The most harmful thing in marriage is that the man is outside the house and the woman is inside. Why should women take the lead in sacrifice and dedication?
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There was a bridge on the Internet, and 33-year-old L got a promotion opportunity and became the general manager of Wuhan Branch. If he accepts, he must leave his residence in Hefei and go home every weekend.
L is very tangled. First, this promotion is very important. With the experience of branch management, I may take on more core positions in the head office in the future, which is a connecting link in my career; Secondly, the child is almost 3 years old and will soon go to kindergarten, which is a relatively relaxed period in his childhood. But her husband may disagree, so getting his support is the core.
Before speaking, l was full of her husband, at least not resolutely opposed. After all, after the child was born, it was raised by grandparents. It is a typical "mother gave birth to grandma and grandparents came to see it". Even three years ago, the critical moment of L's pregnancy and childbirth was also the golden period of her husband's career development. The whole family supported him unanimously. L go for a checkup, and everyone takes turns to take care of the child and push him into the fast lane of his career together.
Empathy, I think her husband should understand her thoughts.
That's not the case at all. My husband is firmly opposed to the allocation of L in Wuhan for two years. He said: first, when children are young, they need their mother's company most, which is selfish regardless of feelings; Second, someone in the family always has to make sacrifices. Men are masters and women must be masters, otherwise the family will be out of balance. Third, my career is also on the rise, and I need a stable rear. At present, the family's economic situation is relatively rich and there is no need to work together.
L lists various solutions: you can take your children to Wuhan; Try to go home every weekend to ensure family communication; The attraction of this task is not money, but opportunity; As long as two years, two years is just a fragment in a long life.
The husband is still firmly opposed.
Behind most successful men, there are women who work silently, but there are also many women who work hard for their careers. Behind them, there is a man who spares no effort to tear Taiwan Province apart with a cynical stance.
The most harmful thing in marriage is that the man is outside the house and the woman is inside. Why should women take the lead in sacrifice and dedication?
There is a skeleton in the cupboard. A woman can support a man at home with humiliation and let him struggle with peace of mind. Why do men obstruct women when they are doing things, such as children and housework?
What two people need more for their families is mutual support, mutual encouragement and mutual sharing, instead of a man using his career as a shield to let a woman do everything at home and then enjoy it with peace of mind.
The most ridiculous thing is that when a husband and wife quarrel, the man often says, I am working hard outside, so it is good for you to take a child to do housework at home. A person's ignorance is often something he has never experienced. If he is allowed to cook at home and take care of the children's housework continuously, I'm afraid he will collapse in a week, and he has no experience and is not qualified to evaluate.
In fact, everyone has everyone's pressure, and every role has her responsibilities. Women can gently understand the hardships of your hard work outside. Why can't a man respect you for working hard at home to support her?
Such a man has only himself in his world, and he will never care about you and understand you. If one day you need his sacrifice to harm his interests, he will only become ferocious and say something that will make you even more chilling.
Many women blindly sacrifice themselves in order to open up men's careers and horizons. How can we develop our own career and improve our horizons?
There is also a bridge on the Internet: I once visited my friend Lily's house. Lili is a family of four. Since she gave birth to Bauer, she has taken care of her children at home with peace of mind.
It is said that the dining table is a mirror for a family to get along with. When eating, Lili held Bao Xiao, who was eight months old, in one hand and greeted Dabao to sit down and have a good meal, while her husband bowed his head and played with his mobile phone while eating.
Lily and I haven't seen each other for a long time. I didn't expect Dabao to be stuck by a fishbone, and I cried. Li Li put Bauer down and sat alone to help Dabao deal with the fishbone. Lili's husband didn't get up, but complained that Lili didn't clean up the fishbone and gave it to Dabao.
Dabao's thorn finally came out. When I took Dabao to wash my hands, I heard a bang. Bauer, who was sitting alone, fell off his chair and bulged a big bag on his forehead.
Bauer cried loudly, and Li Li was scared silly, while Li Li's husband sitting at the dinner table patted the table and shouted, "How do you take care of the children?" The big one cries, and the little one cries. I am too tired to go to work every day. When I come back, I must hear the children crying. If you can, bring it back to your hometown and my mother! "
"I turn around you three times in 24 hours, and I have no credit or hard work. If you give Bauer a hug, he won't fall from such a high chair! " Li Li holds the crying Bauer with tears in her eyes.
"You talk 24 hours a day. Have you ever earned a penny for your family? " Li Li's husband's eyes are full of disdain, which makes people shudder.
Li Li's eyelids drooped, and her grief was greater than her death. The family reunion ended in discord.
You can't forget your roots, you can't be a man.
It is a woman who sacrifices her career so that you can move forward without scruple;
It is when a woman sacrifices to go shopping with her girlfriends to eat and watch movies, and there are three dishes and one soup at home;
It is women who sacrifice their spare time to watch drama and make up to make the windows at home bright and clean;
All men will be grateful to their parents for saving money for their studies when they are admitted to the university and work smoothly;
But how many men will repay their wives who gave up their careers after success? I don't dislike your old age, it's already very good.
Don't be naive to think that your enthusiasm and dedication will win each other's love and cherish, even if not, at least you will get each other's gratitude and respect.
The more a man is willing to pay for his family, the more he will care about his wife's feelings and won't hurt you easily.
The more housework children do, the less they understand your hard work. Over time, you will only feed an ungrateful baiwenhang. Spoiled children will kill their mothers, and spoiled men will abandon their wives. At least the child won't leave you when he is young. At best, they just deprive you of love. And a selfish man with a successful career, when he is full-fledged, is the day to abandon you and throw himself at another woman. When time passes his last feelings, all he gets is the disgust of men abandoning their shoes and the ferocious face of larger foe.
A selfish man will think that he deserves all his success, and he won't think that it's all because of the humble woman behind him. Such a man might as well kill the donkey and the cook if he is full.
Because men's betrayal and injury are definitely not a cold day, I believe that women must be walking on thin ice on weekdays, being ridiculed again and again, being disappointed again and again, and their hearts are dying. Men with low emotional intelligence will make women an accessory to marriage. A man with high emotional intelligence will make both parties grow up and care about your feelings, because he will always remember you who worked hard at home, and no matter how hard you are outside, he will bring you his favorite dessert to entertain you; No matter how busy you are, you will remember every festival related to you and prepare all kinds of romance and surprises for you early.
Because they will always appreciate your support, share the joy of success with you, and let you help share the sadness of setbacks, and will not perfunctory with a "you don't understand".
As a husband, we should always respect our wife, set an example, let our children know that mother is the core of the family, and build their future family with a sound personality.
As a lover, no matter how hard it is, I will do housework with my wife after work and work together for this family to make myself feel at home;
As a father, you should put down your cell phone as much as possible to tell stories, play games and enjoy the happy time between parents and children. Let the child know that his father loves him and becomes his best playmate in childhood, and the child will be willing to be close to you and rely on you.
Unfortunately, many couples have turned their homes into hotels, and they prefer to tell their hearts to outsiders rather than talk to people at their bedside.
The most important role of a man is not to be a cold human flesh cash machine, not to give up his family, and to let a woman reluctantly become a big tree to support her family alone.
But a house that can shelter your family from the wind and rain, even if the house is not very luxurious, because in front of a woman who loves you, the inner luxury has always been related to your love, which is irreplaceable by piled materials. She believes that your tolerance and respect will enable both sides to support each other and make progress together, and she also believes that everything will be fine.
Your parents didn't raise you to attend a key university to raise your children for old age and expect you to return, nor did they mean that as long as you are a housewife, you must not take care of your family at the expense of your career and vision. Women always need to be illuminated by themselves and need to be independent at any time!
Mr. Linxi