Quoted from the text of Zhang Defen, the author of Meeting the Unknown Self, this is also my 25-year-old self. Why is she unhappy when others envy her?
With such questions, she began to look for reasons. In this process, she gradually became a writer whose mind grew and healed.
Who am I? Where did it come from? Where are you going? What is the basic philosophical problem to consider first when dealing with yourself?
The Journey to the West, one of the four classic novels, has strong life wisdom and appeal. Needless to say, the Tang Priest's self-introduction alone is full of life philosophy: "Tang Sanzang, a poor monk, came to the Tang Dynasty in the east and worshipped Buddha in the west." Three elements of this sentence: who am I? Where did it come from? Where are you going?
Who am I? The simplest element of self-introduction is name+occupation+hobby.
However, this is actually external. How can I get close to my truer self?
People are like onions. Peel yourself off layer by layer, and you can see your deepest self.
The outermost layer of role-playing, that is, your name and job, the second layer is your thoughts, the third layer is your mood, that is, all emotions and fears, the fourth layer is your body, and finally, importantly, the last layer is your true self: love, joy and peace.
Joy is your essence, a high-level psychological state, and will not be hurt by the outside world at will.
Three difficult problems in philosophy of life: Where do they come from? Where did it come from? The place I want to go revolves around everyone's life from beginning to end.
Whether you are happy or depressed, whether you are a teenager or a middle-aged or elderly person, whether you are physically and mentally healthy or disabled, if you are here, you will encounter these three problems.
However, this is only a phenomenon. What really gets you to the station is your heart. Seek yourself inward, practice inward, go beyond one layer of main performance and enter a deeper level, and you also see your true self.
Everyone is unique. What do you want to do, you don't need others to answer, and you don't need to step on others' footsteps and live your own life. And he is good at combing his own life trajectory, unveiling the veil and knowing who he is.
There is no shortcut to development. Face the problem and deal with it. The TV series "Far Away" has been broadcast. Lu Xiaoou played by Ma Yili and Yao Yuan played by Liu Ye are lovers. Lu Xiaoou met Yao Yuan in college. The gap between their true identities was blocked by Liu Xiaoou's father, and Yao Yuan said goodbye.
Lu Xiaoou is a graduate student in social psychology. After Yao Yuan left, she spent three years not learning to give up and rented the basement of the villa where Yao Yuan once lived.
She never gave up on Yao Yuan, and she couldn't forget this feeling. Finally she got depressed and had to take medicine.
Seeing Liu Xiaoou's situation is just a reflection of everyone.
In daily life, everyone doesn't want to learn to give up because one person hurts himself. Just like Xiao Ou, she is addicted to Yao's staying away from harm, becoming more and more painful and even depressed.
In social psychology, active peptides are effective. Somatic cells are used to this active peptide. If we don't feed such active peptides, everyone's physiological needs will promote everyone's personal behavior, and the radioactive kinetic energy will fluctuate frequently, and then such active peptides will occur in our daily life.
So, how can we eliminate the pain and cheer ourselves up? First of all, we should know, learn to accept and learn to obey. Later, seeing that I was still looking for the painful experience of not loving, I accepted this experience wholeheartedly and learned the necessity of giving up that part.
Second, learn to let go. Don't carry this injury on yourself, you can't breathe. If you accept the injury and learn to give up, the energy of sadness will not be so great and the problem will be solved.
The creator of the book "Return to My True Color" said: The pain of our daily life at this stage is obvious. In fact, we did it ourselves, with the aim of regaining consciousness and fundamentally dealing with childhood trauma.
The road of life will inevitably be bumpy, sad, depressed and so on. However, if you are in such a mood, don't resist. The longer you resist, the greater your loss. All you have to do is face it, accept it, learn to let it go and deal with it.
Negative emotions are like black food, you can't drive them away. The only thing we can do is to put the lamp in.
How to meet your best self? Life is practice. Only by getting stronger and stronger can you meet your best self. How to strengthen yourself is not superficial decoration, but introspection.
All people, things and things are the projection of everyone's essence. When a foreign country is moved, look inward and see where the old sadness is. There is no need to consume kinetic energy on these external and irresistible objects. First of all, pay attention to the essential aspects, accept and sort them out completely, and then concentrate on the aspects that can be changed externally.
Social psychology has both the law of attraction and the label effect.
If a person is full of happy, positive and positive thoughts, good people and things are connected with him and attracted by him with the same kinetic energy. If a person is always negative and pessimistic, then this person will undoubtedly feel unhappy.
If it is safe, the butterfly will come.
To be a successful person, at least be excellent!
Actually, that is to say, attraction. Everyone has an electromagnetic field, and people with the same frequency will be together. Similarly, happiness is also the positive energy of society.
Richard Moss said: Treatment is like a glimpse of the whole process of reincarnation in space. At that moment, everyone's body vibrates with the higher connection of life.
Walking on the road of life, in life, everyone is practicing and looking for people who have the same kinetic energy as themselves. Why not develop your kinetic energy steadily? Of course, the road to life is very happy.
If I tell you a secret, I hope that things will go smoothly. In the year of graduation, after the training, several people failed in job hunting and recruitment interviews. At that time, I was depressed, had no confidence in myself, and complained a little about the company.
In a week's mental state, I tried to submit my resume, but there was no satisfactory result.
A week later, suddenly one night, I dreamed that I had found my favorite job, which was a very good enterprise.
After waking up, I was a little excited and had a smile on my face. I have arranged a job fair, and I'm sure I can find my beloved job today. I said it several times in my mind.
I didn't expect to sign it, and it is the top 500. Things are really going well.
This tells me that we have real and sincere expectations in our hearts, and all the cosmic spaces are gathered together to help you. This is the kinetic energy in your heart. If you pray, you will essentially transmit the kinetic energy of positive vibration, which will absorb what you want, that is, your kinetic energy will respond to your prayer and give you what you really want.
If you put your heart into it, all the space will help you, yes. Because your kinetic energy has arrived, things have changed. Do not believe, you can try!