Everyone is faced with various choices in life, including talented woman Xu, actress Wang Qianyuan, Mao Dun literature prize winner Mai Jia, the president of AIDS school and other guests. The following is my post-election thinking on the third issue of readers' theme view. Welcome everyone to have a look ~

After choosing the theme of the third issue of Reader, I have been looking forward to watching this program on Saturday night since the launch of Reader. At eight o'clock last night, our family locked in CCTV and waited for the "Reader" to air. Producer and host Dong Qing still wears a white dress, still smiles and still spits lotus flowers ... The theme of this issue is "Choice".

Every life has a different color, and every life is faced with all kinds of choices. Wang Qianyuan, an actor, chooses his favorite movie role to realize his dream of winning the movie. Ba Qin, a Yale student with a perfect TOEFL score, chose to return to China as a "college student village official" and dedicated his youth to the grassroots; Mai Jia, a famous writer, chose to spend his anxious adolescence with his son carefully. The life of the famous actress Xu is more exciting because of her strong choice. "Uncle Chinese Characters" Richard chose to contribute everything to Chinese characters; Guo Xiaoping, former hospital director, chose to be the principal of the only Red Ribbon School in China to provide education for AIDS children. These choices lead them to different lives.

Wang Qianyuan, who loves to compete with himself, made an important choice and won the best actor award for the film "Piano of Steel". Wang Qianyuan read Hemingway's The Old Man and the Sea.

Qin, TOEFL full score, love the mud under your feet. After graduating from Yale University, he resolutely chose to return to his hometown to be a college student village official, which influenced an elite group. A great nation needs muddy tempering and exercise, so that its backbone will never bend, and people will understand the loveliness, vastness and indispensability of the land in the arduous journey. The content of Qin's recitation is Mud written by Chi Zijian.

Mai Jia, a writer with wind and conspiracy, has a tense relationship with his rebellious son, who has been closed for three years. For 3 years, 1095 days, as a father, Mai Jia chose companionship and education, and never gave up enlightening and cultivating his son. The content of Mai Jia's recitation is a letter he wrote to his son, and the cautious words are heavy fatherly love.

Why did Xu choose to be an actor? What opportunity made her decide to direct a film? What kind of mental journey has she experienced behind directing different types of films? What I can't let go of most is my grandmother. How does this affect her? Xu Jinglei recited Shi Tiesheng's Grandma's Star.

Richard sears, an American sinologist, studied the evolution of Chinese characters in China at his own expense, so he often fell into poverty, but he was like a teenager at heart. He was affectionately called Uncle Chinese Characters by netizens. "If I have only 24 hours left in my life, I will call my friends to say goodbye; If my life is only 1 365 days a year, there is no doubt that I will computerize Shuo Wen Jie Zi. " 1994, when Han Zishu was 44 years old, a serious heart attack brought him to the brink of life, which made him have a clear judgment on what he had to do in his life. Richard sears recited Liu Yuxi's Humble Room Inscription.

Guo Xiaoping is the headmaster and father. Linfen Red Ribbon School is the only school for AIDS children in China. Guo Xiaoping is currently the principal of Red Ribbon School, where children infected with AIDS can receive the same education as normal children. All the children here call him dad. Guo Xiaoping recited Rudyard Kipling's If.

What is the reader's feeling after reading after choosing the theme view in the third issue? The third issue of Reader introduced Xu's thoughts on reading. The theme of the third issue of Reader is "Choice". Everyone faces all kinds of choices in life. The talented woman Xu read Shi Tiesheng's "Grandma's Stars" for her grandmother. Then let's take a look at Xu's post-reading feeling in the third issue of this issue. Please download and have a look if you want to know.

Delicate emotions infected Dong Qing under the stage, leaving moving tears. Does Xu Jinglei's reading also remind you of it?

After the program, Xu and Dong Qing talked generously about their love views. She said: "The current love life is very happy, which can be said to be 100, and it will not become 120 because of marriage." Talking about the relationship between boyfriend and dad, she said they were embarrassed to meet. Boyfriends can only move things, so it is better to meet less.

Does such Xu Jinglei remind you of Wen Hui in "Carry Love to the End"? She was Zheng Yang's first girlfriend in college, which was also her first love. Because of this, it left her the best memories, so that when she returned to China before getting married, she had to stay with Zheng Yang to find the feeling of the innocent girl's first love.

The 43-year-old Xu still retains this feeling of literary innocence. Her understanding of love and marriage is actually very clear and really hard to come by.

For this interpretation of Lao Xu, netizens think so:

Cheng: I still remember a place where we know that at the end of the movie, the words were written on the big screen: I want to dedicate this movie to my grandmother, who taught me how to love.

Walking in the space of time: particularly moved. Xu, one of the few talented women in the entertainment circle, is delicate and sensitive, natural and fresh, and touching. If you only love and don't get married, you will be happy.

Stable C happiness: infatuation with Xu in college. Youth is pure and lovely. Literary atmosphere.

I lost my shoes: Lao Xu read this passage as if listening to her own story, and Shi Tiesheng and I were completely separated.

Alice who wants to travel around the world: I haven't seen Lao Xu on TV for a long time ~ This scene made me cry and have a runny nose.

In the third issue, readers choose the theme view, three "readers", and the third issue of Mai Jia's reading-a letter to his son, is absolutely tearful. Mai Jia hopes to speak for the public and turn his special feelings into universal feelings. He put forward an important proposition. The boy's rebellion is a phenomenon of life. The key is how to face it.

How to solve the boy's rebellion is almost a worldwide problem. Where is dad going? In many cartoons, dad has no face, or is just a cloud. The child has a vague impression of his father. When the child was growing up, the father was away. But in the child's bad impression, dad is hard.

The growth of children is bound to be accompanied by the war between children and their fathers, whether boys or girls. In Cinderella in the West, Cinderella was told that when her father went out, a branch would knock off his hat. She must break the branch, put it in the soil and grow into a tree. One day a bird will fly in this tree.

What does this passage mean?

Father's hat is majestic and inviolable, representing his authoritative image. The man who touched his father's hat on a branch on the ground is symbolic. Cinderella cultivated this branch that once knocked down her father's authority into a small tree and attracted a bird. It means that a person can only be as free as a bird if he overcomes his father's authority.

In our education, it is often the mother's education that runs rampant and the father's education is lacking. The story of Sima Guang smashing a jar tells us a little hero who is calm and brave enough to save people. However, there are hidden worries behind this grand narrative. If Sima Guang is not a rescuer but a drowning man, there is no other "Sima Guang" to save him. What should Sima Guang do?

We have always emphasized "others' education" and paid little attention to children's "self-help education". However, more often, we have to learn to save ourselves before we can save others. Otherwise, if you can't save yourself, who can you save?

How to save ourselves and be a strong person who can save others often needs our father. But my father was absent as usual. Our education often starts from virtue, pays attention to the promotion of public morality, pays attention to social benefits, and never cares about specific people. For example, be brave, sacrifice yourself to save others, sacrifice yourself for the public, and so on. It is very important to "save education by others", and "self-help education" is also essential.

"The thread in the hands of a loving mother makes clothes for wayward children", and the education of mother's love has a long history and is magnificent. Correspondingly, our mother's education has also flourished; But many times, we ignore the father's love and the related father's education.

From strict father's loving mother in traditional education to now, children's education is basically about children's tm, and fathers only care about making money. Only when the child makes a mistake, the mother gives the child to the father to "enforce the family law", otherwise the family education has nothing to do with the father.

The embarrassment of the father playing this role also makes the father and children lose their natural closeness, and avoiding the father has become a trend. Jia Baoyu is a typical example. When mothers educate their children, they often say, if you don't listen, I'll tell your father. This kind of education, in fact, the father is not present, basically reduced to a symbol. It can be said that the lack of paternalism has become a hidden danger of education in China.

Not long ago, Mr. Sun Yunxiao's Comparative Study of Senior High School Students in China, the United States, Japan and South Korea showed that China's father ranked the lowest among the top confidants of senior high school students.

We are not surprised at this result, but find it interesting. Our father doesn't educate children very much, but he has the highest requirements for children. This is a typical idea of "small input, big output" for quick success and instant benefit. Maybe they think so. "I am responsible for making good money, and you are responsible for reading good books." The two are like a contract and an exchange, otherwise the child will fail Lao Tzu, be heartless and unfilial.

Might as well make a comparison with Japan. Japanese education encourages children to be ordinary people, while ours is to make children be extraordinary people. China's tradition has always been extraordinary, which is of course positive, but after all, it is very small and the number is not enough. This is the contradiction.

Adler, a famous child educator, believes that the healthy growth of children can not be separated from the love of mothers and fathers. No matter which aspect is missing, the growth of children is incomplete and incomplete.

The role of maternal love is to give children a sense of security in life, while the task of father is to educate and guide children how to deal with people and how to face all kinds of difficulties that may be encountered in the future. The love of a good mother should not be an obstacle to the growth of children, nor should it encourage their dependence. Mothers should believe in life, don't be afraid, and pass this emotion on to their children. She should want her children to be independent and encourage them to leave themselves eventually.

Fatherly love should adhere to certain principles and make demands on children. It should be tolerant and patient, not arbitrary and rude. Fatherly love should help children know their own strength and ability, build up self-confidence, and finally let them become their own masters, so that they can get rid of their father's influence and grow up independently and healthily.

When a child is a baby, the mother's love is the main factor, which makes him feel peaceful, warm, safe and warm, and establishes a preliminary understanding and connection with the world. In primary school, parents' love and responsibility are 50-50, sensibility and rationality match, and discipline and education coexist. By the middle and high school stage, the influence of maternal love is gradually declining, and the father should bear the main educational responsibility. However, it is precisely because of the influence of traditional ideas and the squeeze of exam-oriented education that father education is seriously lacking, and because of the serious lack of male teachers, the positive side of children's life education is greatly lacking. This is extremely unfavorable to children's healthy personality and sound personality development.

Harmonious education should be that children grow up in the blend of maternal love and paternal love, and rebuild their own value base through the restoration of parents' authoritative personality and rebellion or breaking in adolescence, so as to grow up healthily and sunny.

And we should be happy to see our children betray us, which is also necessary for their growth. Mai Jia hasn't called his father for more than ten years, and his children have struggled with themselves for eighteen years. In order to escape the original fate, Mai Jia softened her stance and spent 18 years preparing to write a letter to her son. "If one day, your parents become cautious, it is not because of fear, but only because of love."

"Children sing like a river and break through all the dams. However, my parents stayed there like a mountain peak, unforgettable and affectionate. "

This is Tagore's poem: Although it hurts a little, we are still happy. Because the child is gone, the future is Wan Li.

In the third issue, I chose the readers' theme view, and the reading pavilion was my favorite setting. At the beginning, our idea was to let ordinary people slowly begin to accept such a means of conveying their feelings. In fact, reading aloud should really be like singing and talking. Sometimes we can borrow words to express our feelings. "Just like the original intention of Dong Qing, the producer of the recently popular program" The Scholar ",the library is to open the distance between online and offline with the mission of the program" The Scholar ",approach every reader, and turn a 60-minute living room culture into the most popular national cultural activity in 20 17. Its launch aims to make people from all walks of life stop in a hurry, go into the "reading pavilion" to read famous books, present their feelings they want to express most in a simple way, read their dreams with their inner voices and feel the power of words.

As the first city to arrive after the program "The Scholar" was broadcast, the library quickly became an explosion in Hangzhou, which aroused the enthusiasm of Hangzhou people for reading and attracted media reports. Articles about reading kiosks published on the WeChat platform of Zhejiang University also instantly broke through the reading volume of 100000+, which shows that reading kiosks are highly sought after.

On the banks of the Beijing-Hangzhou Canal, it is the first stop of Hangzhou Reading Pavilion. An old man waved in front of the pavilion and wrote down the three characters "reading the pavilion", which caused passers-by to watch. Then, Yuewenge came to Hangzhou Library, the second stop. Women dressed in costumes and international students from all walks of life stopped at the reading booth. Among them, 75-year-old grandmother Wang Peiying read a love letter written by her wife in her hospital bed. When she walked out of the pavilion, she burst into tears and everyone present was moved by it.

The day before yesterday, the reading pavilion moved to Zhejiang University Station. This is the fifth day of reading pavilion in Hangzhou, but the harsh weather conditions of cold wind and rain did not affect the heat of reading pavilion at all. There is an endless stream of people queuing in front of the reading booth with umbrellas. From 10 a.m. to 4 p.m., the reading kiosk listened to the stories of more than 80 readers. Among them, students from Zhejiang University, primary and secondary school students who came here specially, and people of different occupations and ages gathered around this small reading booth, eager to read their inner feelings. The recording was scheduled at 10 pm, and the last speaker was not recorded until near zero.

By the end of the day, the reading library has collected more than 170 readers' reading fragments. Even the director and cameraman of the program group were frightened by the enthusiasm and perseverance of Hangzhou people, saying, "Today, I saw many professors and scholars reading books in the pavilion, which is the first time I have encountered this situation. Many people lined up for hours in the cold wind, but they still had a smile on their faces, which is hard to imagine in other cities. Unexpectedly, Hangzhou people have such perseverance and endurance, in order to read this story.

This weekend, the reading pavilion will be moved to Zhejiang Library. I believe more people will walk into the reading booth and read their own stories.

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