With the acceptance of "open and free" blind date by more and more single young men and women, social phenomena such as trial marriage, flash marriage and early marriage have also emerged one after another. Blind date is more common now.

Walking in the street the other day, I heard a girl who looked like a junior high school student exchange stories with her classmates about her sister's blind date. It can be said that blind date has penetrated into all ages.

But here I want to ask you a question: How did you break up with your blind date?

I have a cousin who quarreled with her blind date many times because of her short stature and was rejected by her blind date every time. Fortunately, my cousin is a cheerful and optimistic girl. Even though she has been rejected many times, she still wants to find a sweet love through blind date.

Cousin, with a college degree, is a little over one and a half meters tall. After graduation, she returned to her hometown to work. Now she works in a tea shop in the county. Her appearance is not too outstanding, but she looks good after wearing makeup.

"Although it takes at least five blind dates, the other party can also have a crush on me, but I just can't talk about it. Because I am short, it is really too difficult to refuse me directly! "

In fact, among human emotions, love is the most complicated and the most difficult to express and explain. However, if love is not produced in the best way, it is a good choice to look for it with the help of external factors.

In a universally applicable phrase, all roads lead to Rome. Although blind date is good, we should also understand what blind date is: blind date is to put the conditions of both parties on the table to match, and then talk about feelings when the match is almost complete. Therefore, without much emotional foundation, shortcomings will naturally stand out.

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After graduating from graduate school, Zhang Xue devoted himself to his work and was not worried about his marriage at all. If it weren't for his parents' feelings, Zhang Xue really didn't want to put down his face and go to a blind date.

Although Zhang Xue, who is 30 years old in the eyes of her family, is still a "little girl", she can only be said to be an "older woman" when she is mentioned to others. Parents often ask relatives and friends around her to find an object with similar conditions for Zhang Xue.

My daughter's age is getting older every day, and children of the same age in my hometown are basically married and have children, and those who are not married are also married.

I've only been married for a year or two. Seeing that my daughter is not in a hurry to find someone, my parents have to worry about her.

To tell the truth, Zhang Xue is still single, and he can't blame others for being picky. She can only blame herself for not caring about finding someone, because her own conditions are really not bad.

I graduated from 985 school with a master's degree. After graduation, I went to the top three hospitals in my hometown to be a doctor. I have a slap in the face, double eyelids and no serious injuries to my five senses. It can be said that I am an amateur before makeup and a beautiful girl after makeup.

There is also a younger brother ten years younger than her at home. My father is a junior high school teacher and my mother is a full-time housewife. Before, he also did some small business. His parents are open-minded and don't have the old idea of "son preference".

A few years ago, the house in Zhang Xue's rural hometown caught up with the demolition tide and was divided into three houses. Zhang Xue's parents sold one of them and bought her a new one as her future dowry.

"Mom, do you want to marry your baby daughter so much? Even if you are in a hurry to marry me, don't introduce me to these blind dates with poor academic qualifications and poor family conditions every day. What a waste of my time. Your daughter is not unwanted! "

I would like to mention here that because parents are very concerned about her age and feel that she is slightly inferior to her, every time the blind date introduced to Zhang Xue is either older than her, or the family conditions are not so good, even if the conditions improve, no one dares to have a daughter.

In fact, as early as school, there were many suitors around Zhang Xue. She also talked about a relationship, and later broke up because they worked in different places for a long time.

Although she refused her parents' blind date arrangement, her family, including colleagues and friends around her, would introduce her to her from time to time. Out of politeness, Zhang Xue will still accept it gladly.

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However, after several blind dates, Zhang Xue found that either the man's family conditions made him dissatisfied (the man's hometown was in a small city and countryside, and his parents' education and income were very low), or the other party disdained her and did not like her age.

Nevertheless, the failure of blind date didn't make her feel depressed. As usual, she devoted herself to her work, or refused her parents' blind date arrangement by saying "Your daughter is in good condition and can't get married". Zhang Xue doesn't care about her emotional problems, but her parents at home are very anxious.

Once, a colleague in the hospital introduced her to a blind date. She is the same age, graduated with a master's degree, works in the finance department of state-owned enterprises, and has a good family condition. They both work in the same city. Zhang Xueben wanted to refuse the kindness of his colleague, but after seeing the photo of the other party, he felt that it was not bad and agreed.

When eating together, every word and deed of the other party made her feel that the other party was particularly polite and cultured. It can be said that after the meeting, Zhang Xue had a good impression on the boy introduced by her colleague.

Thinking that the other person's conditions are very suitable for him, and that the other person meets the requirements of his "ideal partner" in many aspects, and he has reached the age of talking about marriage, he has the idea of ending the emotional window.

The following week, two people eat together, watch movies, climb mountains and go shopping. ...

Originally, Zhang Xue thought that their feelings were slowly warming up, but after less than a week, the other party put forward the requirement of living with her. Zhang Xue is not a girl who is careless about her feelings. Considering the short time together, she naturally refused decisively.

After the other party was rejected by Zhang Xue, her attitude towards her was not as considerate as before, and she was a little angry. However, this state didn't last long, and the other party took the initiative to ask her out to eat and watch movies. Zhang Xue also thinks that this is an act of reconciliation between the other party and her.

However, the next day Zhang Xue received a short message from the other party:

"My parents dislike that you are too short (Zhang Gao 160), saying that height is a hard indicator, and resolutely disagree with the two of us together. I can only respect my parents' opinions, and we will not contact each other in the future. "

Before Zhang Xue figured out how to reply, the other party had deleted her contact information. Zhang Xue didn't expect such an ending.

"Older people are rejected by others, and short people are also rejected. Is it so much to ask for dating boys now? It is really difficult for older women to find a love! "

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Think of a sentence often heard in life: carrots and vegetables have their own love. No matter how good our own conditions are, blind date can't be pursued by each other every time, and there are many people pursuing it at school, and not everyone pursues her.

To put it bluntly, there is an exchange of interests in any relationship. You can pick and choose. Why can't others? When you ask others to meet your ideal type, others are asking you to meet them.

Therefore, no matter how good your conditions are, don't care too much about your own conditions. It is the best choice to follow your truest feelings.

In bacon's words, "love is like saving money in the bank, appreciating each other's advantages, supplementing income, accommodating each other's shortcomings, and controlling expenses."

In front of feelings, don't wronged yourself, but don't lift yourself too high. Find an equal person, even if the other person's condition is slightly worse, provided that the other person's character is better, and what life needs most is comfort.

The beauty of the world itself is diverse. You can't live well just because you are tall, and you can't have the life you want just because you are short. The greatest happiness of people is to live in the way they like, which really has nothing to do with height.