In fact, women are not afraid to face the hardships of life with men. As long as men are aggressive and keep fighting spirit, women are willing to face the difficulties in life with men and create a better life together.
But unfortunately, many men don't really understand women. They always think that women choose to break up with them because they dislike their poverty and cannot provide them with a rich material life.
But what makes women make up their minds to break up is never just because men are poor, but because they have no ambition.
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Axiu and Xiao Qiang are college classmates. They started dating when they were in college.
After four years in college, Xiao Qiangda spent most of his spare time playing games. Axiu told Xiao Qiang that it would be helpful for him to learn more professional knowledge and increase social experience in his spare time.
But Xiao Qiang always perfunctory Axiu said that he would have plenty of time in the future, and he was in no hurry to study.
In a blink of an eye, after graduating from college, Xiao Qiang threw a few resumes, then picked a company he was satisfied with and went to work.
After going to work, Xiao Qiang didn't really pay attention to his work. What he usually thinks about is how to reduce the workload and finish the work in a perfunctory way.
So even after working in the same company for three years, Xiao Qiang's position and salary haven't changed much.
Axiu and Xiao Qiang work in the same city. At first, they had no money. In order to save money, they had to rent a simple single room without air conditioning and washing machine.
In summer, it is too hot to sleep; You can only wash clothes with cold water in winter.
Although the days are hard, Axiu thinks that such days are only temporary. As long as they work together with Xiao Qiang, they will definitely have their own house in this city and live a happy life.
But with the passage of time, Xiao Qiang did not strive for a better life for two people as Axiu thought.
On the contrary, Xiao Qiang has always been indifferent in his work. He is free at ordinary times, either going out to eat and drink with friends or playing games at home. I don't do housework and I'm not aggressive.
To this end, Axiu made many suggestions to Xiao Qiang, but every time Xiao Qiang verbally promised well, but his actions never changed.
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Because Xiao Qiang didn't make progress, Axiu wanted to end this relationship, but Xiao Qiang was his first love. He and Xiao Qiang have been together for nearly seven years, which is basically all his youth. Axiu really can't let go of this relationship.
Therefore, even if it is difficult, Axiu wants to change Xiao Qiang through his own continuous efforts, make Xiao Qiang work harder and be more enterprising, and create a better future for two people.
But no matter how hard Axiu tries, Xiao Qiang always looks listless.
In the face of difficulties encountered in work, Xiao Qiang knows that his colleagues are embarrassed; In the face of no promotion, Xiao Qiang believes that the boss does not know how to deliberately suppress himself.
In the absence of progress in Xiao Qiang, Axiu gradually lost hope in Xiao Qiang.
Later, Xiao Qiang resigned in a rage because of a dispute with his boss.
Xiao Qiang didn't rush to find a job after he resigned, but played games all night. Axiu finally broke up with Xiao Qiang.
Xiao Qiang thinks that Axiu is just angry because he plays games, so he is embarrassing himself.
Every time I encountered such a situation before, Xiao Qiang was inadvertently coaxed. Axiu will pretend that nothing happened, and Xiao Qiang thinks it will be the same this time.
But this time Axiu was really disappointed. She made up her mind to break up with Xiao Qiang.
Xiao Qiang saw that Axiu was so determined to break up and asked Axiu, "Did you break up with me because I had no money?"
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Looking at Xiao Qiang's angry appearance, Axiu also felt aggrieved: "Xiao Qiang, we have been together for seven years. When did you get rich in these seven years? If I really valued money, I wouldn't be with you in the first place. "
Xiao Qiang doesn't seem to agree with Axiu's words: "If it's not for money, why did you break up with me?" . You are a gold digger. You broke up with me because I have no money. "
Axiu looked at Xiao Qiang's bared teeth, and her long-standing resentment finally broke out: "Xiao Qiang, I broke up with you not only for money, but mainly because you have no ambition. You have been playing games and going out to eat and drink with friends for years. Have you ever thought about improving yourself? Have you ever thought about creating better conditions for our future life? "
In the face of Axiu's questioning, Xiao Qiang was speechless. He also wants to use the previous reasons to make excuses for his lack of progress, but Axiu doesn't want to pester Xiao Qiang any more.
Dry your tears, Axiu packed up and left the house rented with Xiao Qiang.
When Axiu left, Xiao Qiang still didn't realize his own problems. He said to Axiu, "You leave now and don't regret it in the future."
Axiu said a word to Xiao Qiang: "I hope you can be the person I regret in the future."
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What life needs is hope. Women are willing to endure hardships with men because they have hope in their hearts. When such hopes are constantly extinguished because of men's failure, women will eventually choose to leave because they can't see hope.
If a man can't create the hope of life for the woman he likes through his own efforts, he can't create a good living environment for the woman he likes through his own struggle.
Then when a woman says goodbye, don't accuse her of worshipping money, but think more about what you gave each other and what you paid in this relationship.
If there is nothing, it is not because women think you have no money, but because they dislike your lack of ambition.