pressure" in this subtitle. Is loneliness stress? No, no, you can't achieve a certain degree of loneliness without a certain degree of narcissism.

By the way, I heard that you write your resume online. I don't know what kind of job information you are looking at. In fact, psychological counseling institutions rarely recruit full-time consultants on recruitment websites, and this industry is more cooperative. Besides, this circle is very small. If you want to recruit a suitable consultant, it may be effective to forward it to the official WeChat account and forwarding agency. The psychological counselor position on the recruitment website is likely to be a popular emotional counselor in recent years, which is very different from traditional psychological counseling. I suggest you know more about it.

The above are some of my understandings and feelings about this profession, which only represent my personal views, and there are bound to be many limitations and prejudices. After all, I have been in the business for a short time, and maybe I will have a new understanding in a few years. Writing the title of this article, my liver trembled for a long time.

In fact, it's all nonsense. The core point is that true love is to do it, regardless of the willy-nilly, so many counselors come over.

Thank you for your trust. Let's go

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