Wu Moses valued Wu Xiangxiang's steamed bread shop, and Wu Xiangxiang valued Wu Moses' growing vegetables in the county government. Both of them had their own plans, so they got married. After marriage, I found that they were different in human nature and could not talk together. So we fight every day. Later, MoMo Wu, who was quiet, didn't want to make any noise, so she followed Wu Xiangxiang, and she didn't talk back to her. But even if Wu is patient, he can't meet Wu's requirements, and the relationship between them is getting more and more tense. Until one day, Wu Xiangxiang had an affair with the silversmith Lao Zhao next door, and both of them ran away, ending this sad marriage.
Wu Mou found two escaped people at Zhengzhou Railway Station. Although Wu Xiangxiang is thinner, darker and gaunt than before, and the silversmith is not as clean as before, the scene of two people sharing a hot sweet potato still silences Wu Mosi. He didn't come forward to speak. He looks like an outsider in front of a couple. He doesn't want to find them. He and Wu Xiangxiang have no feelings and can't say anything. To say nothing is to have no temper, nothing to say, or not to go together.
Wu Moses' grandson Niu is patriotic and has a similar life track with him. Niu and his wife Pang Lina got married for marriage, but they had nothing to say. Pang Lina later had a lover and was discovered by the cow. But he didn't choose to divorce. First, I put in a good word for Pang Lina, only to find that it is not so easy to find a topic, and the good words are not so good to say. Until Pang Lina covered her ears and said, Stop it. I feel sick when you talk. He just changed his strategy, instead of just doing, washing clothes, shining shoes and cooking for her until the meal was ready. But even so, it failed to save Pang Lina's heart, but Niu Aiguo still didn't want a divorce.
Later, Pang Lina and her brother-in-law Lao Shang were together and asked for a divorce. The cow chose not to divorce and wanted to drag each other like this. He feels that if the other person's face is hot and yellow, he can't leave now. But Pang Lina and her brother-in-law Lao Shang ran away directly.
For everyone, Wu Xiangxiang and Pang Lina are the kind of mistresses that everyone hates. In reality, they must be shouted by everyone. But so what? After all, they live with people they like, and they care about each other's feelings. This has hit many people in the face who tolerate marriage, and the story of Niu patriotism is far from over.
Niu Aiguo was heartbroken in his hometown of Qinyuan and did not divorce. He went out to make a living and worked as a truck driver for a bean product factory. I often pass by a food city on the road and fall in love with Zhang Chuhong, the proprietress of the food city. They felt particularly comfortable and said that three days and three nights were not too annoying or too tired. Zhang Chuhong asked him to take her away. He hesitated, thinking that he was not divorced, and afraid of retaliation from the owner of the food city, he returned to his hometown on the pretext that his mother was ill, and he never contacted Zhang Chuhong again. Pang Lina and Lao Shang ran away and he woke up. Others abandoned and betrayed their family in order to be with a talking person, but he became a deserter. He suddenly envied Lao Shang. By the time he wanted to return to Zhang Chuhong, the other party had divorced and things had turned around.
The author breaks through many moral standards and tells stories without judgment, which makes people feel the joys, sorrows and helplessness in life.
In fact, in marriage, only paying attention to conditions often leads to nothing. Those who do well in business may close down one day, their jobs may be lost, and their houses may be reduced in price. Two people whose hearts can't be close will eventually go their separate ways. Wu Zetian wants to make do, but Wu Zetian doesn't want to. Niu Aiguo wants to make peace, but Pang Lina doesn't. Couples without love are sad every day. Couples with love will feel happy even if they are bitter and tired, but they have the sweetness of love.
As we all know, couples are just couples with the same values and interests. As the saying goes, it's not that one family doesn't enter a family. When it reaches a certain age or the conditions are right, it is deliberately reluctant. It's a big risk to cultivate feelings slowly. Why is it so hasty to choose a husband/wife?
Mark Chao and Gao Yuanyuan come together because they can talk. In an interview with Venus, Mark Chao said that as soon as they got home, they started talking crazily. It is very pleasant to share your joys and sorrows with another person without any bad feelings. Is it too much happier than couples who have nothing to say? The ancients said, "wine is less than a bosom friend, and half a sentence is more than enough." I believe that everyone has encountered the embarrassment of not being able to speak. Because like-minded friends often become friends when they meet, some people sigh: "It is enough to have a bosom friend in life!" It can be seen how important it is to be able to chat in our lives.
Hugo said: with material, it is survival; With spirit, it is life. So, let's have sex with someone who can't finish talking.
I recently read an article to the effect that the era of choosing a spouse based on having a house is coming to an end. If you get married just for the other person's house, will you regret if the house price falls? As soon as the news of xiong'an new area's upcoming establishment came out, the inspiration of marriage appeared in a fiery circle of friends. I don't know if you saw it. It's a great irony for those who choose a spouse by owning a house, not only for women, but also for men. Being too realistic often makes the soul too sad.
I believe everyone has seen the football players and the original match who made a lot of noise some time ago. A man's heart is no longer with the original match, but the original match has been delayed for so many years and still refuses to divorce. The man not only refused to give pocket money, but also tried his best to force her to divorce, spending a lot of money with Xiaosan every day. As a woman, why can't we face up to the fact that marriage has broken down, even if we lose our youth, why don't we have to spend it with this person in the end? Seeing her righteous and awe-inspiring condemnation, I only feel sad for her. I don't love her anymore, so why?
You can't drink a drop of ink in a glass of water. A little hatred will make your whole heart unhappy. Even if you hate it, even if you are unwilling, but more often, isn't it yourself who hurts the most? In the sparrow's view, no matter how good it is to Chen Shen, Chen Shen's heart is always only for Xu. In love, nothing comes first, and whose heart you are closer to, in fact, you know best. Letting go is the first lesson we should learn to face our feelings.
I have such an example around me. My in-laws especially like my daughter-in-law, but my son doesn't. Later, my son had an affair outside, and finally divorced. San Xiao no longer sensible, also don't like in-laws, but the relationship between husband and wife is very good. After all, marriage is a matter for both husband and wife. With a third party in life, it is inevitable that there will be resentment, sadness, sadness and unacceptability. But as Cao, the mother of Niu, said in "One sentence is worth 10,000 sentences", "Life is behind, not in front." You still have to look back. Couples who have been completely alienated and have no possibility of intersection, in fact, their lives are tasteless. What's the difference between this life and being single? When Pang Lina cheated again, Niu Aiguo didn't care on the surface, but actually cared. In front of outsiders, she is her wife after all, and she has lost face after all. However, if he had solved this matter at the beginning, he would not have been humiliated again later. I've done everything I can to fix it. Now that it is irreversible, giving up is a good choice, so that I can have new opportunities.
When what happened in Bai Baihe and Chen Yufan was made public, people were in an uproar. Although we used to love each other, it was all in the past. Aside from the reasons of moral defects, feelings often change step by step, and it is impossible to suddenly be cold and suddenly betray. Sometimes it's not that you don't want to love, it's because time, place and joints have changed. Things have changed and the pace has changed, so the relationship between people will also change. Some people choose forbearance for family responsibilities, while others decide to choose again because they don't want to muddle along. Can you see which one is wrong?
I remember that all the media were condemning Bai Baihe at that time, but why didn't anyone dare to say that no love means no love? I don't want to make peace, and I don't want to make it for the children, that's all.
Many times, we need courage to make the right choice. At least let yourself live with dignity, and don't turn into a farce or a play. It's like Gao and Mr. Wu are under the banner of people. Miss Wu, who loves vanity, has been a good wife and mother for so many years, just to avoid facing the eyes of the world, but is she so happy? Most of my youth was wasted, silently and meaningless in thin air. She is so beautiful and excellent that she can live a better life. Such a tragedy also exists in Liang Lu, the wife of Qi Tongwei. Because of timidity, cowardice, vanity and hatred, life has become a farce, which is really not worth it!
Of course, in marriage, even if you don't love each other, betrayal is the first killer to hurt each other. Some injuries can never be repaired, but when we meet someone we love again, everything will be blowing in the wind. It is an unavoidable reality that many divorced people find it difficult to remarry, and according to the survey, the happiness index of remarriage is far lower than that of first marriage, so it is very important to choose a good partner from the beginning. But when the pain comes, I hope we can keep ourselves, not wronged ourselves, and have the courage to make a choice.
Fighting doesn't mean that husband and wife have come to an end. In fact, whether they love or not can be felt. I have read Lu Lu badminton's article, which makes the quarrels in marriage interesting and lovely, making people feel that these small quarrels are just a kind of exchange in love. My colleague once talked about his angry words when he quarreled with her husband: "I will take care of you in the future, so I won't take my surname #", and then went out angrily, but came back with the fruit that my wife loved. How happy we are when people around us already know our shortcomings and weaknesses so well and are willing to live with us. Be sure to have a good sleep at night, and be full of confidence when you go out. This is the endless love and marriage, and this is the state of life we should have. May we all live happily like this.
Why does Moses Wu in the story try his best to follow Wu Xiangxiang? Wu Mosi, formerly known as Yang Mosi, changed his surname to Wu Mosi because he married Wu Xiangxiang. Even though he didn't want to be adopted by his wife, change his surname or follow Wu Xiangxiang, he agreed, not because he liked Wu Xiangxiang, but because Wu Xiangxiang had an economic base-a steamed bread shop. As long as he is with Wu Xiangxiang, he doesn't have to sleep and eat. If he was still growing vegetables in the county government, he wouldn't be so humble to Wu Xiangxiang. If he had a family business, he wouldn't be adopted by his son-in-law.
Why didn't Niu Aiguo think about divorcing Pang Lina at first? Because he thinks he can't afford a divorce, what about the divorced children? Can he still find it? This is all he cares about. He first asked the opinions of his comrades-in-arms, but his comrades-in-arms were also having a hard time, and he and his wife were not at peace. What advice can he give? He asked Niu Aiguo to put in a good word for Pang Lina. Later, he did it, but it backfired. He also felt that he had lost himself and was not happy at all because he was trying to please each other. Niu's patriotic classmate Li Kezhi gave him another piece of advice not to divorce. He did it again and was humiliated for the second time. Only then did he understand what his mother said before she died and the meaning of the past story: "People are the past, not the past." People should respect their inner feelings and dignity before talking about feelings and life.
Life is full of all kinds of variables, maybe we are really fragile, and a small storm is unbearable. But as long as you live a good life in Do not forget your initiative mind, I believe you can always make the right choice. It's really important to be a man of backbone. Where does happiness come from if you don't accept betrayal and humiliation?
I wrote an article before. I am afraid that someone will misunderstand me and think I am a mistress. I really didn't mean to. I just like it. I don't approve of the marriage like a walking corpse, but I respect everyone's decision and can forgive my husband's infidelity, because only two people know about two people, as long as we are happy inside and feel worthwhile. After all, we must decide what our life will be like. Others are just spectators.