-Ji Xianlin
As an educator, Mr. Ji Xianlin is full of peaches and plums.
He not only teaches people knowledge, but also teaches people noble character.
His character stems from his long-term understanding of self-cultivation and peace of mind.
Telling the truth is his personal style and what he says is the standard of his life practice. Even in some seemingly trivial things, he can be consistent and never break his word. For example, he once showed luggage to a freshman he didn't know on campus. As long as he agrees, even if he stands under the tree for a long time, he will finish what he started.
In ancient times, there was a story about "Ceng Zi killing pigs", which I'm afraid everyone knows.
Ceng Zi was deeply taught by Confucius. He is not only knowledgeable, but also very honest. He never cheats others, even for his own children.
One day, Ceng Zi's wife was going to the market, and the child cried and asked to go with his mother. So his mother lied to him and said, "Good boy, wait for your mother at home and kill the pig for you when she comes back from the market." The child believed it and ran home happily.
In the evening, the child saw his mother come back from a distance. He ran forward to meet him in three steps and shouted, "Mom, mom, kill the pig ..."
Ceng Zi's wife said, "A pig can support our family's food for two or three months. How can you kill pigs casually? " The child cried with a wow.
Ceng Zi heard it, and when he knew the truth, he didn't say anything. Turn around and go back to the house After a while, he came out with a knife and went straight to the pigsty.
The wife asked inexplicably, "What are you doing in the pigsty with a knife?"
Ceng Zi replied without thinking: "Kill the pig".
Ceng Zi said seriously, "Didn't you promise your child to kill pigs for him? Since you promised, you should do it. "
The wife said, "I'm just lying to the children." Why should I talk to them seriously? "
Ceng Zi said: "It is more important for children to keep their promises. Otherwise, isn't it obvious that children should lie like their parents? " ? Adults don't keep their words. What qualifications do you have to educate your children in the future? "
The wife bowed her head in shame after hearing this. The couple really killed the pigs for their children and gave a banquet to entertain the villagers, asking them to educate their children to set an example.
Although Ceng Zi was laughed at by some people, he educated honest and trustworthy children.
The story of Ceng Zi's killing pigs has spread to this day, and his character has been admired by later generations.
Whether you are a parent or in a high position, only by speaking out can you be like the Analects of Confucius? Lutz said: "It is upright and does not command; His body is not right, although he does not obey. " The story is about Yan Ying, the prime minister of Qi, who lived in three dynasties and was highly respected. He is very strict with himself, setting an example everywhere, advocating honesty, eating brown rice, wearing coarse clothes, taking a humble car and living in a low house. Qi Jinggong felt bad about giving him a new car and new clothes, but he was determined not to accept it. Qi Jinggong wants to build a new house for him, but he still insists on not accepting it ...
The improvement of quality cultivation comes from accumulated practice, which refers to the continuous self-improvement of one's beliefs, values and world outlook. To a great extent, people's values are produced and formed when they passively respond to the outside world. Because everyone reacts differently to the same event, everyone's world outlook will be different. Some people's understanding of the outside world is negative and form negative values. Some people actively understand the world and then form positive values.
There is no shortcut to improve your quality except continuous learning. Including learning from books and learning from others. In the process of learning, we should pay attention to discovering the bright spots of people and things, and don't always stare at the shortcomings of others and the dark side of things. Because everyone has advantages and disadvantages, everything has its pros and cons, and any society has its pros and cons, just as there are days and nights in nature. Everyone should pay attention to learning from the advantages of others in life, appreciate the beauty of things, and complain less about the bad of others or the demanding of public opinion, and your mentality will naturally be positive.
By improving one's moral cultivation, one can help others and even appease the people. Even a saint with high morality and high cultivation like Yao Shun will feel that he can't do it. What's more, what about us ordinary people? It's not too short to settle down temporarily, and it's not too long to cultivate one's morality. Strengthening self-cultivation is to cultivate an honest person's open and simple spirit, and finally achieve the sublimation of personality of "cultivating self-cultivation and protecting people" and "cultivating self-cultivation and protecting the world"
You know, a person's happiness is not because he has more, but because he cares less.
Getting angry easily is undoubtedly punishing yourself with other people's faults.
Learn to think about yourself behind closed doors, not people.
He who can bear hardships is a man with lofty ideals, and he who is willing to bear hardships is not an idiot. A gentleman's respect is virtue, and a villain is not incompetent. Retreat to the highland and let the three points be calm. If you want to make progress, you need to think backwards. If you start, you must let go first. If you are proud, you shouldn't go back. Everything should be more than one step.
Infinite potential, infinite blessings, infinite cheapness and infinite cleverness. ...
Drops of water wear through the stone, not by strength, but by kung fu. Like Ji Lao, he will never stop learning, always have a peaceful heart, always be immune to morality, and always be a useful person to society.
When Mr. Ji Xianlin was elected as the person of the year in China in 2006, there was a passage in the acceptance speech of the jury: "If you have a conscience, write a moral article. A cloth, the words have substance, the lines have style, the poverty is unshakable, and the expensive is not surprising. " This is the lofty realm that he has pursued all his life, "Don't like or be afraid of big waves to wash sand" and "cultivate one's morality and help others".
The criterion of China's entry into WTO is "cultivate one's morality, cultivate one's nature and be calm". This concept has influenced China people for a long time. If you want to "help others", you must first "cultivate yourself". If you don't cultivate your self, you can't help others.
Life should be specialized with an open mind, just like Ji Lao: self-confidence, tolerance, forbearance, positive attitude, indifference and self-discipline. In this way, when you are in contact with people, you will naturally choose good people as friends, read good books, listen to good things and do good things, and constantly improve your life realm.
Cultivation is very important. Because most people don't like being managed, and they don't like being managed by people who can't even manage themselves well. Since everyone doesn't like to be in charge, everyone should learn to be in charge of themselves. This is self-discipline, which is self-cultivation.
In this way, self-discipline is not only morality, but also management, or it is closely related to management.
In real life, in the workplace, management can be said to affect everyone.
For example:
For example, how the boss authorizes his subordinates and how to strike a balance between authorization and control is a painful and sweet struggle for every manager. Even every day of his career.
Authorization is like flying a kite. People and kites are connected by a thread. If you want the kite to reach the right height, this thread must have the right length. If it is too short, subordinates will feel that the control is too strict and their ability cannot be displayed. If the line is too long, subordinates will feel neglected and feel helpless floating in the air. Managers also feel that subordinates are too far away from themselves, and it is difficult to come at once.
Managers must first understand that they are managing people, not directly managing tasks. You should first shift from the technical level to the management level, instead of telling your subordinates exactly what to do. It is the employee's business how to complete the task.
Managers should not decide the scale of kite line by personal preference and inherent personality.
In commercial times, we are more and more troubled by the increasing workload. When it is too big for us to deal with alone, authorization becomes a good way to solve this problem.
Excellent managers should learn to let go of their hands and feet and let their subordinates give full play to their intelligence. If something goes wrong, you just need the ability to quickly decide who is responsible for dealing with the consequences. If you want to try your best to cultivate and explore the working ability of your subordinates, you must work hard on it.
Different subordinates should be treated differently. Subordinates with strong working ability and enterprising spirit can be entrusted with more important tasks; Subordinates with weak working ability and initiative need to think twice before authorizing.
Professor Ji Xianlin is not only a scholar, but also a manager. He held many administrative positions in his life, such as vice president and director of research institute. The main group he manages is students, not researchers. Teacher Ji not only taught them knowledge, but also taught them morality and self-cultivation with his own actions.
◆ Don't tell white lies, mostly on matters of principle. Ji Lao insisted on telling the truth all his life. This spirit is really commendable.
Ordinary people are hard to say.
Why is it sometimes difficult for honest people to lie?
Lies are called "lies" because they are false, untrue and deceptive words.
It is true that if a person often lies to deceive others, he will lose people's trust over time. Just like the child in "The Lying Child", he shouts "Wolf is coming" every day for fun, but when the wolf really comes, he has to face it alone and bear it himself. No matter how much he shouts, it won't help him. Because people who might come to help him are used to his yelling and think that he is "teasing you" again. It can be seen that lies hinder honesty.
"White lies" are people's good wishes for things, a dialogue between people's kind hearts, the warmth of people comforting each other, and the tenderness revealed in people's hearts ... No one will investigate its credibility. People who hear a white lie will try to believe it even if they know it is a lie, and will not feel the hypocrisy of the liar, and sometimes they will be grateful from the heart.
When a terminally ill patient is sentenced to death by a doctor, his parents, lover, children and all relatives will not directly tell him, "Life is hopeless" and "How long can I live in this world at most". Although all this is true, who will tell the truth to their already miserable relatives as cruelly as a judge sentenced a prisoner to death? At this time, everyone will form a United front, keep silent about the truth, use white lies to make patients full of hope for treatment, and let patients maintain a peaceful mind for treatment. Does this hinder integrity?
How I wish I could see my son for the last time when his mother was terminally ill and dying. However, my son can't come back, and he can't do a little filial piety for his old mother and take care of the mother who once broke his heart for his son. He regrets and misses it. The old mother understands her son very well and tells her relatives around her not to tell her distant son after she leaves and not to distract him. She should say that her condition is stable, reassure him and do her best for the country. Will such a white lie hinder honesty?
Therefore, some people think that white lies will not only hinder honesty, but also greatly enhance the friendship and feelings between people. White lies are used when they should be used, and there is not much conflict with honesty or not.
Telling lies will inevitably hinder honesty and integrity, and telling the truth is regarded as the motto of life. Truth can reflect truth.
There is no doubt that a white lie is itself a lie.
Some people say that lying is cheating, and cheating is immoral.
Someone asked, who hasn't lied?
For our relatives, friends or strangers, there are many purposes, but when we add "goodwill" to a lie, it seems that everyone can accept it, which is the concentrated expression of human weakness.
Mark? Twain once said, "When you can't make up your mind, tell the truth. It will embarrass your opponent and make your friends feel relieved. " So the psychologist's point of view is: don't lie easily, even if it is a white lie.
White lies are also untrue and cover up the truth.
White lies are well-intentioned, but because of their uncertainty, they are often used by some "professional liars". A white lie is a lie in itself. Although he has shed his beggar's clothes and put on his cheongsam, he still can't get rid of the essence of lies, which means cheating and hinders honesty. Some people think that white lies have a good starting point, but once they are exposed, they will hurt each other more deeply. As a lie itself, its essence is a violation of good faith.
Among the 20-character moral standards put forward in the Implementation Outline of Citizen Moral Construction, "honesty" is a very important criterion, and honesty means seeking truth and justice. The ancients said that "true self" was sincere. Not refined and sincere, not moving.
Those who oppose this view believe that honesty is a means, not an end. The fundamental principle of communication with people is seeking truth from facts and being kind to others. A white lie is also a means, which has the same effect as honesty. Considering the patient's endurance, in order not to increase the mental burden of the patient, it is in line with the purpose of honesty to temporarily conceal the illness and fabricate white lies. Malicious lies are to achieve ulterior motives, fabricate facts, reverse right and wrong, confuse black and white, and create rumors. It is fundamentally different from a white lie.