On the evening of August 8th, organized by Teacher Lin Jing from Education Bureau, 1 1 teacher gathered in the activity center of the discipline. Everyone brought the book they read recently and shared the correct parenting theory and practical education methods they learned from this book.
First, teacher Zhen Yuling-active discipline
The last appendix of this book made me think a lot. Our Tianhe Middle School has also held several parent workshops, and the response has been good. After the parents' meeting, there was a lot of discussion among the parents in the group, but after a week, it was gone and no parents spoke. Can you hold such an activity to make it lasting and effective? Parents should read punch cards and books every day, link tools with book concepts, read a positive discipline book every week, and share their experiences and cases in using positive discipline tools. When encountering similar problems, parents can refer to them and share their answers in the group.
Second, Fan's inferiority and transcendence
Focus on sharing the seventh chapter: the influence of the school, and a few impressive words are:
When a child just goes to school, he is faced with a new experiment in social life, which will reveal any mistakes in his development. If he is spoiled at home, he may not want to leave his protected life or get along with other children. At home, I feel that his situation is particularly comfortable and there is no need to be tested here. But when he got to school, he was no longer favored. He felt that this situation was a blow.
If a teacher wants to attract children's attention, he must first understand what children's previous interests are and try to convince him that he can succeed in this interest and other interests. (case)
In the process of education, we should try our best to increase children's courage and confidence and help him eliminate all kinds of restrictions on his ability because of his interpretation of life. (Case: The child is not a good interpreter of the emotional wheel in the positive discipline tool. We should help the child to release emotions with words, not actions. Empathy is very important)
Third, the teacher care-inferiority and transcendence
Mainly share the sixth chapter: the influence of family.
In today's society, the role of the father is mostly vague, or the father is in a negative role. For example, if a child makes a mistake, many mothers will say to the child, "When your father comes back, you will know that it will be miserable." At home, they are only afraid of their father. Tell him and let him punish him!
Widowed Education of China Family
Dad is a symbol of authority.
(Mothers have a great influence on children in childhood) Fathers have a greater influence on girls, and girls know men from their father's window.
In a family, the roles of father and mother should be equal, and fathers should not be demonized.
Fourth, Teacher Zhang Xuyang-The Secret of Childhood
Two words are very important-self-knowledge and self-control!
Self-knowledge: Know yourself, know yourself, where are you from? Where are you going? Only by knowing yourself in a different way can you know your children.
Self-control: Control one's behavior.
Children's dependence, some children get good grades and behave well, and teachers like such clever students, but it will make children not creative.
Inferiority, children see the glass, adults will immediately stop: "be careful not to break this glass." Although other adults broke the glass, it was only a trivial matter and would not be punished or blamed. The child actually put all this in his eyes.
Children keep telling themselves: don't break this glass, the only one can't touch this glass, I'm not as valuable as this glass. Make him feel that nothing is valuable, does it suppress the child's behavior? Does it make children feel insecure and lack the courage to try?
Share a poem by Ji Bolun.
What you can give your child is your love, not your thoughts.
You can shelter their bodies, but not their souls. ...
Five, Lin Jing teacher Jerry's quiet space.
This picture book was written by jane nelsen. I found that it embodies many ideas of positive discipline and is suitable for children and adults.
Teacher Lin showed us the picture book page by page, and there were several ideas in it:
1. Jerry was very angry when he came back. His mother didn't scold him, but hugged him, indicating that he had established contact with his children before solving the problem.
2. Inspiring question, mom asked: How do you feel? what are you going to do？ Wait, these questions make Jerry think for himself.
3. Take the initiative to pause and get angry, so that children can establish a comfortable area in the room. Jerry likes space, so he built a comfortable and quiet area similar to space. Later, when Jerry was upset because of painting and dyeing, he also learned to calm down the space and take the initiative to pause.
Focusing on solving the current problem, my mother asked, "What other birthday gifts can we prepare for my father?"
Teacher Lin combines some performances of her three-year-old child, because she usually uses pd tools to communicate with her children, thinking that the children are still young and don't understand. Once, because he was playing with his partner, the child ran away and established his own quiet space. It turns out that the children just went to their mother's room to calm down. (Learned to take the initiative to pause)
When a child is sad, he wants to organize his own language with a wand.
Conclusion: Don't underestimate children, they are all brilliant psychologists.
Teacher Zhang Yin-Pippi stockings
This is a story that I often read with my children. It seems that it has nothing to do with discipline, but teacher Zhang thinks it has a lot to do with it.
Two homeless people came to Pippi's house to steal things, but Pippi wouldn't give them. Later, the tramp danced and Pippi gave him food and gold coins.
Pippi is actually: kind and firm, not spoiled and not punished.
Kindness means not scolding the homeless, but communicating with them seriously from beginning to end. The firm thing is not to give gold coins to homeless people.
Don't coddle: After making homeless people dance, they can get results by their own labor. Finally, Pippi gave them food and a gold coin.
Pippi is actually a pd practitioner!
Seven, Wu Yuhua-the power of the game
The child stole candy in the supermarket. The father and the child played a joke and didn't embarrass the child. Let the child help him get the change, knowing that he is understood and valuable, and he will not feel guilty for taking other people's things.
Parents playing games with their children when they make mistakes can also correct their children's bad behavior instead of punishing and blaming them. When children feel better, their natural behavior will also become better.
This way supplements the missing elements of the child, effectively establishes the child's sense of value and establishes contact with the child when making mistakes.
Contact with children in this way and show our attitude in some humorous ways.
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As parents, we should be more energetic, more interesting and more powerful. How can parents have positive energy? Two methods:
Fill our cups with love: listening and talking. Just suppress your feelings and listen to him quietly, just like
Give, share and make yourself full of energy. Only when you feel good can you do it well.
Teacher Chen 1. Handbook of Social Skills Training for American Students
Children's expressions and behaviors need close attention from teachers and parents. This book provides a good model.
Characters' expressions and language convey emotions. Between people, a safe distance,
Behind gratitude is the expression of emotion.
Take care of others' emotions
Recommended index: five stars
2. Psychology
A textbook of the university, often picked up and read, will have the feeling of reading often and being new! !
3. How does the new family shape people?
Although the family structure abroad is different from ours, many essential things are the same. How to build a harmonious family can be read carefully. The recommended index is five stars.
Nine, Xu Tao teacher-positive discipline A-Z.
Five standards of positive discipline: I ask my children while reading, is my mother kind? Firm? Wait, I found that the child is a good observer, and every bit of you about the child is in my heart.
Long-term effectiveness, long-term ineffectiveness, an example of slippers thrown into the trash can.
Let children do housework together. Mother washes clothes and the children hang them. Mother cooks and the children help pick vegetables. The children help buy soy sauce. As long as the mother invites them, the children are willing to do it and make them feel valuable.
It is a good habit to practice calligraphy and study for 2 hours, because the mother often follows up and urges, and the child's habit is naturally developed!
I won't make such a mistake in the future, because my mother followed closely.
Is there any effective follow-up: collecting schoolbags, eating and watching TV, non-stop, children know that their mother will not care about this matter, so it is very important to follow up and be firm.
Bad tone, bad expression, I suggest my mother use the word "please" and be polite.
Conclusion: Children have strong judgment.
"Can you make children feel that they are very capable?"
X. Mr. Chen Yan-teach slowly and raise children well.
High emotional intelligence comes from a sense of security and belonging, which is only given by parents.
Equal treatment in personality,
Solving problems comes from family background. Being born in a family has a lifelong influence on children. We have learned a lot in life, but we have not learned how to be parents. Our parents are through blind date or something. I feel normal after quarreling all my life, and my parents came over in a quarrel.
We envy family harmony, but now we can adjust ourselves and adjust ourselves. Children benefit, parents benefit, and most importantly, you benefit. Soft and firm, like water, the softer you are, the easier it is to conquer. Everyone is happy because of himself.
Domestic and foreign, core literacy, children's personality, superior concept, inferior gap.
Question and answer session
1. Miss Xu Tao: Children behave well at home. Why don't they behave well at school?
Teachers should acknowledge parents' opinions and ask them to show videos to the whole class.
Let's win a sense of value and use an open platform to present it when we don't perform well in front of our classmates. I am embarrassed. So we must do better.
2. Touch other children's toys?
(The child touched someone else's things) That thing is more important than himself. For a long time, I felt that everything around me was an obstacle. When I used to play with other people's things, I would ask: Can I borrow it?
Shall we exchange toys?
Play together on the premise of respecting others.
The ownership of personal belongings, this discussion continues.
Study and grow together, share wisdom, and look forward to regular reading salon activities every month. Look at your friend's voice.