Reflections on a tearful life 1 This is a documentary about an experienced Shanghai man who went to Japan alone for 20 years with huge debts for the future of his family and daughter. He worked three jobs a day in Japan and didn't come home until late at night. Because his passport has expired, he can't go back to China to reunite with his family every 20 years. In order to send his daughter to the highest university in the world, he endured a lonely and distant life.
I dare not look into Mrding's tearful eyes. Too much bitterness, too much past, can't be recalled. There is hope when you are alive. Even with tears in my eyes, I will live tenaciously.
I believe that everyone's life in this world is different, but I can't imagine how such a couple, such a father and daughter, survived this long 20 years. The daughter's impression of her father is just what she looks like in the photo. The father's yearning for his daughter can only be expressed through the photos of her daughter still in her arms, the wife's yearning for her husband and the husband's concern for her. All feelings are long and can't be vented. These 20 years are depressing for this family of three. There is only hope in the life of three people, only hope, only it is bright, so we can only move towards this light, and only in this way can we get out of the sunny day.
Mrding said that he never regretted it, and neither did the whole family. The impressive scene was that his wife finally got a passport to visit her daughter who was studying in the United States. She will transfer in Japan and have 72 hours to spend with her husband. Before she left, she specially made new clothes and got a haircut. She is very happy. Mrding also took out his wedding pillow towel and laid it carefully. Time and life have given them implicit and deep love. When they met, both of them seemed very calm. Mrding took his wife to visit Japan and eat. They are all very happy, but the time is really short. When they left, they both turned their backs on each other in tears. That's too bad. The picture above shows this scene in the subway.
However, as long as they persist, there will always be a moment of hard work. After waiting for 20 years, Mrding finally boarded the plane to return home.
"In China, where 30,000 people committed suicide every year for three consecutive years, there is such a Japanese who lives tenaciously with tears!" This is from the movie.
Reflections on Life with Tears 2 This is a documentary about a Shanghai man who experienced the Cultural Revolution. For the future of his family and daughter, he borrowed huge debts to live alone in Japan 15, and worked three jobs a day in Japan until late at night. Because his passport expired, he failed to return to China to reunite with his family once on 15. In order to send his daughter to the highest university in the world, he endured loneliness and returned to his hometown.
I dare not look into Mrding's tearful eyes. Too much bitterness, too much past, can't be recalled. There is hope when you are alive. Even with tears in my eyes, I will live tenaciously.
I believe everyone's life in this world is different, but I can't imagine how such a couple, such a father and daughter, survived this long 15 year. The daughter's impression of her father is only what she looks like in the photo. The father's missing for her can only be expressed through the photo of her daughter still in her arms, the wife's missing for her husband, and the husband's concern for her. All feelings are long and can't be vented. This 15 year is very depressing for this family of three. There is only hope in their life, only hope, only it is bright, so we can only walk towards this light, and only in this way can we get out of the sunny day.
Mrding said that he never regretted it, and neither did the whole family. The impressive scene was that his wife finally got a passport to visit her daughter who was studying in the United States. She will transfer in Japan and have 72 hours to spend with her husband. Before she left, she specially made new clothes and got a haircut. She is very happy. Mrding also took out his wedding pillow towel and laid it carefully. Time and life have given them implicit and deep love. When they met, both of them seemed very calm. Mrding took his wife to visit Japan and eat. They are all very happy, but the time is really short. When they left, they both turned their backs on each other in tears. That's too bad. The picture above shows this scene in the subway.
However, as long as they persist, there will always be a moment when everything will get through. They waited for 15 years, and Mrding finally boarded the plane to return home.
"In China, where 30,000 people committed suicide every year for three consecutive years, there is such a Japanese who lives tenaciously with tears!" This is from the movie.
I can't remember Zhu Ziqing's back, but when I watched this film, my father's back was looming in my mind. When Mrding's daughter and Mrding met and separated in Tokyo, I remembered the first time I left home to go to college.
I went to Chongqing because I like Shuangqing and Mountain. Two days and one night's drive told me that it was a long distance of five thousand miles. We arrived the day before registration, and also went to some local attractions, such as Chaotianmen and Cikou. On the afternoon of the third day, my father wanted to buy a return ticket. I sat alone on the steps of the teaching building, looking so helpless, listening to strangers coming and going, unable to speak the language, and looking at the parents who said goodbye to their children. I felt terrible loneliness for the first time, so I cried with my head in my arms. The seniors in the past thought that something had happened to me and stopped to comfort me. They also specially asked a fellow villager from Shandong to talk to me.
Mrding can only send her daughter to Narita Station, and the father and daughter shed tears all the way. At that moment, I really understood what relative silence was, only a thousand tears. When getting off the bus, my daughter dared not look back. I was afraid to go to the railway station to see my father off when he left. The reason is the same. I've always hated separation, and I never liked giving people away or being sent away, because I always wanted to think that I would never leave without saying goodbye.
Mrding's story is very touching, because he started a bet to change the fate of the next generation alone abroad. In fact, at home, so do Qian Qian's parents, who try their best to change their lives. We are taught from an early age to study hard so that we can make a difference in the future. It can be said that my father's stalwart back has become a stepping stone for us to go up without exception, trying to make money for us to learn and give us the best life.
I consider myself a particularly lazy person. I have never worried about things at home, and there is nothing to worry about, because my parents handle them well. From small to large, all the work I did for my family was paid, sometimes it was a bottle of coke, and sometimes it was delicious like fried chicken and roast duck. By the way, I remember when I was a child, there was something delicious on holidays, and my parents kept it for me. In my impression, my father likes eating bones very much, but my mother doesn't like eating meat. Only when I grew up did I know that I didn't really like it but didn't want to give up, so that I ate chicken until my stomach ached, and I stopped eating it for many years.
When boarding full-time in high school, I was in poor health. Every weekend, when I come back, my father will buy my favorite whole sheep soup and vermicelli chicken, and make me a lot of delicious food. In fact, I always thought my father was very strict. We don't have much affection. Even he doesn't know how tall and old I am. According to the five elements, we are similar, so when he was a child, he was outside and saw very little. When I was older, I started boarding in middle school, so I rarely met.
Perhaps, sometimes, fatherly love needs to grow up to be understood, because it is not as direct as maternal love, it has been flowing in the blood. Fatherly love is more of a responsibility. Under the stern face, there may be a kind heart hidden. He wants to be close to us, but he seems alienated from us. Because he is the head of the family, he must be able to contain us.
After watching the documentary "Life with Tears" in tears, my father's life spirit and quality deeply touched our family. In family education, we have three deepest experiences and gains:
First, parents love each other and their children are healthy.
Although Mrding and his wife and daughter are thousands of miles apart, we can see from the movie that they are very loving.
After leaving home for more than ten years, Mrding has been cherishing the pillowcase embroidered by his wife. The wife learned to be strong when her husband was not around. This strength comes from her deep love for her husband. Under the influence of this kind of love, my daughter also learned to be strong and independent until she succeeded in her studies. After investigation and study, I found that many children with learning or behavior problems usually have a very disharmonious relationship with their parents. Children whose parents love each other are usually good in character and behavior. Because love is the best education. This is worthy of parents' deep thinking.
Second, the goal is unified and long-term.
Mrding works as a "black household" abroad to earn money. Although life is hard, he has a simple but extraordinary and firm life goal. In order to build a good family and let his daughter go to a first-class overseas university, he will pass on his baton in the "relay race" where the old and the new alternate! As a mother, Mrding's wife and husband have the same goal. She works hard and scrimps so that she can save enough money for her children to go to college. A sensible daughter, in order to be admitted to an ideal university, studies very hard. The goal of their family is the same, because with the common goal and pursuit, life will have the motivation to struggle! Only in this way can we always maintain a positive attitude in the long-term hard life and know how to persist when encountering difficulties and helplessness.
Third, success can't be copied, and blind obedience is very sad.
After watching this movie, many people will inevitably set goals for their children, and they also want to imitate the way Mrding educates and trains their daughters, hoping to "learn to change the fate of the whole family". In this respect, I think everyone's success has many factors, such as birth age, family environment, parents' personality and so on. The successful experience of others may be useless to yourself. Most of the children's academic intelligence is not outstanding enough, and most of their parents don't have the same strong perseverance as Mr. and Mrs. Mrding (that was our father's generation, and their growth environment can't be compared with ours, and our growth environment is very different from that of today's children). Therefore, if we parents can't bear the pressure and hardships, but blindly ask our children to achieve high goals, the result will definitely be very sad.
To sum up, I think what this movie needs us to learn is the spirit of never giving up in the face of difficulties; It is the spirit of being a down-to-earth person; It is the dedication of love.
Review of "Life with Tears" 5 After watching "Life with Tears" with tears, it is a movie that shocks the soul!
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A father's love story, the border between two countries, can't stop a miss; There are three people in the family, but they endure the suffering of love and yearn for love. ...
The film tells the story of Ding Shangbiao, the hero, bidding farewell to his wife and daughter at the age of 35, full of longing. After studying in Japan from Shanghai, the fate of a family of three was full of twists and turns. In the past ten years, despite many difficulties, Zhang Liling has traveled between Japan, China and the United States, recording the life scenes of Ding Shangbiao's family in Shanghai, Tokyo and new york, and the strong years when they buried their thoughts of their loved ones in their hearts, cherished their ideals, never gave up, persevered and moved forward with tears!
Ding Shangbiao, the hero, struggled alone in a foreign country for her dreams, her family and her children 15 years, but what about us?
We are lucky, we are happy.
When people have hope, they will become strong. So for Ding Shangbiao, fifteen years of hard life has made his hopes go up in smoke!
If people have courage, they will become strong. So for Ding Shangbiao, fifteen years of cruel real life has killed his courage!
What about us?
Do we have the courage? Do we still have hope?
People, why on earth are alive-dreaming?
When I was a child, I heard my mother tell the story of Jingwei's reclamation, and Jingwei was branded in my heart. I began to recite the mantra secretly, imagining that one day I could gallop in the sky like Jingwei. When I always finish the spell and stand on the ground intact, I always feel that my magic is not enough.
However, a dream is a dream, but I will never forget that it once accompanied a girl through her childhood.
People, why live-love?
what is love ? The dictionary explains that love is an emotion from the heart of a living thing. But is this the love of death? True love is power!
Lovers live far apart, but they are accompanied by thousands of miles.
Is far away from home, but "close at hand" relatives.
It is a friend's world, but it "lights up the whole day"
Love, no boundaries, love, no language, love, no time difference, love, no obstacles, love. ...
Or, a father's love story, the border between the two countries, can't stop a miss; There are three people in a family, but they endure the torment of love with each other. The only constant is-hope, but-love!
I just finished watching Zhang Liling's documentary Life in Tears. The film lasted for more than ten years, recording the responsibility, persistence, loneliness and patience of 15 old people in Tokyo.
As an educated youth delayed by the great era, 35-year-old Ding Shangbiao came to Japan alone with huge debts in 1996. He came to Japan with dreams and demands on himself. After finishing language school, he intends to continue to go to college and develop all the way in Japan. Who knows that fate is still playing a cruel joke on him in Japan, and personal choice is fragile under the arrangement of fate. After arriving in Japan, they found that the language school was located in a very remote village. For the sake of livelihood, school and fate, he once again chose to escape. His escape destination is Tokyo, which is full of opportunities. The by-product of his escape was that he became a "black household", which blocked many opportunities, including going home to see his wife and daughter.
Mrding's goal in life has changed from going to college to making money to pay her daughter's tuition. In the next 15 years, her hair was sparse and her teeth fell off. Mrding worked hard at the bottom of Tokyo and sent all her money home, just for her daughter's desire to study in a first-class university abroad. This is his responsibility and responsibility to his family. During this period, he only met his family twice, once with his daughter for 24 hours. Her daughter rationally told the camera that she tried to be indifferent in front of her father because she was afraid that her sad expression would make him even more sad. The 72-hour meeting with his wife took place exactly 13 years after he arrived in Tokyo. When he took out the red pillowcase for marriage, I really couldn't figure out how he had dealt with loneliness and missing in the past ten years.
The documentary ends five years after Mrding left Shanghai/KLOC-0. After wandering in a foreign land 15 years, he finally set foot on the plane to return home. Because he realized his desire to train his daughter into a useful person, her daughter became a doctor in America. Mrding's face was full of tears on the plane, which reminded me of the scene of the doctor crying at the party in Peking Man in new york. It is the generation of long-term suppression of one's emotions after one's successful struggle, and Mrding is not only persistent and senile, but also responsible for family responsibilities.
When fate comes again, all the choices are right or wrong, leaving only various possible and unpredictable results. Some people commented that the old building was stupid, and 15' s loneliness and lack of family life were exchanged for tuition for her daughter. Fortunately, his daughter lived up to expectations. If her grades are average, she can't study abroad smoothly, or even drop out of school prematurely because of her parents' poor discipline and squander her father's hard-earned money, how many people will be moved by Mrding's doing so? How many people support it?
This is the magic of fate uncertainty. What is commendable is Mrding's persistence, his persistence in choice, his optimism about hard life, his responsibility to his family and his deep understanding of love.
Comment 7 on "Life with Tears" pays special attention to a documentary recommended above, which took a Japanese Chinese ten years to complete. It is called "Life with Tears", which records the struggle course of China people, especially Japanese students. It is said that this film caused a great sensation in Japan, and many people changed their views on China people. They think that China people could have worked so hard, but before that, China people in their eyes were lazy. Now, this movie has even become an inspirational movie.
This is a series of movies. One of the stories is about a man named Ding Shangbiao. 1989, he borrowed 30,000 yuan, leaving his wife and daughter in elementary school to study in Japan. 1992 After paying off the loan by working, he created a new goal, that is, to earn a lot of money and let his daughter go abroad to study and attend the best school. So he works three jobs every day, washing dishes, sweeping the floor and cooking. He works until midnight every night and walks home when there is no subway. Eat the cheapest meal in an 8-square-meter hut in the middle of the night, use plastic sheets as a bathhouse around it, don't buy new clothes, and don't dare to spend a penny. His happiest thing is to send money home every month. 20xx years! He did this for 20xx years. During this period, he only met his family twice. Once, he and his daughter were finally admitted to new york State University and stayed in Japan for 24 hours. The second time was with my wife. Because my wife is going to visit her children in new york, she will stay in Japan for 72 hours. At this time, he has not seen his wife for 20xx years. His wife couldn't help crying when she saw him take out the red pillowcase for marriage.
After 20xx, the hair is sparse and the teeth are loose. Like an old man. At this time, the child finally succeeded in his studies and found a well-paid job. He can go home. On the day he got on the plane and returned to China, he shed tears for the first time.
At the end of the film is a subtitle, saying that now they have bought a new house in Shanghai and lived a happy life with their wife. I cried, too, but I felt a little uncomfortable. First, Lao Du fought for his family, but it didn't take so many years. At least in the next five years, I don't think it makes sense. As his daughter said, other children earn their tuition by working on their own. Why would he sacrifice a normal life just to help her achieve her goal? So ... where are you? This is a daughter who really lives up to expectations. What if my daughter doesn't live up to expectations? What's the point? Second, this is only a small part of China people. In my life circle, I have never seen anyone who works two jobs. They didn't work hard enough to find jobs. Young people, in particular, don't seem so eager for money. Maybe they have parents to ask for. I told my friends how I felt, and they said it was because of the national conditions in China. In China, it is impossible to get rich rewards by working at the bottom.
The documentary "Reflection on Life with Tears" 8 is different from other documentaries, and it has a great span in time and space. However, due to the producer's persistence in the protagonist's wandering fate and the reality that the family can't reunite, the whole documentary is very compact and infectious. Professionals spoke highly of this superb level of perfect combination of tear effect and serious theme. Zhang Liling's Life in Tears and other series of documentaries pay attention to the fate of life. They are not only excellent documentaries, but also life textbooks with eternal appeal. Many Japanese record documentaries and take them out when they are confused, drawing strength from them and looking for answers. This series of documentaries produced by Zhang Liling and her companions with more than ten years of painstaking efforts can be said to be precious wealth and treasure of mankind.
The evaluation of "Life with Tears" has been widely concerned by Japanese TV circles since its broadcast. Takaharu Yokoyama, a well-known producer of Japanese documentaries, said that it was unprecedented for Japanese TV stations to broadcast foreign language documentaries with subtitles on mainstream Japanese channels, and it was in prime time.
The documentary "Our Life in Studying Abroad-Days in Japan" was shown in China, which aroused great social repercussions. China's former Japanese Prime Minister Zhu Rongji once commented during his visit to the State Council: "I was deeply moved after watching this documentary."
A 2 1 year-old male college student said, "This is the most touching movie in my life! At present, the employment problem of Japanese college students is more serious. I am about to graduate. I contacted many companies and failed. I lamented that I was born at the wrong time and my mood was very low. But living in tears changed my mind and gave me real courage. I will refuel! "
A 42-year-old female audience with red eyes said excitedly, "I am a fan of Zhang Liling's documentaries, and I am deeply moved by each of her works. Today, I took the whole family to watch Life with Tears. I cried while watching it, but it was not sad tears, but warm tears. My mind has been washed, which inspires me to love and cherish life more. This is the charm of Zhang Liling documentary. It took her ten years to shoot Life in Tears. I was deeply moved by the hero's love, hard work and perseverance for life and family. I once again realized that the virtues of China people are worth learning. I will introduce my friends to see it. "
A 49-year-old middle-aged man: "Five months ago, the company closed down and I lost my job. My family and mind are under great pressure. I even had extreme thoughts like turning into air. " Life with Tears gave me too much shock! My predicament can't be compared with the hero in the film. I will always follow his example and be a strong and unyielding man and father. It's my luck. When I was most depressed and desperate in my life, I met the movie "Life with Tears", which gave me hope and goal! Express deep gratitude and respect to the protagonist and producer! "
Comments on "Life in Tears" 9 A documentary "Life in Tears" broadcast on Fuji TV in 20xx was found on the Internet by an ordinary Japanese college student three years later. The young man who was worried about employment was deeply moved after reading it. With the idea that "such a good work should not be buried, but should be seen by more people", he began to lobby the film company and finally won 30 million yen in funding. 20xx165438+1October 28th, "Life with Tears" was released in Tokyo, and many viewers commented that it was greatly shocked and encouraged, saying that "the film brought warmth and hope to the Japanese who were marching forward in the cold wind of economic downturn".
This Chinese-Japanese co-production documentary aims at "Japanese illegally stranded" for the first time after it was spread to China. In the film, the father who works as a laborer in Japan to help his daughter study in the United States moved the Japanese audience so much that the subtitle group reminded him at the beginning of the film, "Dear sir, please prepare a pile of paper towels."
Life in Tears is the end of a series of documentaries "Our Life Studying Abroad-Days in Japan" launched by Zhang Liling, President of Dafu Company in 20xx, and it is also her masterpiece. The production of the whole film lasted 65,438+00 years, and it spread to the United States, Japan and China. In nearly two and a half hours, it was recorded that Ding Shangbiao, a native of China, was carrying a "black" identity and struggled to change her daughter's fate for 15 years.
The film was shot in four times, especially in two small parties. My daughter was admitted to new york State University as she wished, and finally she was able to meet her father whom she hadn't seen for eight years when she changed planes in Tokyo. Unfortunately, the time for the father and the daughter is only 24 hours, and because of illegal detention, the father had to get off at the first stop of the airport and stand on the platform to watch his daughter go away.
Five years later, my wife went to visit relatives in the United States, and this scene was staged again. The difference is that in order to earn her daughter's tuition, Mrding works three jobs every day. The second time I stood outside the window, my hair was sparse and my teeth were loose. He sobbed silently, as if he could feel his teeth leaking, which made him feel uncomfortable.
In addition to love and warmth, the persistence of the protagonist Ding Shangbiao is even more touching. He sacrificed the most precious prime of his life for his family, but he never complained about others or mentioned a word of regret.
Before leaving Japan, Ding Shangbiao revisited his hometown and returned to the remote mountain where he first studied. In front of the camera, he looked calm and whispered to the distance, "I really have no choice but to go on", but the last sentence was "Life is still happy." In Japan, where the number of suicides is five times that of traffic accidents, people often feel difficult to breathe under the pressure of life, but an illegally stranded China survived and was grateful.
Next to the movie poster of "Living with Tears" in a cinema in Shinjuku, Tokyo, the audience's feedback was posted: "Life should bite the bullet and move forward with tears, which is to prepare for laughter. So passed down from generation to generation. " "I deeply feel that having goals can make people strong."
Comment on Life with Tears 10 Every ordinary family has an extraordinary legend.
Ding Shangbiao, who was influenced by the Cultural Revolution, borrowed a large sum of money to go to Japan alone and spent 15 years alone in a foreign country.
This family has experienced pain that ordinary families cannot bear. Mr. and Mrs. Mrding worked hard for their daughter to study abroad. They lived apart and paid her tuition every day. Because his daughter was admitted to a state university in the United States and stopped in Japan on her way to the United States, he had the opportunity to meet her one day eight years later, just 24 hours. I smiled when I saw them meet, but the moment I saw them parting, my tears flowed down. Mrding works three jobs a day in Japan, and she can't eat well or live well, so she sends all her savings home. Compared with people nowadays, no man can do this. I can't stand being alone, let alone living so hard.
Later, Ding Yong went to the United States to study medicine, and their family lived in different places. The parents have paid too much for their daughter and their lives. In the future, I believe that the fate of their whole family has also been greatly reversed. In order to change the fate of the family, someone must pay first.
After reading it, I thought of myself. My parents always say that you don't want to study abroad. You have a younger brother, and our family can't afford it. Why? Other people's environment is fine, why can't I? There are too many questions worth pondering. Nevertheless, I can't ask my parents to give me anything, but if I want to change the fate of my family, someone must pay first. To tell the truth, without Ding Yong's efforts, no matter how much money her parents earn, it won't help.
Sometimes I feel that some people have no education and their family situation is not good. What about their children? Their family situation should be difficult to improve in the future, and then it will continue like this. Generation after generation is so poor! ! ! Chicken with chicken, duck with duck, turtle with turtle. Sometimes it is necessary!
In this case, I don't know how many lifetimes it will take to reach the status quo of other families, not to mention the times are constantly advancing. If you don't advance, you will retreat. Sometimes your parents really can't broaden their horizons. Why is it always like that? It is because their thoughts are too narrow! !
They can't change it, they can only change it themselves. They were reading palms that day. I thought it was interesting at first, but then I thought, why do you want to read palms? Because fate is in your own hands. Only you can change your destiny, and what you don't come will be used up one day. Come on, that "self"