Chen wrote in Consciousness Therapy: The true love relationship is: I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am with you. At this moment, I am the noumenon of love. Unless you love yourself, you can't share your love with anyone, and you can't love others! If you can't love yourself, who will? If you can't be your friend, who will be your friend?

If you lose yourself in this relationship, your relationship is very dangerous. Feelings need to be balanced, and excessive efforts by either party will make the other party unscrupulous, and problems will arise over time. Be sure to find yourself and don't rely too much on anyone.