With the growth of age, we gradually find that life is not satisfactory, nine times out of ten.

Many people are complaining about the injustice of life, but they don't know that problems always get worse when you complain.

If we can not complain and struggle, we can change: even if life is uneven everywhere, we can face it with a peaceful mind.

The ancients said:

Complaining is just a fig leaf for the weak.

Because the weak have no ability to change and solve problems and don't want to lose face, they will find various excuses and reasons to excuse themselves.

Writer San Mao said:

Read such a story:

When A and B passed a small bridge, the bridge suddenly collapsed, and the water below had already dried up, and both of them fell to the bottom of the bridge.

A look at the injured leg, swearing:

"I'm really unlucky. I was late for work yesterday. Today, I crossed a bridge and almost risked my life.

I just got married. What if I die like this?

My leg seems to be broken. This bridge is too weak. Who built the bean curd dregs project? That's heartless. "

She began to cry as she spoke.

B is injured, too. He looked at his injury and said to himself, fortunately, it's just a scratch, not serious.

He called an ambulance first, then called his boss to explain the situation and asked the company for a half-day leave.

The ambulance came and lifted the armor with the medical staff.

B went to the hospital to treat the wound and continued to work in the company.

Let's review what these two people did after the accident: A did nothing but complain.

B did not choose to complain after the incident, but set about solving the problem.

Seneca once said:

When we get used to complaining, we will have the illusion that the whole world is against us.

Mr. Lu Xun once said:

People who are used to complaining will have a rough life in the future.

Because complaining will only kill your will, make you more and more negative, and eventually accomplish nothing.

Because of constant complaining, a good mood will turn into a bad mood, and a good mood will turn into a bad mood.

Instead of complaining, it is better to accept it frankly and reflect on yourself more.

Xin Qiji has a cloud:

Many times, what we think is deliberately making things difficult is actually the normal state in life.

It's just that some people are used to suffering silently and don't want to say it.

We have our talents and they have their secrets; When we are struggling, they are also grinding their teeth.

There is a "attribution theory" in psychology: if there is a problem, you attribute it to others, and you will feel depressed and powerless instead of actively solving the problem.

On the contrary, if you look for reasons from yourself, you will reflect on yourself, try to correct your mistakes and get things back on track, so as to gain valuable life experience and a positive attitude towards life.

Romain rolland once said:

Someone once asked Cai Chongxin, Alibaba's permanent partner, "What's the saddest thing for you over the years?"

Cai Chongxin replied, "Are you asking something sad or something difficult to handle? There seems to be nothing sad, just something difficult. "

It is meaningful to think about this sentence carefully: along the way, you have experienced difficulties and frustrations, and you chose to face the sunshine all the way.

What was once considered a big deal now seems like a piece of cake.

The past is the past, and there is nothing to entangle.

Life is our own. Whether we live well or not depends on ourselves.

Feng Zikai said:

Instead of clinging to unpleasant things, making yourself resentful and making life smoky, try to let go.

Only by not dwelling on the past can we face the next challenge with a positive attitude.

If the heart is sunny, life will bloom in spring.

The ancients have a cloud:

Will Bowen said in The World Without Complaints:

When encountering problems, trying to change the current predicament is the solution to the problem.

When Wang was a guest in Thirteen Invitations, he shared his experience as a walk-on.

At that time, countless people told him: you can't make a movie at all, you have no conditions, no talent and no looks.

He took his resume and asked the director to audition. The director watched him throw it directly into the trash can and said, you can't even speak Mandarin, and you still want to be an actor?

This almost insulting conversation was repeated all the time when Wang was a walk-on.

After becoming famous, Wang recalled that experience without much resentment, but with more understanding: "Did you say they were wrong? They are also right, people are just being realistic. "

Wang Mingbai, who is ridiculed and questioned every day, can't complain because it is useless to complain.

The only thing I can do is to keep working hard, change myself and make myself stronger.

Being laughed at for not speaking Mandarin, he began to practice Mandarin crazily.

Wang said in "Thirteen Invitations":

When the crew didn't ask him to act, he took the initiative to apply for martial arts doubles. Others fake it, but he is serious, punching to the flesh, just for a realistic shot.

When filming "Soldier Assault", I suddenly soaked in the water for three or four hours, and my hands and feet turned white. Later, Wang felt weak and went straight to the sink. When the director saw that something was wrong, he asked the staff to surround him and fished him out to save his life.

Later, a little eunuch was needed for filming Kangxi Dynasty. Because he knew the lines best, he was the first to be pushed up.

As Huai Nan Zi said:

Wang's success is the result of his unremitting efforts and constant breakthrough.

Writer Liu Tong said:

The reason why a strong man becomes a strong man is that he can turn the emotion of complaining into the power to strive for upward growth.

In adversity, people can only save themselves by changing.

Lu Xiaoman wrote in "Advancing with the Day":

Life is a journey with no turning back.

Do not complain, accept everything, in order to embrace beauty;

If you don't explain, the past will pass, and you must look forward;

To change, it is better to try to change than to complain.

For the rest of my life, look ahead, don't complain, don't explain, don't pester.