Teacher Yang told a story about the family life of an ordinary man and woman. The work is very easy to read, the language is simple and the content is grounded. Let me briefly introduce the content: telling a 60-year-old marriage story, no violent conflict, no ups and downs, no domestic violence, no infidelity, no escape, and so on.
Dr. Lu, who studied at the Communist Labor University and got to know the county hospital, fell in love with each other at the first meeting. Because of his family background, Chen Huicai is about to be sent to the countryside. At this time, marrying Dr. Lu seems to be the best way out.
Cai Hui likes Dr. Lu very much, but has no desire to get married at once, because they just met and have only met each other two or three times. She is only 20 years old, and she wants to continue her studies, and she doesn't want to get married so young. But for practical reasons, she married Dr. Lu.
After marriage, the longing for marriage was quickly shattered. Although Dr. Lu is the one who offered to get married, it seems that he is not prepared to make any changes in his life because of his marriage. His spiritual affiliation still belongs to this unit. At work, he is generous and friendly to colleagues, patients and fellow villagers, but he is cold and strict with his new wife.
From today's perspective, many of Lu's practices can be called cold violence. Cai Hui didn't understand, but kept mumbling, "I didn't expect you to be bad to me …" In her pain, she wanted to seek relief and commit suicide, but the sleeping face of the child stopped her, and she said to herself, "No! I gave birth to her, you should keep her ... "
Living in the chicken feathers of rice, oil and salt continued day by day, and with 60 years, it entered the later stage of life.
This work was written from the perspective of Cai Hui. The hero and heroine are in the same boat, and each has its own grievances. At first, they all had a good impression on each other. There are many elements in marriage, but more often, the heroine Cai Hui feels that marriage has deeply hurt her.
When life gradually calmed down, the reader thought that with the growth of children and the improvement of living conditions, the couple could finally reconcile, but the end of the book reversed this expectation.
When asked Lu, would you like to be with me in the next life? Dr. Lu answered "No" clearly and without hesitation. These three words express his feelings about marriage.
At this point, we can be sure that two people who have spent their lives together are completely frustrated in their feelings, while those who should have been warm to each other have hurt each other. Why on earth is this?
Teacher Yang once explained why she wrote this book: I just want to write about a woman's emotional experience, an ordinary marriage, in which there are no bad people, but it is full of pain. There are my observation of life, sympathy for women's situation, and of course my own feelings, including confusion. And this puzzle has not been answered after it was written.
A reporter asked Mr. Yang, have you solved your confusion after writing this book? Have you put it down since then? Teacher Yang answered, not at all, neither answering nor putting down.
Sadly, life is more difficult than novels and life is more complicated than novels. I also see from Teacher Yang that a woman's regret that she can't get emotional satisfaction all her life will not disappear with her age.
As time goes on, the wound will not heal. On the contrary, because life is getting closer and closer to the end, it is easier for people to examine their gains and losses in life. The feelings they have been longing for but never got turned into sharp knives and stabbed their hearts again.
Older women are usually an invisible group, and their emotional life is ignored. When they were young, their survival was often in crisis, and their spiritual life was inevitably regarded as a luxury.
My Fragrance fills a gap in contemporary China literature creation. Obviously, there are so many similar marriages, which are calm on the surface, but there is an undercurrent of spiritual crisis in the depths, but few writers have explored and written in this field.
Teacher Yang wrote, without whitewashing, to face up to his own experience and the truth of marriage, not only wrote down the desolation in marriage, but also wrote down some precious memories for the hero and heroine. She said it was a brave book, and I thought so.
Dr. Helu reminds me of my mother-in-law and father-in-law. They are really alike. My father-in-law treats his work and life carefully. Very masculine.
Lu looks like a familiar person around him. He is not an individual, but a group image. Dr. Lu represents a kind of people.
In my opinion, Dr. Lu is a typical male image bred by patriarchal culture. Many men have characteristics similar to those of Dr. Lu, which is called male chauvinism in popular words. Are there few male chauvinists? Of course a lot. So, is Lu strange? In fact, it is not uncommon, and it is not surprising.
There is a saying that a person was born in 2000. When a person is born, in the process of growing up, some inherent things and concepts in the environment gradually form the construction of his mind and brain.
Live a good life, because you never know when your life will be unexpectedly wonderful; Write well, because every life is magnificent, and life without records is blowing in the wind, as if it never existed.
I gave Mr. Yang Benfang a great compliment. He entered the old age and dared to write this book. We should all learn to record. Life is valuable.