Five-minute Youth Inspirational Speech (1) This speech about how 20-year-old people look at life has aroused the discussion of many TED fans. David webb, from the TEDx organization team, said: Meg pointed out that the most important thing is that young people need to realize that it is important for their own development to accumulate experience and vision as soon as possible, whether they are 20 or 30 years old. "30 years old is not the new 20 years old. Your life is up to you.
I remember the first time I met a psychological counseling client, I was only in my twenties. I am a doctoral student in clinical psychology at Berkeley. My first customer was a woman named Alex, 26 years old. When I first met Alex, she came in wearing jeans and a shirt. She plunged into the sofa in my office, kicked off her flat shoes and told me that she wanted to talk about boys.
I'm relieved to hear that. Because my classmate's first client is an arsonist, and my client is a girl in her early twenties who wants to talk about boys. I think I can handle it. But I didn't fix it.
Alex kept telling interesting things, and I could only simply nod my head and agree with what she said, so naturally I fell into a state of echo. Alex said, "30 is the new 20." Yes, I told her "You are right". It's still early to work, get married, have children, and even die. People in their twenties like Alex and I have plenty of time and nothing.
But not long after, my tutor asked me to put pressure on Alex's love life. I retorted, "Of course she's seeing someone else now. She is sleeping with a silly boy now, but it seems that she will not marry him. " And my tutor said, "Don't worry, she may marry the next one." But the best time to repair Alex's marriage is when she is not married. "
This is what psychologists call an "epiphany moment". It was then that I realized that 30 years old is not the new 20 years old.
It is true that people settle down later than before, but that doesn't mean that Alex can stay for a long time in his twenties. Settling down later should make Alex's twenties a golden time for development, while we sat there and ignored this opportunity for development. From then on, I realized that this kind neglect is really a problem, which not only brings bad consequences to Alex and her love life, but also affects the careers, families and future of people in their twenties everywhere.
At present, there are 50 million people in their twenties in the United States, that is, 15% of the population, or the whole population, because all adults have to go through their twenties. I specialize in people in their twenties, because I firmly believe that every one of these 50 million people in their twenties should know what psychologists, sociologists, neurologists and fertility experts already know: your twenties are one of the extremely simple but extremely changing periods. Your career, love, happiness and even the whole world are determined by your twenties.
This is not my opinion. These are the facts. We know that 80% of the decisive moments in your life occur before you are 35 years old. This means that 80% of the important decisions, experiences and sudden insights in your life happen before you are in your thirties. Those friends over 40 don't panic. I think these people will be fine.
We know that the first 10 years of your career have a great influence on your future income. We know that by the age of 30, more than half of Americans will get married, live together or date their future partners. We know that when people are in their twenties, their brains will stop the second and last reorganization to adapt to the rapid development of the adult world. This means that no matter how you want to change yourself, it's time to change.
We know that when we are in our twenties, our personality changes more than at any time in our lives. We also know that the best reproductive period for women reaches its peak at the age of 28, and it becomes difficult to have children after 35. So twenties is the time to know yourself and your choices.
Thinking of children's growth, we all know that 1-5 years old is an important period for the brain to learn language and sense. The daily life during this period will have a great influence on your future road. However, we rarely hear about adult development, and the twenties are the key to adult development.
But people in their twenties can't hear this. Newspapers only discuss changes in the age limit for adulthood. Researchers call the twenties prolonged adolescence. Journalists use silly nicknames to address people in their twenties, such as "Twixters" (twenty-year-old bastards) and "kids" (children-kidults). It's true. As a culture, we ignore the decade that plays a decisive role in adulthood (from 20 to 30 years old).
Leonard bernstein said: To achieve something, you need a plan and a tight schedule. This is the truth! So when you pat a man in his twenties on the head and tell him, "You have an extra 10 years to start your life", what do you think this has changed? Nothing has changed. You just took away that person's sense of urgency and ambition, and nothing changed.
Then every day those smart and interesting people in their twenties, just like you and your children, come into my office and start saying, "I know my boyfriend is not good enough for me, but our relationship doesn't count." I was just killing time. "or" everyone told me that it is enough to start a career at the age of 30. "
But it actually sounds like: "I'm almost thirty, but I have nothing to show." I just graduated from college and have the most beautiful resume. Or like this: "Dating in your twenties is like finding a stool. Everyone ran around the stool and played casually, but it was almost 30, as if the music had stopped and everyone began to sit. I don't want to stand alone, so sometimes I think my husband and I got married because he was the nearest stool when I was 30 years old. "
People in their twenties, don't do this. This may sound rash, but don't make mistakes, because the risk is high. When many things are crowded into the thirties, there will be great pressure to start a business quickly, choose a city, find a partner and have two or three children in a short time. Most of these things cannot be done at the same time. Studies have shown that at the age of 30, it is very difficult and stressful to work and live in one step.
The midlife crisis after the Millennium is not a red sports car. But realize that you can't have the career you want, realize that you can't have the child you want, or add a brother or sister to your child. Too many people in their thirties and forties, looking at themselves and me, sit in the room and talk about their twenties, "What did I do at that time? I thought about it at the time? " I want to change the thinking and practice of people in their twenties now.
Here I want to tell a story to illustrate the problem. This story is about a woman named Emma. When she was 25 years old, she walked into my office, in her own words, because she had a crisis of self-awareness. She said that she might want to work in the arts or entertainment, but she hasn't decided yet. So, she has been working as a waitress for the past few years. In order to reduce expenses, she lives with her boyfriend, who is a grumpy and unambitious person.
Just like her miserable twenties, her early life was even more miserable. She often cries in conversation and tries to calm down and say, "You can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends." One day, Emma came in, put her hands on her knees and sobbed for nearly an hour. She just bought a new address book and spent the whole morning filling in the contact information. When she filled in "In case of emergency, please contact ...", she had no one to fill in.
She looked at me and almost collapsed and said, "If I was hit by a car, who would it be?" If I have cancer, who will be there? In that case, I made great efforts to hold back from saying "I will". "What Emma needs is not what the physiotherapist really cares about. She needs a better life, and I know this is her chance. I have learned a lot from this job since Alex. I can't just sit there and watch Emma's golden decade disappear. So in the next few weeks and months, I told Emma three things that all boys and girls in their twenties should listen to. First of all, I told Emma to forget the crisis of self-awareness and gain some identity capital.
Identity capital refers to doing things that increase self-worth. Do something and invest in the person you want to be next. I don't know what Emma's future job will be like, and no one knows what her future job will be like, but I know that identity capital will create more identity capital.
Now it's time to try the overseas job, internship or new starting point you want. I don't despise self-exploration in my twenties, but I despise those explorations that don't matter if I just play around, or in a sense, that's not exploration. That's procrastination! I told Emma to explore and make her exploration pay off.
Second, I told Emma not to overestimate her circle of friends.
Good friends will drive you to the airport, while people in their twenties who hang out with "like-minded friends" have limited social circle, knowledge, way of thinking, way of speaking and work level. New capital or new appointments often come from outside the internal social circle. New things come from what we call "distant relatives", friends of friends of our friends.
Yes, half of people in their twenties are unemployed and underemployed. But the other half is not like this. "Distant relationship" is the link for you to integrate into new groups. Half of the new jobs are never advertised, so contacting your neighbor's boss is your way to find those jobs that are not advertised. This is not cheating, it is a scientific way of information dissemination.
Last but not least, Emma thinks you can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends. But this is just what happened when she was growing up.
As a person in her twenties, Emma will soon start a new family with someone. I told Emma that it's time for you to choose a family. Now you may think it's better to have a family than when you were 20, 25 or 30. I agree with you. But when all your friends on Facebook start getting married, if you just find someone to live and sleep with, it's definitely not the process of getting married.
The best time to manage your marriage is when you are not married, which means you should plan as carefully as you do your work. Choosing a family is consciously choosing the people and things you want, rather than choosing someone who chooses you just to get married or kill time.
What happened to Emma?
We looked through the address book and found that her former roommate's cousin worked in an art gallery in another state. This estranged relationship helped her find a job there. This job gave her a reason to leave her cohabiting boyfriend. Today, five years later, she is a museum special event planner. She married a man she chose with her heart. She loves her career and her new home. She sent me a card that said, "It seems that the emergency contact bar is not enough now."
Emma's story sounds simple, which is why I like dealing with people in their twenties. It is easy to help people in their twenties. Being in your twenties is like a plane flying from Los Angeles to somewhere in the west. After taking off, a little change will affect whether to land in Alaska or Fiji.
Similarly, when you are 2 1, 25 or even 29 years old, a good speech, a good rest and a good TED talk will have a great influence on the next few years or even generations. So this idea is worth conveying to everyone in their twenties you know. The idea is as simple as what I told Alex later.
I say to people in their twenties like Emma every day: 30 is not the new 20, so plan your adult life, get some identity capital, use your distant relatives and choose your family. Don't be trapped by things you don't know and haven't done. What you do now determines your life.
Youth inspirational speech 5 minutes speech (2) speech is a person's eloquence and ability. It shows that everyone is very interested in inspirational speeches. Brief Introduction of Heilongjiang Foreign Affairs School Network —— Youth Inspirational Speech by the Principal after 1990s.
Hello, everyone, I am a post-90 s CEO. Many people say that the post-90s generation is sloppy, free and irresponsible. I think it has nothing to do with their age. I come from a very poor family, and my parents sell pork in the market. Then I especially hate the taste of pork and the bad smell in the market since I was a child. My father said, Wen Jia, if you don't work hard, you will sell pork in the market like me all your life. So I have spent ten times and twenty times more efforts than others since I was a child, trying to be a different person.
I went out to do business at the age of fourteen, when I was a freshman. When many friends around me were still immersed in simple campus life, I made a high school student dating website. In my sophomore year, I earned the first pot of gold in my life:1000000 RMB. When I was in the third year of high school, I suddenly felt that if I immersed myself in this kind of small money every day, my life would not make great progress, so I thought I should go to college and make more friends. When I came to the university, I found that the teacher couldn't teach me anything at all. Then I rented a small house opposite the school and started my second venture. I have been an unpleasant person since I was a child, so no one will like me, which makes me very lonely. But sometimes loneliness makes me grow up quickly, because I know that only by myself can I run very hard.
In fact, the management of our company is the same. I feel like a wild child, running around the company barefoot every day, and then sitting on the ground with the staff at the meeting. I told my staff that you should be wild, because we are all wild children and we must live. I told them to fight if the problem can't be solved, or fight if it can't be solved. I'll pay for hospitalization. In our company, all the medical expenses of employees are free, and so are the medical expenses of parents. I cut off the human resources department of the company, and I let the employees pay their own salaries. I'm too lazy to tell you what your salary is. So in this case, our company is particularly wild and disorganized, but its performance runs very fast. It costs eight yuan for the same company outside to buy an internet user, and I can get it with three cents. So I think the culture of an enterprise is actually the character of the boss. No boss in China dares to do this like me, because they don't have my courage. Many people say that you can't suffer after 90. Some people even say, Yu Jiawen, you are successful today because you are lucky. Yes, I did achieve financial freedom when I was young, and my parents didn't have to do business anymore. Everyone says that your family has good feng shui, good ancestral home and good luck. There is no such thing. I have experienced many painful things, too.
Last August, my company went bankrupt, and investors called me and said, Yu Jiawen, I want to withdraw my capital, so I won't vote for you. So all of a sudden, 100 employees' salaries were beyond my reach; I can't afford the property management fee and the rent of hundreds of thousands a month. I had to pay a six-month lease renewal, so I was chased by the property and everything in the company was confiscated. It is really "everyone is happy." I went to the hospital for a check-up. The doctor diagnosed me with lymphoma. At that time, I was particularly afraid of death. I'm very scared. I said I lost so many bad things that I had to solve them. How can I die without solving them? So I list all my basic things as small things and do everything. The first thing I do is that I need 200 thousand. I think it only takes 200 thousand to turn over. Then I called all the phones in my phone address book, and no one was willing to lend me 200 thousand, not even my so-called good friends. The last friend who had the worst relationship with me lent me 200 thousand. With this 200 thousand, I found a very simple venue, even the table was covered with boards and tablecloths and went to work. I told more than 0/00 employees of the company/KLOC-that, first, I can't afford it, and I may not be able to afford it in the next two months, three months or even six months, but if you are willing to accompany me, I will give you very good and better living conditions. My staff promised to accompany me to eat fried noodles and serve rice porridge every day, which is what we did. We are very, very crazy. At that time, on the one hand, I needed financing, on the other hand, I needed to negotiate with investors, and on the other hand, I had to deal with debts. On the one hand, I have to do so many messy things in the company: computers and network cables. Then I have to go to the hospital, you know? Fortunately, really, I tripled the company's performance in two months, which surprised my investors and thought the company was terrible. Then when I got the inspection report of the hospital at that time and found it was misdiagnosed, I was actually very calm. There is only one sentence in my heart: Yu Jiawen, you are great!
I saw many young people present today, but I don't think many young people are young at all today. What is youth? I vaguely remember when I was in kindergarten, and then the teacher asked a question, which child understood? We all raised our hands and said, teacher, I know I know. But many people here today actually dare not. Why? You are afraid of answering wrong, being left out in the cold, and being denied by others. I think some shackles make you not young at all. True youth is to get rid of your own shackles. The brave are fearless, without shackles, you will be more energetic and courageous, and do more and more things. Don't talk about the post-90s generation, and it's no big deal. Today, seeing that the whole society is touting the post-90s generation, I think we should pay tribute to our predecessors born in the 1960s, 1970s and 1980s. They created this era and created a very good environment for us. So I never call myself the post-90s generation. I said I was a young man. Young minds and young ideas are always welcome, but the post-90s generation will definitely pass. Thank you!