The first stage: praise?
Praise is to affirm the parties themselves and their efforts to establish an effective solution. Praise can support the success of the parties and consolidate it. Praise can confirm and emphasize what is most important. Remember to praise all the people present and their relationship. For example, you are good families and care about each other's opinions. Praise can create hope, bring strength to the client, let him see the exception of success, bring surprises to the client and produce dramatic effects.
Phase II: Bridges
The bridge connects praise and suggestions. The explanation of the bridge is to let the parties do something different now, so that the parties feel that the suggestions are meaningful and valued by them. The bridge provides a basic good reason for all parties to make suggestions.
The third stage: suggestions
The suggestion is very important to the parties, simple and feasible, and it is better to be an experimental action, not a homework or task that must be done. The language description of providing suggestions is an experimental attitude: the success of the experiment belongs to the parties, and the failure of the experiment is a natural result.