The trickle must cross the threshold of the castle peak before it can rush to the sea and surge; Blue butterflies must cross the cocoon-breaking barrier to turn insects into butterflies; Successful children must cross the threshold of inferiority in order to be confident and achieve something.

A couple in my neighborhood have a child named Bailey. This Bailey has a clever brain since he was a child, but he has a defect, which is stuttering. Bailey's father is a cultural person, so his father has been very strict in his education since he was a child. As long as Bailey makes some small mistakes, such as accidentally breaking things at home or not studying hard at school, his father will scold him. As long as Bailey's mistakes are big, such as fighting with other children outside, going out to play for a long time and not coming home, etc. That would be a disaster. His father, whether he likes it or not, gave him a beating. So when he was a child, Bailey was often beaten and scolded by his father, which made him timid, afraid of making mistakes and his father. Besides, Bailey stutters and speaks in front of others. Because she is not clear, she is often laughed at by others. So Bailey had an inferiority complex since he was a child.

When Bailey was thirteen, he went to junior high school. Because of stuttering, I never dare to answer questions or communicate with my classmates in class. In class, he only does his own thing. After class, he doesn't like to play with his classmates because he stutters and is afraid that his classmates will laugh at him. He is either busy with his own affairs in the dormitory or reading and studying in the classroom. On the contrary, my grades are constantly improving, and my academic performance has always been among the best, plus my father's IQ.

When Bailey was sixteen, he went to a key high school. Instead of becoming confident, he felt even more inferior. This may be because he stutters, or because he thinks his classmates here are better than him, or because he has been beaten and scolded by his father since he was a child. In high school, as before, he didn't like answering questions voluntarily, communicating with his classmates, playing with his classmates, and even afraid to ask the teacher questions in class. But this does not affect his academic performance, but makes his academic performance better and better. I think it is because of his personality that he can settle down to study. He is single-minded in his studies, and with a good IQ, his grades have always been good. So that year, he was admitted to a good university.

When Bailey was nineteen, he went to college. However, the study and life in the university made him a little difficult to adapt. He is timid, afraid of socializing and being laughed at by others. However, some courses in universities need all kinds of communication to get grades, and they need to participate in all kinds of club activities to get credits. In order to complete his tasks and homework, he also tried to communicate with his classmates and participate in individual club activities in the school. But he is just trying to cope with the task and has not become more confident. He still likes to do his own thing like high school and go to the library to read books by himself. After four years in college, through hard work and good IQ, my academic performance is still very good.

At the age of twenty-three, Bailey also successfully graduated from college. But his trouble is coming. Because he stuttered and was afraid of being laughed at, he dared not go to the interview, even at the corporate reception held by the school, he dared not submit his resume for the interview. So after graduation, he went home disheartened.

Since Bailey went to college, his parents have been very happy. They feel that their son will achieve something in the future. Unexpectedly, their son came back without a job after graduation. This made Bailey's father very angry and upset! However, this time his father didn't beat and scold him like he did when he was a child, but just said a few words about Bailey. He thought his son was too good to go to the interview because he stuttered, so he couldn't find a job. He didn't know that Bailey's inferiority complex was caused by him. Neighbors know that Bailey can't find a job after graduating from college, and some people talk and ridicule: "What's the use of going to college? I can't even find a job after graduation. " When Bailey heard these words, he was even more afraid to go out and often stayed at home. Bailey's mother loves him very much and knows him very well. When she was a child, Bailey was often beaten and scolded by his father, and her mother advised his father not to fight. After Bailey was beaten, her mother would comfort him, and she seldom scolded her son. After graduating from college, Bailey couldn't find a job. The real reason is only known to her. As the saying goes, "Knowing a child is like a mother." Children come out of their mothers' bellies, and no one in this world knows their sons better than their mothers.

No, Bailey's mother can't bear to watch her son go on like this. She told Bailey's father the real reason. His father suddenly realized that he had done something wrong to his son from the bottom of his heart. In order to help his son get rid of his inferiority complex, he stopped scolding and talking about his son, but encouraged and praised him. In order to make children not afraid of socializing, the couple often take their sons to other people's banquets and visit relatives' homes. In order to make their son confident, the couple often boast that his son is a college student in front of relatives and friends. In order to make children dare to speak in front of others, they often chat with children in public places and let them speak boldly in public places.

Of course, "Rome wasn't built in a day", and it will take time. His parents know that the most important thing now is to find a job for their son. They think that their son is a college student and there is no problem in finding a job. The main reason now is that my son is not confident enough to communicate with others, so it may not work for Bailey to go out for a job interview by himself. So his father found a job in the county town with little communication through connections. Although the salary is not very high, at least Bailey found a job. The rest can be done slowly, Bailey's parents think so.

I thought that a college student could make a difference, but because of his inferiority complex, he couldn't even find a job after graduation. You can imagine what a failure this is.

Of course, children's sense of inferiority often begins at an early age, just like Bailey, who was flawed from an early age, has an inferiority complex in his heart. His father doesn't know how to encourage him. Making mistakes only makes him beat and scold, which makes him timid, afraid to make mistakes and more inferior.

Therefore, if children want to achieve something in the future, they must cross the threshold of inferiority. How to cross the threshold of inferiority? He should be encouraged and praised, not beaten and scolded.