Look around you, there are more and more people who can't find the north. Watching TV and movies too much is like acting in life; When people with enough grades see more, they will also pretend to be elegant and show off in the circle, which is very lofty; I learned a lot of language skills, but I said a lot without any real feelings. Many people are imitating other people's lives instead of being themselves. Many young people feel that they are very individual, rebellious and flaunt themselves. In fact, they are not being themselves, but chasing new trends and copying other people's lives.
Now is the age of show. Not only celebrities, businessmen, officials and teachers also show off. It is reported that this year's Children's Day (1997), in a June 1 celebration in Guangzhou, leaders, teachers and guests took the stage to speak one by one, and the students were all sad and hot. The show culture of the adult world, starting with dolls, has been constantly edified and cultivated generations of literati. Now a five-year-old child is performing on stage, and he will make the usual gestures of adults to incite the audience to give me some applause! Whenever I see this scene, I will ask myself in my mind: Is this really the real voice of a child or is it taught by an adult? Will a child who grows up under this pandering psychology become himself in the future? At present, vicious incidents such as murder, suicide, jumping off buildings, prostitution, and keeping children on campus are endless, and there is only one source: losing yourself.
If you want to realize your life value, you must be yourself! This is the first step of self-realization. Only by reaching the realm of self-realization can we get happiness in life, peace of mind and inner richness. Self-realization is to find yourself and surpass yourself. Self-realization means experiencing your life fully, actively and intently. Self-realization means knowing your life choices. Like a poem:
God whispers in your heart and mine,
Quietly, but audible,
He told us:
The most powerful thing is Nietzsche's sentence: be yourself! . (2)
We don't imitate, because we are role models for others. If we can set an example in life and work and become an example for others to learn, it means that we have reached a certain level in doing things. Even if I can't reach this level, being myself is the basic embodiment of realizing the value of life.
Self-realization is neither selfish nor narcissistic, nor is it a deliberate pursuit of perfection and so-called perfection. Whether in the workplace or in life, a person who pursues the realization of his own life value should have the following personal qualities:
First, know yourself and accept yourself. Self-abased people look down on themselves, narcissists value themselves too much, conceited people dare not face up to themselves, complacent people ignore their potential selves, but self-centered people lose themselves, self-indulgent people give up on themselves, and suicidal people can't accept themselves. These are all unable to correctly understand and accept themselves.
To realize the value of self-life, we must first have an inner dialogue, open our hearts to ourselves, listen to our inner impulsive voice, and understand our true self: what kind of person I am, what kind of emotional tendency I have, where I am going, what my life mission and responsibility are, what advantages and disadvantages I have, and so on. See yourself clearly, find yourself unique in this world, and accept everything that belongs to you unconditionally, so as to find your own life value and realize your own life value.
Second, accept others and living environment. A person who strives to realize the value of his life will inevitably seek harmony with the interpersonal relationship and living environment around him, and will not be affected by external factors. At the same time, he will strive to turn all external factors into factors conducive to his growth.
A cynic feels that he has hit a wall everywhere, and no wind direction is downwind for him, because he puts himself on the opposite side of the environment. A person who looks down on others everywhere. Everything is his fault to others. Even if he is full of integrity and kindness, don't trust him, because he has blinded his eyes. In the workplace, people who can accept others, act with empathy, have an open mind, have good interpersonal relationships, and are good at absorbing the advantages and strengths of others are easy to be appreciated and promoted by leaders. In life, people who are good at accepting others can establish more comfortable social and interpersonal relationships and gain a deep sense of happiness in life.
Third, the natural expression of behavior. A hypocritical, pretentious and juggling person, he can't find his true self, let alone realize himself. Therefore, a person who pursues self-worth must be honest, pure and natural in his behavior style, without affectation or disguise. There is a famous saying: if a person can show himself in strength, he will never make a fuss about skills. If you dare to face your true self and have a strong heart, you don't need to dress up deliberately. The more petty bureaucrats, the more peaceful and natural the real leaders are; The more a person feels inferior, the more he pretends to be arrogant, and the more rich he is, the more he is afraid that others will look down on him. The sea is silent, who will doubt its depth and vastness? Taishan is tall and straight and doesn't care about other people's feelings. Who can say it's true? Being true to yourself, daring to face the advantages and disadvantages of your own humanity and being honest with life are the only ways to realize yourself.
Fourth, have keen insight, appreciation and creativity in real life. Love life, love the world, love people around you, love your work, and keep the freshness of appreciation, and gain insight into the meaning of ordinary life, so as to realize the value contained in life. The value of life is reflected by the results of one stage, and the results of one stage will become the process of realizing the next stage. The value of life is the synthesis of results and processes. Everyone has to fall in love, but it is inevitable that they will be lovelorn; Everyone wants to get married, and divorce is inevitable; Everyone wants to live a wonderful life, but no one can escape the inevitable result of life. Do you think the result is important or the process is important? If we only pay attention to the process and not the result, just like people who are in love will never get married, it will be a fig leaf of love after all. If we only pay attention to the result and ignore the process, we will lose the wonderful experience of the life process and never feel happy. Therefore, the value of life lies not only in the wonderful process, but also in the realization of the result, which is a re-creation of one's original life.
5. Clear objectives, responsibilities and missions. Without a clear value orientation and life goal, it is impossible to realize the self-worth of life. There is a lot of discussion about life goals and responsibilities. I just want to emphasize that the value of life is the goal and responsibility of life. Every responsibility is the realization of life value, and the life value of self is realized through the accumulation of life bit by bit.
Sixth, it is beyond the characteristics of independence and the need for solitude. The biggest psychological problem facing modern people is that they are losing the ability to think independently. Information has flooded every aspect of life, and the online world has become an increasingly popular way of life. Modern people seldom have time to sit quietly and think about their own thoughts. Some people's psychology has become so fragile that they can't stand being alone for a moment. Many people are addicted to the internet and occasionally isolated from the online world, so they are at a loss; Some people's habit is to turn on the TV the first thing when they come home from work, expecting a series that they can't watch all their lives. If the power is cut off occasionally, it will be like ants in your pants. People used to take a few books or diaries with them when they went on business trips, but now they will ask the hotel if they can surf the Internet, have coffee or chat. Many people can't find themselves in a prosperous and affluent lifestyle. Although I often call for myself, I often look for my position in other people's frame of reference, rather than going deep into my heart to find my potential self. A person who loses himself can't think, can't find out where his life value lies, and how can he realize his self-value?
Independent thinking ability is the most important personal quality to realize the value of self-life. Being able to enjoy life instead of going with the flow, enduring a little loneliness, enjoying occasional loneliness, thinking deeply on the road of self-cultivation, self-cultivation and self-reflection at all times will light a bright light in your heart and inspire your unlimited potential and value.