After the divorce, she became the mistress of her ex-husband
Xiaowen and Yunfeng are residents of Tangjiadun Street in Jianghan District. They are college classmates. 1992 When I graduated from college, Xiaowen was in Wuhan, and a well-known company in Shenzhen threw hydrangeas at Yunfeng. In order to be with Xiaowen, Yunfeng gave up the development opportunity to go to Shenzhen and started his own business in Wuhan.
1994, they entered the marriage hall, but decided not to have children.
After years of hard work, Yunfeng founded a company. In their spare time, Xiaowen and Yunfeng often go to go on road trip and are very loving.
Because it is my own company, and the company is in Wuhan Optics Valley, sometimes I work overtime late, and Yunfeng has a rest in the company. Xiaowen has no doubt about Yunfeng.
1999, an employee came to Yunfeng's company, a female college student who just graduated from a nearby university.
Jing has a special temperament, is very smart about his work, and soon becomes Yunfeng's right-hand man. 1in the winter of 1999, Yunfeng and Jing had a few more drinks when they accompanied foreign customers for midnight snack, and Jing took care of Yunfeng in the company for one night. Yunfeng woke up and was very grateful to Jing. Soon, Yunfeng was drunk with the client again. When Jing took care of Yunfeng in the company, they finally crossed the line.
From then on, the relationship between the two was between the boss and the employee during the day and became inseparable lovers at night. Yunfeng seldom goes home.
In the spring of 2000, Yunfeng had not come home for a week. One night, Xiaowen decided to visit her husband in the company. She took a taxi to her husband's company and found that the door was locked and the office area was dark. No matter how Xiaowen shouted, there was no YunFeng voice inside.
Xiaowen take out a cellular phone, dialed the telephone of Yunfeng and asked him where he was. Yunfeng said he was working overtime in the office. "I am at the door of your office." Yunfeng immediately drove over. Xiaowen found that he looked flustered and prevaricated. Afterwards, Xiaowen discovered Yunfeng Tongjing through investigation.
"Divorce!" Xiaowen took out the agreement. There is no room for discussion. Together, they soon got a divorce certificate in one afternoon and the house was awarded to Xiaowen. Yunfeng sent Xiaowen home and went into the house with Xiaowen.
YunFeng motionless sitting on the sofa after entering the room. It was a long time before he said, "Let's hold a farewell ceremony." Then I went into the kitchen and started cooking. When eating, Xiaowen, who never drinks, got drunk after drinking a few glasses of red wine. Yunfeng didn't leave that night and said, "I don't have a house. You can't let me sleep on the street. " "I have broken up with Jing, and I have corrected it."
Xiaowen was soft-hearted and did not force Yunfeng to leave home. Soon, Xiaowen found herself pregnant. Under the cry of Yunfeng, Xiaowen gave birth to a child. Xiaowen thought that Yunfeng had changed his mind and wanted to remarry with himself, but Yunfeng kept pushing back the time of remarriage.
In the summer of 2002, Xiaowen found that Yunfeng had moved all his things out. Afterwards, Xiaowen learned that Jing was back, and Yunfeng had already got a marriage certificate with Jing.
In the later days, Xiaowen wanted to find love again, but Yunfeng often came to live together in the name of a nanny. Xiaowen reluctantly told reporters: "Unexpectedly, I became a mistress after the divorce. There were no children when they got married, and they were born out of wedlock later. "
She didn't leave home until her husband defeated the drug addict.
Zhang Mingyuan is the technical backbone of a large state-owned enterprise. In the late 1980s, he resigned and went to sea, bought a minibus and started to operate passenger transport in Wuhan.
The bus soon accumulated original capital for him, and before long, Zhang Ming opened a trading company. Through painstaking efforts, by the early 1990s, Zhang Ming had become a millionaire, and the whole family moved into the purchased villa and lived a rich life.
Zhang Ming likes to make friends and never protects his friends. 1993, he found that the cigarettes given to him by a friend were particularly delicious, so he always asked this friend for them, and this friend always gave him everything he wanted. Before long, Zhang Ming found himself listless and runny as soon as he left that kind of smoke.
When Zhang Ming found himself taking drugs, he couldn't help himself. He is no longer in the mood to run his own company. He hangs out with a group of friends all day and smokes. It costs him at least four or five thousand dollars to go out every night. In the end, he ate up millions of possessions, sold the villa, and made people skinny. He and his wife had to move back to the house where they worked.
When Zhang Ming was mired in drug abuse, his wife Chen Shi took many measures, but she couldn't get Zhang Ming to give up drugs voluntarily. He is worried that Zhang Ming will sell his old house again, so he wants to give Zhang some color through divorce.
1995, Chen Shi and Zhang Ming agreed to divorce.
Although divorced, Chen Shi thought that her once beloved husband would be left unattended. Isn't that a dead end? Who cares about his life without him? Besides, if Zhang Ming really leaves himself and this family, it will definitely have a negative impact on his daughter who is studying. Chen Shi and Zhang Ming agree that neither of them will leave their families. They still live like "husband and wife", but they no longer live like husband and wife.
Zhang Ming was shocked when his wife "left" herself. After waking up, he began to reflect on his behavior and began to fight drugs. From 65438 to 0997, Zhang Ming was sent to a drug rehabilitation center for compulsory detoxification. During more than two months in the drug rehabilitation center, Chen Shi took her daughter to visit Zhang Ming many times, and constantly encouraged Zhang Ming to get rid of drugs seriously.
After more than two months of painful experience and reflection, Zhang Ming made up his mind: "Never be contaminated with drugs again!" After Zhang Ming came out of the drug rehabilitation center, Chen Shi mobilized all his strength to build a drug rehabilitation wall for him, cutting off his contact with his former drug friends. With the efforts of Chen Shi, Zhang Ming became a member of the community security team.
Since then, I have been working nearby and carefully observing the change of Zhang's name. A year passed, and Zhang Ming did not relapse; Two years later, Zhang Ming survived; Zhang Ming has been infected with drugs for eight years. He helped the police catch more than a dozen drug addicts. In 2003, he also arrested a murderer on the run and was named as "advanced member of public security" in Wuhan. My daughter has also been admitted to a university in Wuhan.
Chen Shi was relieved. Zhang Ming wanted to remarry Chen Shi many times, but was rejected by Chen Shi, with mixed feelings in his heart. At the beginning of this year, 47-year-old Chen Shi left home to work in Shenzhen under the organization of a domestic company.
When he left, Chen Shi said to Zhang Ming, We are divorced, so I should go.
Looking at my sick ex-wife, how can I have the heart to wave away?
Lu Chuan, 58, is a resident of Man Chun Street in Jianghan District. His right eye was disabled by work-related injuries. "Wife" Kong Hui is a resident of _, suffering from intermittent mental illness.
To outsiders, Lu Chuan and Kong Hui are indeed husband and wife. Actually, they have been divorced 12 years.
Lu Chuan calls himself a "cultural man" and is an authentic folk cultural man with Wuhan flavor. He is not allowed to play mahjong in the teahouse, but he plays shadow play, drums and fish drums in the teahouse.
The combination of Lu Chuan and Kong Hui was in the late 1980s. One day, Lu Chuan was surprised to find that Kong Hui had intermittent mental illness. At this time, Lu Chuan was 42 years old. Has he lived with mental patients all his life? Lu Chuan thought for a long time.
After learning that Kong Hui was pregnant, he decided to postpone the divorce. When his daughter 1 year-old, Lu Chuan got the consent of Kong Hui and his family, and the two sides divorced.
At that time, there were two major problems facing Lu Chuan. First, he and Kong Hui have no housing and have been renting a house outside. Then Kong Hui has no job, and she and her daughter need someone to take care of them. So Lu Chuan didn't leave his divorced home and started to open China Teahouse to maintain the daily expenses of "a family of three".
You can't make much money by opening a teahouse. "I have no money to pay the rent and was driven away by the landlord; When the business starts, the landlord will find a reason to drive away; In recent years, Lu Chuan had to spend a lot of time in order to find a new rental house to open a teahouse. When Kong Hui was not ill, he also served as his wife and helped Lu Chuan manage the teahouse.
The summer before last, his 13-year-old daughter Lili complained of backache. Lu Chuan, who was looking for the address of the new teahouse at that time, didn't pay enough attention to the child's illness. Lu Chuan said, "At that time, there was no money to send children to the hospital for examination." At the beginning of last year, a pustule appeared on my daughter's spine. Soon after, it was difficult for the child to stand upright. At this time, Lu Chuan began to worry. He had to borrow money to take his children to the hospital for examination. As a result, the child was diagnosed with bone tuberculosis.
If the child drops out of school, the cost of treatment will be around 30 thousand. Lu Chuan and sometimes sober Kong Hui went to the heads of relevant government departments for help. Their experience has attracted the attention of the person in charge of the Health Bureau of Koukou District. He has helped to contact the medical unit to minimize the related expenses during Lili's treatment.
Family life is so embarrassing. Although the two sides have divorced, they are all working together to tide over the common difficulties.
In order to get the minimum living allowance, they divorced.
Xiao Zhao, a resident of Quan Min Street in Jianghan District, is 49 years old. Since both husband and wife have been laid off for many years and have no jobs, and their daughter is disabled, the government has given them a minimum living allowance.
Although the living conditions are not very good, they never blush. Before her death, Xiao Zhao's in-laws were paralyzed in bed for a long time, while her husband's brothers and sisters were working in other places, so the task of taking care of them naturally fell to Xiao Zhao. Every day, she scrubbed her body for her in-laws, chatted with her in-laws and fed them until their death. Neighbors say Xiao Zhao is a good daughter-in-law.
Although the child is disabled, Xiao Zhao insists on not having a second child. The child has a congenital heart disease and it is difficult to treat. In order to treat the child, she and her husband spent almost all their savings, but the child's condition did not improve. When the child was young, as soon as he got off work, Xiao Zhao stayed by his side and played games with him according to the doctor's advice.
Xiao Zhao and her husband entered the factory at the same time, in the same workshop, which can be said to be well known. No matter when they are paid and laid off, the couple have always been kind and loving.
However, the two divorced at the beginning of this year.
According to the relevant regulations, Xiao Zhao, as a lesbian, can receive a pension in the social security department in another year. "With the pension, the income has increased, and our family may not enjoy the minimum living allowance." Xiao Zhao, who has always been opinionated, discussed with her husband. At first, her husband resolutely opposed it: getting old and getting divorced? But Xiao Zhao said: We are a big era. Divorce doesn't mean not getting divorced? The key is for the daughter to live a better life. Husband, however, had to divorce Xiao Zhao from the civil affairs department. Xiao Zhao then took the divorce certificate to the community neighborhood committee.
According to a community cadre in Quan Min Street, although Xiao Zhao and his wife divorced, they were not really separated. According to the private investigation of community cadres, Xiao Zhao and her husband didn't even separate the money from the bed. The community leader said, "They are no longer a family. Although they live together, they are only condemned by morality. It is very likely that Xiao Zhao's husband is still eating subsistence allowances. "
Expert: Marriage has changed from "name" to "reality"
On the social phenomenon of divorce and not leaving home, the reporter interviewed Zhou Yunqing, a sociology professor and doctoral supervisor of Wuhan University.
Professor Zhou believes that no matter what purpose you choose to divorce and not leave home, it shows that people's traditional concept of marriage and family is gradually changing.
Professor Zhou analyzed that the traditional marriage in China is not about two people, but about the whole family. Marriage must be worthy of the name, even "name" is greater than "reality". Divorce is the biggest failure in a person's life, and it is a stain that a woman can't erase all her life. With the development of society, the marriage of modern people has gradually changed from "name" to "reality". Marriage is no longer a "besieged city" under moral constraints, but a reason for two people to care for each other and hold hands for a common goal. However, when this reason doesn't work, people can abandon this "form". This personal choice is beyond reproach.
Professor Zhou introduced that in addition to the change of traditional concepts, there is also pressure from reality. No matter whether your divorce is a surprise attack or a long-planned one, there will always be a time lag after divorce, which will make both parties feel at a loss for a long time. Secondly, after divorce, both men and women want to seek comfort, and the confusion of the last marriage may accompany you for a long time. This "confused period" makes it possible to divorce without leaving home to a certain extent, and of course it also makes people see the hope around them for the second time.
However, from the legal point of view, the effective judgment of the people's court granting divorce, the conciliation statement and the divorce certificate of the marriage registration office have the same legal effect, and they are all legal documents to dissolve the relationship between husband and wife, which are binding on both parties and should not live together; It is illegal to live together now. If both parties feel that it should be about the second time after divorce, they should register for remarriage, which is reasonable and legal.