The word "love" is of great significance in China. Family ties connect the closest people in the world by blood. It is the love that is hard to give up that gives us a sense of belonging. No matter where we are, we can feel that our families are silently supporting us behind our backs.
Fate always likes to play tricks on people. When a multiple-choice question about love and affection was placed in front of the painter Fan Ceng, the master figure chose to sever the relationship with his own daughter, and even if he became famous in his later years, he was inevitably lonely.
Reach the peak and control the dispute
When a person's ability is enough to support him to be active in the eyes of the public, there will inevitably be many voices of praise and doubt in his ears. Excluding some "laymen" who point fingers at Fan Ceng's works, the views of insiders are worth discussing.
Yang Zhenning, winner of the Nobel Prize in Physics, commented that Fan Ceng is a contemporary master and a great calligrapher, which is rare for hundreds of years.
Li Ao, a current affairs critic, mocked Fan Ceng's calligraphy, which is the standard of Mr. Accountant. Compared with the works of a calligraphy lover, it may not have any advantages. Fan Ceng's paintings look good at first sight, but they look the same after seeing them too much.
Controversy like this has never stopped. Fan Ceng described his calligraphy level as "fresh and elegant". Everyone is familiar with self-evaluation: "self-criticism, self-confidence does not make Chu worry." .
It can be seen that Fan Ceng is first of all a self-affirming person, and whether his strength is consistent with his self-cognition is the subjective answer in everyone's mind. Sweet words must be borne, which is also the helplessness of standing on the mountain peak.
Love is bumpy, and finally I get a bosom friend.
As the saying goes, art comes from life. As a master with high artistic achievements, Fan Ceng's life is really complicated and colorful. It is the accumulation of life bit by bit that makes a literary exporter who integrates the true feelings into his works.
Fan Ceng, in particular, took many detours emotionally and experienced three marriages. Fortunately, she finally found a suitable partner for the rest of her life.
If time can stay at the moment when we first met.
Fan Ceng's first wife's name was Lin Xiu, and Lin Xiu and Fan Ceng shared the same hobby. One is a lady who is good at calligraphy, and the other is a talented China painter who is good at painting. This is the best memory of Seeds of Love, Fan Ceng. The so-called first love is the first ignorant test of love.
The first time I gave my heart and soul, the first time I was impulsive and persistent? When all this is put into another person, it also brings unprecedented pressure to the lover. Fan Ceng and Lin Xiu regard each other as all their expectations, ignoring every shortcoming and the side effects brought by running-in.
A relationship that no one is willing to compromise is like a knotted dense net, which constantly leaks out the once love. Two people persisted in this marriage for five years, and the initial throb was exhausted. Finally, they decided not to pull each other, and chose to let go, fulfill each other and fulfill themselves.
Marriage with unequal love
Fan Ceng's second wife's name is Bian Bao Hua. Compared with, Bian's love came earlier. Both of them are students of the Central Academy of Fine Arts. As a student, Bian fell in love with Fan Zeng. At that time, there was no response to Bian's admiration.
In Fan Ceng's eyes, Bian is just "radish and sweet potato". When his first marriage broke up, Bian always accompanied, supported and accompanied him. Fan Ceng's devotion to Bian is obvious, and it is in this situation that they decided to get married.
It can be seen that the feelings for Bian are mainly gratitude. In the most depressed time, there appeared a person who was willing to reach out to himself. It can also be said that this marriage is a way to get rid of the sadness brought by the previous marriage, and Bian's love for it is long-lasting.
A marriage can be maintained on the basis of two people's feelings, then an unequal relationship may be doomed to be separated from the beginning, and twenty years of maintenance has brought a scribbled ending.
Extremely romantic and extremely contradictory
Fan Ceng's third marriage began with love at first sight. This romantic bridge should have been beautified to the extreme, but it fell in love with the old man's lover, and at this time did not end the marriage with Bian. Speaking of which, this Fan Ceng got a lot of help from this old buddy.
It's really embarrassing that such a thing has hurt mutual affection for many years. In pursuit of love, both of them chose to abandon their original family and walk together. Fan Ceng's third wife, Nan Li, was originally named Zhang Guiyun. Although Fan Ceng is fearless in pursuing love, she doesn't want to be the center of discussion all the time.
So after we got married, Zhang Guiyun and I changed our names together. Nan Li was originally an ordinary northeast woman named Zhang Guiyun by her ex-husband. After being with Fan Ceng, she suddenly became a Japanese-born China Nan Li, which also shows that both of them know that what they have done can't stand the moral and ethical trial, so they have to avoid it by packaging.
The choice between love and affection
In three relationships, Fan Ceng left only one daughter, Fan Xiaohui, with his second wife. It is said that my daughter is my father's intimate little cotton-padded jacket and my father's little lover in his last life. As the only daughter of Fan Ceng, Fan Xiaohui failed to feel the mutual affection between father and daughter.
After ending the 20-year marriage with Bian Changda, out of a feeling of "begging", I had to choose to sever the relationship with my daughter and no longer bear the responsibility and love for her as a father. As outsiders, it is difficult for us to really know whether Nan Li and Fan Xiaohui have reached the point of incompatibility.
However, for Fan Ceng in Boldness and Beauty, the choice that has been made cannot be reversed, and the blood relationship that has been severed cannot be redeemed. At the same time, he and his two sons changed their surnames to "Fan" and re-established a family of four. From Fan Xiaohui's point of view, how harmful my father's actions are.
In the short decades of life, the most difficult thing to control is your heart, who you fall in love with, how to love someone, and how long you love them, as if the answers to these questions will never be fixed. Fame and fortune are just external things. Everyone wants to go through life, and when he turns around, he finds another person around him.
From Bian to Bian, fortunately, after many twists and turns, he finally found the love of his life and determined that person. Since she chose to sever ties with her ex-wife's daughter for the sake of her present wife, it is also doomed that Fan Ceng will not be accompanied by her own children in her later years.
We don't know if he will regret dreaming in the middle of the night. As the saying goes, a complicated life needs constant understanding, and all choices will turn into cause and effect to give you the answer.