Generally speaking, there is a family that runs in its family? Confrontation? Phenomenon, parents feel that they do their own things, so that children will be more independent and self-reliant, while the older generation thinks that children are still young, and some things should be done by parents. Fortunately, this didn't happen in our family. I once asked my mother: why are you different from other parents and willing to let your children? Suffering? ? ? Mother answered me with a story.
When she was young, there was a master among the friends she grew up with? Envy? Other children also help to share the housework at home, such as washing clothes, cooking and even taking care of younger brothers and sisters. Only he still lives in the favor of his parents. Every morning when he gets up, his mother will make him wash his face, give him a toothbrush and squeeze toothpaste, and eat in bed when he doesn't want to get up in cold weather. These treatments are unimaginable to other small partners, and this life has continued to the university.
In fact, his academic performance is not good. For a better life in the future, his parents sent his children to college. After school, boys who are used to all the arrangements are very uncomfortable. Every time they put dirty clothes and socks in their schoolbags and take them home for washing. What's more, the boy began to borrow money, and his classmates borrowed almost as much, but I didn't know that in order to let him go to school, the family had already made ends meet. As the boy couldn't get the money from his parents, he began to find a way by himself. The frivolous boy soon went astray. In a robbery, he accidentally stabbed a man to death. He never saw the boy again. No one knows what happened to him, but his parents stabbed him in the back all their lives.
Professor Li Meijin once said: If you want your child to be excellent, you should let him go through these hardships from an early age:
1, study hard
Knowledge changes fate? If you want to change yourself, reading is the most convenient and effective way, but many children will complain that reading is too bitter, but how can you not freeze to plum blossom fragrance? Think of those children who are far away from the mountains and may have to walk for hours to go to school. They really suffer from studying, but even that didn't stop them from going out of the mountains.
Many people will feel that ability seems to be the foundation of a person compared with academic qualifications. I can only laugh at this idea. A friend who works in the top 500 told me that there is an unwritten rule at the job fair that they will put aside the resume of 985 University and only take it away after the job fair. In other words, no matter how strong your ability is, if you don't study, you will be like an eagle. You can fly very high, but you can only stay in a cage. No one will see your ability.
2. Heavy work
Children should carry their own schoolbags: you just have to learn the others well. You don't have to do it. ?
The child wants to help clean up: as long as you study, can your mother do these things?
I once saw a question and answer: why can't children now raise their hands against their shoulders? The answer is simple: parents are used to it! Nowadays, parents always want to give their children the best, but they ignore their self-care ability and even dress and eat for their children. In the first episode of Metamorphosis, a 16-year-old girl needs her mother to feed her and cut her nails, but she plays with her mobile phone with a clear conscience. Good children are cultivated? Giant baby? .
Just like my mother's childhood partner, she has never suffered from labor since she was a child, and she will only go astray when she grows up. What parents should do is to let their children understand the essence of life and teach them the confidence to love life and the courage to face life. Only in this way can they face difficulties in the future.
3. Failure is painful
We always talk about it? Friendship first, competition second? Just remind the contestants not to care too much about the result, the process is the most important. Some time ago, my son's school held a sports meeting, and a child who lost and didn't win the prize was very sad. In order to comfort him, the teacher had to let him play again. Fortunately, this time he won the second place and won the trophy.
At school, the teacher will give you another chance. Is there any chance to enter the society? The answer is definitely no. No one will pay for your mistakes. Failure is failure. If you can't accept failure and give up when you encounter setbacks, that means you won't taste the sweetness of life.
Parents should know how to force their children, and let them know that the sunshine always comes after the storm, first bitter and then sweet. The pain now is to face life better in the future and not be defeated by life. Don't let your child become a person who can't stand setbacks because of your doting.