During the Spring Festival, my best friend and I met in a bar on the corner.
Kun solemnly told me that she resigned and was going to Shenzhen. I felt very confused at that time. "Well done, what's the matter? Why did you quit? It is not easy to have a stable job. Isn't this the life you want? "
After graduating from college, Kun obeyed his parents' wishes and became a teacher in a county near his home. Day after day, campus life gradually smoothed out Akun's dreams and passions. I don't know how many nights she tossed and turned, but I know that now, like a free bird trapped in a cage, she can finally spread her wings and fly high, like a butterfly emerging from its cocoon, shining.
I can't help asking Kun, "If you go to Shenzhen, why not here?" In my impression, Shenzhen is a bustling metropolis. Some factors, such as high prices, fast pace of life and great pressure on survival, are all unknown obstacles on the way forward.
However, when he woke up, it seemed that he had found himself in college. I will always remember her words that convinced me: looking back on the first half of my life, life was calm, obviously it was a stagnant pool, but I should comfort myself that it was calm; Unconsciously, I wasted my years in mediocrity and comforted myself that it was ordinary and valuable.
In the chat with Kun, I suddenly mentioned the name "Hadron".
We were very good friends in college. At that time, I was particularly envious of Hadron's mentality and was not surprised by honor or disgrace.
When I was in Grade Four or Six, my roommates were busy reviewing, and he was the only one lying in bed watching the drama. Of course, I didn't pass Grade 4, but Hadron was particularly open-minded. "The big deal is to take the exam next time!" But until the third year of high school, he didn't pass Grade 4.
I used to "encourage" Hadron to take one more exam, but he refused on the grounds that "multiple certificates are useless". After many times, I will not discuss the pursuit of goals with him.
During the whole university period, he didn't participate in mass organizations, and he didn't expect to be among the best. He just wanted to get a diploma and get a job, so he was comfortable all his life.
Hadron has always said that he is an ordinary person, and he doesn't want to be rich or expensive, just want to be safe.
Later, after graduation, his resume for his favorite company sank into the sea, and he soon became disheartened and returned to his hometown.
I also learned about the recent situation of hadron from a few words. Better than being in a small county, living a nine-to-five life, full of acquaintances and carefree self. I eat, dress and live in my parents' house on my salary. Less than a year's work, I was introduced to get married. At first glance, Hadron's life is all right. He doesn't have to rush to work by bus or subway, and he doesn't have to face a pile of papers, not to mention the endless rush to get married. ...
However, we ignore the calm on the surface and can't cover up the inner turmoil.
Before Kun went to Shenzhen, the three of us made an appointment to get together.
After walking some distance, I saw a woman coming to us with her child in her arms, wearing loose clothes and her hair was messy. She waved when she saw us. This woman is Hadron's wife. She pulled out a chair and sat next to me. The child in her arms began to cry. Hadron leaned in and gently coaxed him. ...
"How have you been recently?" It was not until the child was quiet that I broke the embarrassment I had not seen for a long time.
"Don't mention it! I am bored to death. " It turns out that Hadron's life is not as stable as we thought.
After becoming a full-time father, Hadron must take care of the children and cook for his wife. He needs to do a lot of housework. He complained about the triviality of life and scolded his wife.
We are like "boiled frogs in warm water". If we stay in the ordinary world for a long time, we will be unable to struggle. Just like in the movie "Sunshine Sisters Amoy", the girl who was regarded as a treasure by her family since childhood was rubbed by her husband's family when she grew up; The girl who aspired to be Miss Korea and was loved by thousands of people later separated from her mother and daughter. Their fate is finally touching. Why did all their rhetoric fall silent? We can't rule out fate, but we can't deny our will.
In addition to material needs, there is nothing else, taking real life as the upper limit of activities and imitating people around us as the standard. Fall into mediocrity and indulge in muddling along.
If this is the ordinary in Juanzi's eyes, I will try my best to create a dream for myself.
Refuse to be hammered by life, refuse to be paralyzed.
Speaking of myself, I may have some knowledge, but I have no knowledge; Maybe some talents, but no talents; There may be a diploma, but there is no level.
After several ups and downs, I suddenly realized that if I didn't try and fail, I wouldn't grow. If you do it, you may face doubts and failures, but if you don't do it, you will never know the beauty of another world.
We are all ordinary people.
Ordinary is not terrible, terrible is a lifetime of mediocrity, but also comfort yourself with ordinary and valuable.