Rule number one: spend it on the other side
Many people say that distance produces beauty.
A post-80s writer said that everything should be painted with glass to look good.
Adult fairy tales say that the premise of worship is distance. ?
The ancients described the beauty of beauty and said, "Beauty is separated by flowers." ?
What is the distance? Have such a magical effect? The river that spans time or space, why do I see that the other side is colorful, is a fire tree and a silver flower, and is graceful? ?
I want to say, maybe distance is the magic lamp, or the phrase "open sesame", which has opened many fairy tales and beauty. ?
This kind of beauty exists in both ancient and modern times, just like the "Jia Jian" in the Book of Songs: "Jia Jian is gray and white dew is frost. The so-called Iraqis are on the water side. " A good woman stands on the sandbar. It is the ruthless water that separates you from me, retaining the poetic feeling and abandoning the regret that there is no distance. In ancient landscape paintings, some gaps are left, or the distance between the horizon and the scenery is widened, which makes people feel that the mountains are hazy and the water is strange, and what they see is "the mountains gather eyebrows and the water is eye-catching". Maybe that's not the case. The mountain may have been cut down by chopping wood, and it has been devastated. The water may have dried up, leaving a pool of mud. Anyway, what is left to us is "clarity, silence, harmony and tranquility" brought by distance. ?
When people communicate with each other, it is better to have a distance. Xi Murong said that friendship is like flowers, but it is better to be light. The lighter and more lasting, the lighter and more memorable. This is an old saying: a friendship between gentlemen is as light as water. If the two sides are far apart, they can't see the flaws that could have been ignored. Just like the philosophical story of "porcupine heating", only by keeping a proper distance can we keep warm without hurting each other.
I like Shi's song Water Tone very much. When will there be a bright moon? It is detached and has the breath of birth. My ideal life is like a sentence in a letter written by a friend: I dream of being born after joining the WTO. Blending into the world but transcending the secular world may lead a plain life of eating, writing letters, studying and chatting, but a heart river will be drawn at the right distance. On this shore, "Who is proud of the world and who hides it?" Sweet dreams. On the other side is spring. Let's go to see a love that consumes everything.
Chapter 2: Wonderland of the Mind
Mom:?
I miss you so much that I finally met you yesterday, and I saw your face full of relief and slight fatigue. I am very distressed and grateful to you. I know that you came back to Hunan from Tibet just to take the exam and cheer for me in person. I can imagine you bumping on the Qinghai-Tibet Railway all night, wearing clothes that are incompatible with others on the train, and looking forward to my eyes eagerly. I know who is your heart and who can be your scenery! Mom, you know what? The moment I met you, all my previous complaints about you vanished.
Mom, to be honest, I hate you. You are a glorious people's teacher, but you make me miss three years of maternal love. Three years ago, I successfully entered high school, but you chose to teach in Tibet at such an important moment. You stayed for three years in such an environment. ?
Before you left, you said that you would only fight me for three years. I realize my dream, and you dedicate your career. I asked you to stay, crying and saying, "Mom, it's so bitter and tired there that you can't take a bath for several days." Don't go, will you stay with me? "Your hazy eyes are full of painful choices, and you held me for a long time without saying a word. ?
You have been to Tibet once before. The sacred Potala Palace makes you linger, while the legendary Lake Cuo in Lamla makes you linger. But I know that the children there are the ones you can't let go of. You carefully take out their photos. Thin children under the blue sky and white clouds are trying to smile at you with their typical plateau red faces. I know, it is these smiles that make you miss day and night. ?
It is this yearning that makes you sign up to teach in Tibet regardless of obstacles. You said that my study environment is good, and those poor children also need an equal opportunity to change their destiny. ?
I won't keep you any longer. You leave with a thick suitcase and go to the fairyland in your mind. What you told me before you left was the initial refueling. You only hope that I can find my own fairyland in three years' study. Looking at your smile, I am thoughtful. ?
The network is blocked and the traffic is inconvenient. I only got a few calls from you within a year. You said, "Without water, it is really difficult to have frequent power cuts. But I am calm and comfortable. " Yes! You let the children in Tibetan areas share my simplest and truest maternal love: you taught them to read, accompanied them to grow up, guided them to be human beings, and gave them the opportunity to change their destiny, thus realizing your career dream. I know your peace and happiness. I also realized the spiritual wonderland that you and I worked together.
Mom, I saw you yesterday. You took out the praying doll sewn for me by Tibetan children. They asked you to tell me, thanking my sister for giving them a good mother and wishing me success in the exam. It also has crooked Tibetan "I love you". Looking at the apologetic but happy faces of the praying dolls and their mothers, I once burst into tears.
Mom, today, I was thinking and writing my life answer sheet in the examination room of the college entrance examination. I will move forward calmly with such love and hope that you have given Tibetan children. I will learn from my mother your persistence in faith, and your willingness to contribute to and repay the society. I will learn from my mother your devotion to my career and create a landscape that truly belongs to me. ?
I admire your daughter the most.
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Chapter three: the terrain is Kun-a gentleman carries things with kindness.
If you live alone in the mountains, you must be safe for 20 years. Salute every car and walk forty miles a day alone. Let's pay tribute to this noble soul.
Indeed, some people look mediocre in our mortal eyes, but their noble character supports our world day and night. The world is proud of them, and they deserve the praise of the trains deep in the mountains. A gentleman carries things with kindness!
Maybe we have hesitated, maybe we have been confused, but the noble souls of the sages shine on our way forward like lighthouses: Confucius said, "Learning is close to knowledge, doing is close to benevolence, and knowing shame is close to courage." Let us understand what "three dads" are. Meng Ziyun said: "The old man is old, the young man is young, and the young man is young." Let us understand what "universal love" is. Zhuang Ziyun said: "Everyone values profit, honest people value fame, sages value ambition, and sages value essence." Let us understand what "value" is. Laozi said, "The winner is strong, and the loser is strong." Let's understand what "victory" is.
I have been in China for five thousand years, and there are countless talents. Perhaps many skilled skills have long been lost, and perhaps many precious cultural relics have also been lost. But the spirit of the sages never stopped. Lao Ji inherited the fine tradition handed down from China for 5,000 years, bearing the majestic mountain and every railway on it with the virtue of a gentleman. ?
This reminds me of the old man. In order to let the poor children go to school with peace of mind, Bai Laoren 10 donated 350,000 yuan with a bicycle for more than 300 years, and subsidized the tuition and living expenses of more than 300 college students. Every penny he gave to his students was stepped out with his legs high and low. He accumulates with a drop of sweat every morning and evening. This is hard-won, hard-won! As usual, an ancient old man like him not only didn't need to do anything for others, but fully accepted the care and care of others. But he didn't, not only not at all, but lit all the remaining candles that he could shine for others, and they burned so brightly.
Great love has no boundaries, and morality carries things. ?
Culture needs to be accumulated, and countless iron bones have emerged in the cradle of China. Many of them have never been energetic. But they will always carry out their noble virtues, ten years, twenty years, or even a lifetime. ?
Noble in the ordinary, broad in the lasting. ?
In China, how many kind souls are giving silently? Lei Feng descendants Guo, Kangba Iron Man Cai Wa, Xinyi Brothers, ...?
They are the backbone of China, and their virtues will surely carry the whole world. ?
Pay tribute to those heroes!
Chapter four: Difficulties and difficulties coexist, and fear and fear coexist.
Laozi, the originator of Taoism, said: "Whether there is a mutual relationship or not, it is difficult to complement each other, and the length and the height are in harmony, and the sound and sound are in harmony." Thousands of years ago, Lao Tzu revealed the unity of opposites. Fear and fear are interdependent. There is no absolute fear or love, everything depends on your attitude. Sometimes, fear and fearlessness are like two ends of a scale. You go up, it goes down, and you go down, it goes up.
"Middle school students have three fears, Olympics, English and Zhou Shuren" has become a buzzword, which must have its roots.
What is fear? British psychologist Richard? Wiseman said: "Fear is the feeling of fear and withdrawal when a person can't solve something."
Here I will take "fear of the Olympics" as an example to illustrate! As we all know, Olympiad Mathematics is a difficult subject, especially liberal arts students, who want to stay away from it. We can understand "Olympiad" as "profound mathematics". For ordinary people, abstruse mathematics is often beyond their endurance, so students are afraid of Olympic mathematics and dare not touch it. But as the saying goes, "jump and feel", for some students with higher IQ, they have the ability to solve such problems, so they love the Olympics more than they are afraid.
From this, it is concluded that whether a person is afraid or not, ability is the key factor.
However, we can't say that completely. Most middle school students have the same intelligence, but there is still a difference between being afraid and not being afraid.
Lin said: "the real peace is not to avoid the noise of horses and chariots, but to cultivate chrysanthemums in your heart." And I want to say: the real fear is not to avoid the problem, but to dare to face it directly. Hua is a famous mathematician in China, but he is not a mathematical genius. However, he has a strong heart. In the face of math problems, he never flinched and never ran away. Instead, he chose to face the problem, study hard and have fun. As a result, he became stronger, his fear weakened and his love for mathematics increased. Finally, he reached the "peak" of mathematics.
Xu Zhimo said in Want to Fly: "People don't want to fly. They are tired of crawling on this land, not to mention other things. Fly out of this circle, fly out of this circle ... look at it in the air-this is the fun of being a man, the fun of being a man, and the fun of being a man. " Fear and fear are interdependent and interdependent. Only when you have the courage to recognize your upward heart and face up to the problem, will your love overcome your fear and you will climb the peak.
Chapter 5: Enough is enough, and then enough is enough.
Of course, stopping at the best is the result that everyone wants to see most. Both farmers and fishermen in remote villages and workers and executives in prosperous cities are playing a harmonious rhythm for this fast-paced social development. ?
However, Foxconn's brothers and sisters paid the price of their lives because they couldn't keep up with this harmonious rhythm. Environment is an important factor to change a person, but you can't be trapped in the present environment and don't know the way back. Life is beautiful, and you can't choose to be suicidal because of short-term setbacks and pains. There is always sunshine after the storm. How can you feel the joy of harvest without hard work? Mr. Ma Yun, the founder of Alibaba, said: "Today is cruel, tomorrow is even more cruel, and the day after tomorrow is beautiful, but most people will die tomorrow night and will not see the sun the day after tomorrow." It is most appropriate to reflect these people who can't stand the ups and downs of life. If you can't stand the blow, you will lose the beauty of the day after tomorrow. ?
Perhaps, the environment is just a mistake in life choice.
When people are at the crossroads, there are indeed many mistakes in choice and missed opportunities. If this group is really not suitable for you, you can consider changing it. You don't have to wait until the boss thinks you are not qualified for the job before you choose to leave. Life is about finding what suits you, not making do with it yourself. Even if the salary of this job is good, but it violates your principles and moral bottom line, you can say' no' generously. There is nothing shameful or vulgar. ?
In recent years, a famous person-VAE has appeared in Anhui. He is known as' Jay Chou Mann' and' Han Han in Music', which shows his influence. Needless to say, the shadow of who he is, a search in any search engine is his great contribution. ?
Anyone who has read his resume knows that he is a graduate of Anhui Medical University. However, he embarked on the road of independent music creation, and the collection of songs and records was made by one person, which is one of the few wonderful works among creative singers. He didn't sign a contract with any record company, and it sold well only through publicity. He has a large number of fans around the world. So many fans show that he is successful and an example to everyone. Medicine and music are two different industries, but Vae has found its own way to make this choice unlimited. It is very important to choose the one that suits you; What doesn't suit you will only make you lose more. ?
Take marriage as an example. Finding someone who loves you is a lifetime thing, not a casual life. The road of life is neither long nor short. You can't live on the spot, but you have to live with relish. Now David's blind date programs are all about men choosing women and women choosing men. The thunder language of thunder people makes foreigners question China people's love view and values. Are all people in China so vulgar? If you ask others, you should first weigh your own weight. The right bond is tied to two people, not on the condition that one of them is out of line and violates the social atmosphere. In that case, one end of a suitable balance will be unbalanced and tilted. Ironically, Xifeng, Fuzi Mountain is so deep that she can't figure out her own weight. She boasted that only graduate students from Peking University and Tsinghua are suitable for her, and she didn't blame being thrown eggs on the show. If I were you, I would definitely throw pebbles. According to accurate estimation, there are 6 people in China who meet the requirements of Xifeng. I hope one of these six people can stay with Xifeng until the end of her life.
Onions are onions. You can't put garlic anywhere. Everyone knows this simple common sense: wheat can't be grown in paddy fields and rice can't be grown in dry lands. If we have to go against objective laws and act subjectively, it will only backfire and end up in a mess. ?
The same is true in life. You can only start when you can, and stop when you can.