Spring Festival is a traditional festival for family reunion in China. However, due to the concern of relatives, friends and elders about young people's marriage and love, many unmarried young people feel pressure. Forced marriage during festivals has become a traditional program that has been staged repeatedly.
According to the Survey Report on Marriage Customs of Unmarried Youth released by the Social Survey and Public Opinion Research Group of Du Nan Polling Center, over 40% of the unmarried respondents think that being single is free and unconstrained, and nearly half of the single respondents are eager to get rid of being single. Frequent urging of marriage by parents and relatives is an important source of "single pressure".
Parents' forced marriage is not only lip service, but also often personal action. The blind date angle in the park has caused heated public opinion from time to time. According to media reports, the blind date corner of Tianhe Park in Guangzhou is crowded with parents who are worried about their children. Parents help find partners and arrange blind dates, but most children don't know their resumes and put them in the blind date corner.
Is there really no solution to such "forced marriage"? Maybe not.
Lonely yin is not born, and the sun alone is not long; It is a natural law that men should marry and women should marry. Parents who have worked hard to raise their children naturally long for their children to have a good home. It's not that young people of marriageable age really don't want to get married, but because of many reasons, they can't find the right person at the moment.
The goals of parents and children are highly consistent, and the reason why the "forced marriage" war is staged can probably be attributed to the conflict between ideal and reality. Young people full of reverie are inevitably romantic and unwilling to make do at will, and most of the parents who have experienced it are based on realistic considerations, often because the emperor is not in a hurry.
From a modern perspective, getting married or not is just a state of life, which should be decided by the parties themselves. However, whether out of traditional thinking, pressure from relatives and friends around, or out of consideration for children's real happiness, parents will do their best to urge their children to solve lifelong events. I believe many people have had the experience of being forced into marriage by their parents. The feeling of being besieged and crying is really hard!
As a former "victim", I don't support this kind of "forced marriage", and I don't agree with the criticism of it, saying that it is the embodiment of parental power in the traditional concept, which seriously infringes on the freedom and independent and equal personality status of young people. Not to mention that in today's society full of "little emperors" and "little princesses", there are not many so-called parental rights. Even if parents really "bully" their children, there is no need to raise them to the height of violating freedom and personality.
The wind of poor inheritance, if even parents' selfless care for their children should be branded with this terrible brand, wouldn't it be a cold-blooded animal? Practically speaking, this statement not only defiles parents' sincere love for their children, but also does not help, and can only aggravate or even intensify contradictions.
It is annoying and helpless to encounter forced marriage, but it also needs empathy and gratitude. If you look at it from another angle, you may find the rich love behind forced marriage. Isn't this great happiness? There is no need for young people to be furious and numb when their resumes are taken by their parents on blind dates. It may be much easier to communicate with parents in a different way, which will help Qi Xin to work together to better solve lifelong events. Why not?
Of course, why do young people reject forced marriage? Parents should also ask themselves appropriately. Most young people think that blind date can be accepted as a way of making friends if they communicate with their parents and respect each other. You can't eat hot tofu if you are impatient, so parents should pay attention to their own ways and means.
Marriage is not a business. It is understandable to arrange six blind dates in seven days during the Spring Festival, but it is a bit hasty.