Sometimes I have to sigh that many things in this world are unclear. Many people pursue an understanding, but in the end they find that many things are incomprehensible. Life is mixed, that's all.

As someone will always discuss, is it big or big? It is impossible to draw a conclusion on this matter. Some people think that nothing is above the law; But some people think that the law is nothing more than human feelings.

Arguments about such issues are really common. As I get older, I lose interest in this kind of thing more and more. Because some things are just unclear, blindly pestering will get you into trouble. It is better to be yourself and face life with a smile.

Over the years, I have helped many people deal with marital emotional problems, and I often feel that I am willing but powerless. Because many people's emotional problems can't tell right from wrong. A couple who are not in harmony with each other have a quarrel over trivial matters, which leads to divorce. When asking for help, it is also deadlocked.

Some people ask for help, not to solve problems, but to help them distinguish right from wrong. But in this case, I can only say that both of them are at fault. Obviously, this is not the answer that the helper wants.

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I found that when many people face marital emotional problems and ask others for help, the core idea is not to solve problems and contradictions, but to vent, hoping that others can agree with their own views. Prove yourself right.

So these people's marriage problems can't be solved, because they don't have the impulse to solve them themselves, and the advice given by others will not be adopted, which will eventually lead to a vicious circle.

There is another situation. When we meet an unreasonable person, how should we get along with it? This is also an unclear thing. But I think, when you get along with others, you must remember these eight words: don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you.

What happens in life, some are unexpected, and some are even more incredible. But as long as we keep an initial heart, I believe we will live happier in life.

Reader Wang Tian recently encountered a sad thing. She came to me sadly and asked me what to do next. To tell the truth, this matter is also an unclear thing. I dare not give any advice, I can only comfort her silently. Now she wants me to write it, please help her. What should I do?

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Wang Tian is 39 years old and has been married for almost 15 years. My husband and I have always had a good relationship. There may be some friction between husband and wife on weekdays, but they can all be solved. In recent years, the two people have stumbled all the way, and their feelings are naturally good.

After they got married, they bought a house. It was her husband's family who took the down payment. In recent years, they have been paying the mortgage. A few years ago, the mortgage was paid off.

Wang Tian gave birth to a daughter Over the years, her husband and I have loved this child very much. Parents want to give their children the best, and Wang Tian and her husband are no exception.

But Wang Tian's mother-in-law doesn't think so. She prefers boys to girls and thinks that girls are useless and can't carry on the family line. So I've been clamoring for a second child from Wang Tian. However, Wang Tian feels that with his own economic strength, he can't afford to raise two children at all. So I refused despite my mother-in-law's noise.

For this reason, there are contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Fortunately, Wang Tian and her mother-in-law don't live together. Although there are some contradictions, there are not many contacts on weekdays, which does not affect their marriage.

Wang Tian thought that she would spend her life peacefully, but what she didn't expect was that an accident happened. The husband's physical examination showed advanced liver cancer.

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After learning the news, Wang Tian felt black at the moment and the sky seemed to be falling. During that time, she was heartbroken and utterly confused, and didn't know what to do.

The doctor told her that her husband might not live long, that is, between six months and a year. Let her be mentally prepared. Conventional treatment has no effect.

Wang Tian feels that God is particularly unfair. Her husband is only in his early forties, so young. Why did he get this disease? But these complaints can only be said behind her back. She doesn't want her husband to see herself defeated first.

In fact, the husband can feel that his time may be running out. After repeatedly putting pressure on Wang Tian, Wang Tian told him the truth. He was silent for a long time and suddenly said to Wang Tian, "Let's go home." .

Wang Tian knew that her husband knew that the treatment had failed and he gave up saving money. Wang Tian cried and begged him not to give up treatment. He can borrow money, but he can't sell the house. But the husband waved his hand and told her it was useless. Save some money, and you two can live in the future.

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After the husband was discharged from the hospital, he cherished the days with his wife and children. Not only that, he also wrote a will. He left the house to Wang Tian and his daughter and some savings to his parents. He knew that his mother had problems with Wang Tian, so she said to Wang Tian, I don't ask you to be filial to my mother, but please do your best to help me.

Wang Tian promised him with tears in his eyes.

A year passed quickly, but the husband didn't hold on after all and died. Wang Tian was heartbroken, and she felt at a loss when she was taking care of her husband's affairs. How should I spend the rest of my life?

Unexpectedly, an unexpected thing happened to her. She just took care of her husband. My mother-in-law came to see me.

Mother-in-law is a bad person, and her son died, and she also suffered a great blow. But in her opinion, there is one more thing that must be done.

She said to Wang Tian, "Since my son is gone, you have nothing to do with my family. This house was bought by my son before his death, and should be mine after his death. You take out the real estate license and give it to me. "

Unexpectedly, Wang Tian's mother-in-law came to occupy the house. In her mind, she may never think of herself as family.

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Wang Tian said sadly, "If you come to occupy this house right after he left, won't your conscience be hurt?" Even if you look down on me, your granddaughter is your own granddaughter, and you don't even recognize her? "

My mother-in-law said, "I'm not kicking you out. You can live here, but you must give me this house! " "

Wang Tian thinks she is unreasonable, so she is too lazy to talk nonsense with her. She went straight back to the house and took out the real estate license, handed it to her mother-in-law and said, "This house belongs to only one person now, and that is me! Your son's will is to leave me the house. "

My mother-in-law was dumbfounded when she saw Wang Tian's name written on the real estate license. The fact was before her, and she had nothing to say but leave.

Wang Tian is sad and angry. Before her husband died, she was asked to take care of her in-laws, but her mother-in-law didn't treat her as family at all and wanted to rob her of her property. What should she do? At that time, I was in a dilemma.

In fact, from Wang Tian's case, we can find that in many cases, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is actually particularly fragile. They are only maintained by men. If a man disappears, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is likely to disappear with him.

It has the names of relatives, but it has no essence of relatives. This is the embarrassment of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law