Criticism is an art. If it is not handled properly, it will do great harm to children. It can be said that blindly criticizing children is a violent way of education, and it is not recommended to follow suit. Children are too young to be sensible and often make parents angry. Therefore, criticism is inevitable.
According to the experiment of Dr. Ethan Cross of the University of Michigan, when a person is attacked by verbal violence, his emotional pain is very similar to his physical pain, and the nervous system can experience almost the same degree of pain.
In other words, when parents abuse their children, the emotional trauma suffered by the children is comparable to the pain of physical injury! Children who are often scolded are prone to cowardice, depression, mental anxiety, eccentricity, learning to lie and bad temper.
So parents must attach great importance to it. Children who are often scolded will have the following psychological obstacles.
1. Weak and inferior.
2. Psychological depression and loneliness. Because children are often scolded, their self-esteem will be seriously hurt. They give up on themselves, think that they are "inferior", doubt their abilities, and are unwilling to associate with others, which leads to their withdrawn and silent personality.
3. grumpy. Parents often beat and scold their children, setting a bad example for them. Children are very good at imitation. Parents often beat and scold their children, and they also bully and scold other children outside, especially younger children. Psychological imbalance and satisfaction often lead to children's moodiness, which leads to some psychological diseases.
So what should parents do?
Adele Faber, a famous American pediatrician, once said, "Never underestimate the impact of your words on your child's life." What parents should do most is to spend more time with their children, pay attention to their recent situation, and once they deviate from the right track, get back on track in time. In the face of children's learning problems, we must be persuasive and guide them slowly to avoid eating into a big fat man at one go.
Don't be too harsh. There is nothing wrong with being harsh, but being too harsh is harsh. Asking children to do something or accomplish a certain goal is a wrong way of education.
It is normal to criticize children. It's not that we are not allowed to criticize. However, parents should pay attention to moderate and reasonable criticism and don't bring irreparable harm to their children. Therefore, we advocate the critical concept of the mean.