Emotional tutor Tu Lei once said, "There is no man who is absolutely loyal, but the temptation to him is not enough." . In fact, from the perspective of human nature, there is no such thing as absolute loyalty between men and women. For many women, she can accept that a man is poor or has nothing, but she can never accept that a man is unfaithful to herself.
Then, in the relationship between men and women, as women, how can we use our sixth sense like Sherlock Holmes to distinguish whether men are loyal or not? Today, Bian Xiao will take you to explore several manifestations of men's duplicity:
1. I won't bow to you and admit my mistake again, even if I am wrong, I will be forced.
Some people say that "men will be silent and tolerant when they love women, and women will become haggle over every ounce when they love men".
Yes, in a relationship, a woman's sense of security mostly comes from a man's response. Maybe the beautiful love in a woman's mind is like the phrase "I make trouble, you laugh" that exploded on the Internet.
The more a woman loves this man, the less she can tolerate any mistakes in this relationship. Sometimes, she will have a big fight with a man because of a broken word, or she may be furious because a man forgets the smell she likes.
A man who loves you will come to comfort you every time you lose your temper, and know how to bow his head to cheer you up when you are unhappy.
However, when one day you find that your little temper no longer has any influence on the man around you, let alone arouses his sympathy, then this man is likely to have stopped loving you or to have second thoughts.
2. I am always busy and have no time to accompany you.
Some time ago, after I got up in the morning, I always saw a friend circle "My husband is not here, I have nightmares again" posted by my best friend Yue Yue late at night. For several days in a row, Yue Yue posted roughly the same content. I remember that in the past, Yue Yue was a woman who was particularly attached to her husband. Every time her husband goes on a business trip, she wants to fly to live with him.
But recently, she always says that her husband is not at home. When asked, she realized that since she was pregnant with Bauer, her husband always said that he was busy. Dabao's parents' meeting didn't attend, and Yue Yue's second child had a prenatal examination. She never accompanied her, but I accompanied Yue Yue to the hospital.
Every time I talk to Yue Yue about her husband, Yue Yue looks very proud. She said that her husband works hard for her and her two children every day, and she can't accompany herself. After all, there are children with her. She said that she could completely understand her husband.
But one night not long ago, Yue Yue came to my house with an eight-month-old belly and Dabao knocking at the door at 1 am. After opening the door, Yue Yue's embarrassing appearance really made me feel very distressed.
It turned out that on Yue Yue's 30th birthday, knowing that her husband had to work overtime, Yue Yue cooked a loving dinner for her husband, took a big cake with a big belly and sent it to her husband's company, only to see her husband making out with a female subordinate in the office.
This scene shattered all Yue Yue's good expectations for her husband. She stayed at my house for three days. During these three days, her husband never came to see her. Sure enough, men who are "too busy" at work are really unreliable at all.
3. The mobile phone never leaves, always playing evasively.
Xiao Liu is a male colleague in my unit. He is 28 years old and the child is 2 years old. He sits at my next table at work. I often see his wife at work on weekdays. Judging from the interaction between the two, the relationship between husband and wife is not bad. However, some time ago, I found that Xiao Liu always secretly played with his mobile phone, and several times he was caught by the leader when he called in the toilet.
Everyone booed Xiao Liu who lives next door to the company. Don't you miss your wife? Xiao Liu just smiled and didn't speak. One day, I went to talk to him about work and saw his screen open. A photo of a young woman was sent to him from the opposite side. This photo is nothing like Xiao Liu's wife. What is even more surprising is that Xiao Liu actually replied with a "kiss" expression.
A woman's sixth sense tells me that it is not simple at all. Sure enough, a few days later, Xiao Liu's wife came to the unit and reported Xiao Liu's real name to the leader, saying that Xiao Liu was keeping college students outside and taking other girls out to check in, only to be called by the other party. When the police called home, Xiao Liu's wife suddenly realized.
Xiao Liu was dismissed and investigated. His wife's temperament changed greatly recently, and the whole person became unhappy. She is always grumpy, beating and scolding children, and the whole person looks extremely haggard. In fact, whether a man has second thoughts is actually easy to find as a woman around him.
But some women are too deeply involved in their feelings, trust men too much and are unprepared for each other, which will lead to women's betrayal of men. Therefore, as women, we can't completely rely on men, let alone trust men unconditionally. We should be a woman who has the ability to love him and choose to leave him!