Between husband and wife, because of long-term living together, emotional elimination, visual aesthetic fatigue, husband and wife life due to lack of enthusiasm, and more and more boring, has become a waterproof maintenance link.
When couples reach middle-aged and old age, there is always an irrationality that they want to get rid of marriage. Because they have been imprisoned in Kafka Castle for many years, many wishes and ideas have not been implemented. Seeing that the road of life is approaching dusk, they don't want to worry about marriage and marital relationship after many years of marriage, but just want to do something they have long wanted to do.
For example, while working in the development trend, men expand their social circle and talk to their boyfriends about "girls who chased in the past". Women are the hobby of the development trend, learning yoga, Chinese classics, health preservation, beauty and skin care, etc. To improve their new accumulation.
Husband and wife are busy with their own affairs. If the relationship between husband and wife is well nursed, it is very easy to cause centripetal force. Husband and wife are tired of each other and blame each other, which makes the relationship between husband and wife more and more unstable, and the intervention of a third party also makes the rift between husband and wife bigger and bigger.
It is the marital dilemma and emotional dilemma that many middle-aged couples are experiencing now.
Two months ago, Zhang Huanyue, a consultant from Wei Qing, received Lin, a consultant who came from Jiangmen, Guangdong.
Regarding the provisions of the Marriage Law on the joint property of husband and wife, Lin said: "My husband and I have been married for 19 years, and we have also entered 40 years. The child is 2020 17 years old and is studying in an ordinary high school.
Everyone has a career, which runs smoothly and has no worries in daily life. Before, the family was talking and laughing together, which was very prosperous.
In recent years, my husband often goes home late and doesn't go home. Outside, it's business process communication, but it's actually fooling around with friends. When children go home, they also shut themselves in the house and watch and play with their mobile phones.
Originally, the family was very calm until her husband cheated on a beautiful divorced young woman in her thirties, and all the families were in chaos. My husband has lived in that woman's house for a long time and is even more indifferent to me and my son.
I had a few fights with him. I took care of the children at first, but now I don't take them. When I met him, I quarreled. My children's academic performance has plummeted, and their temper has become more and more eccentric and tyrannical. He often makes trouble on campus, as if he were a different person.
My husband and I discussed before that when the children pass the ordinary high school, we can adjust our emotions and handle each other's affairs well.
Everyone is trying to exercise restraint, but I feel very wronged inside. I think this home is very cold. I don't want this family to be scattered like that. Please help! "
Teacher Zhang Huanyue listened attentively to the story of Lin Nv, and made a technical diagnosis and analysis of Lin Nv's marriage dilemma and her husband's infidelity.
Teacher Zhang Huanyue said: Marriage cracks, usually not in the case of a third party, but before the third party, there are many potential problems.
The basis of a happy marriage is the harmony between husband and wife, which must be cared for by both sides for a long time. Don't let your feelings get lost because of the length of time.
Love is like the soil and water of marriage. If there is no emotional nourishment in the daily life of marriage, we will look for mystery from the third party under the guidance of the teacher and stimulate sexiness, which will lead to problems such as derailment.
The same is true of your husband's problems at this stage. How much affection does he have for everyone? Is his affection for the third party sincere, your love or my wish? Must be carefully identified.
Nowadays, children in ordinary high schools are rebellious in adolescence, and their parents' discord and even divorce will have great ups and downs in their hearts, even changing their temperament and endangering their habit of treating people in the future, which has to be paid enough attention to.
What you have to do now is to communicate frankly with your husband, tell your true thoughts and see how much he misses this marriage. On the other hand, the peacekeeping consultant is required to separate and expel the third party, so that the husband can dispel the idea of cheating. Only in this way can we focus more on repairing the relationship between husband and wife and returning the family to normal.
Rhapsody in July is over forty years old. I believe your husband has figured out a lot of worldly wisdom at all levels. If you divorce because of your husband's cheating, as we all know, it will not only do great harm to your family and reputation, but also have a great impact on his work and development prospects. In these respects, we should try our best to make him understand this.
The latest provisions of the Marriage Law on real estate, if he can return rationally, why not be more open-minded, rebuild the relationship between husband and wife and mend the marriage rift? It can add more romantic variety shows for couples, create a romantic style, ignite the passion of couples, enhance the fun of adult marriage, and be of great benefit to adult marriage.