Don't say "I like your skirt"!

Patricia Lenkov, the recruitment director of an executive headhunting company in new york, explained, "It is presumptuous to compliment each other's appearance. You went there for a purpose. Most interviewers want to keep a line. If you don't keep such a distance, they may feel uncomfortable.

Lenkov added that if you are a man, praising a female interviewer may be regarded as sexist or derogatory, even if your purpose is simple. Praise between the same sex is even considered insincere, because it may be seen as you just want to get some benefits.

"It is also very dangerous for you to say something irrelevant, such as I like your boots," Lenkov warned everyone. If the interviewer hates these boots very much and only wears them because the other pair has holes, it will have negative effects.

If you are really a person who likes to praise others, Lenkov suggests that you investigate the interviewer's career achievements before the interview and tell her during the interview.

Instead, you can say, "I like reading the results of your group's paper last month."

Step 2 stop crying

Don't say, "This is the most difficult thing that has ever happened to me. Now that I think about it, he is about to collapse." .

Lenkov said that crying may be regarded as emotional instability by the interviewer. Employers want to recruit people who can cope with high-pressure jobs, but crying is considered as a sign that they can't cope with the pressure placed in front of others.

For your future employer, it is almost as important to show your ability to control your emotions as to show your ability to work, Lenkov added.

"I understand that everyone will cry. We are all emotional people, but you must keep calm during the interview. For most jobs, at some point you have to face the supervisor or the client, and the interviewer needs to know how you deal with your own problems outside the interview. " Lenkov said.

Renkov suggested that if possible, everyone should try to avoid telling some emotional stories. If this emotional story is closely related to the interview process, you can try to say it several times to avoid getting bored halfway.

"If a story is told 50 times and gets stuck in the middle every time, then the time of 5 1 may be smooth," Lenkov said. Practice until you feel nothing, even if it makes you sad or angry.

Instead, you can say, "It's really hard, but we're all here." .

Don't discuss your illness unless it is related to work.

Don't say, "My back is killing me. Asthma makes me very upset at this time of year." .

"If there is a vacancy in your resume, it may be because you are in the hospital or seriously ill, which will be related to your work," Lenkov said. But if you just emphasize your own pain, it doesn't matter.

Of course, many diseases are inevitable, Renkov admits. If you walk with crutches, explain, but try to keep a low profile.

"Don't say,' God, I have gangrene, and my leg was almost amputated'. Try to stay relaxed and happy. "

Avoid any hints that attract the interviewer to sympathize with you,' Mr. Lenkov said. If you keep emphasizing the details of the flu you just ended, the interviewer will feel forced to ask for some pity and comfort, which will weaken the professional boundary.

Instead, he said, "The time when the resume was vacant was restored after the operation, and now it is no longer a problem."