As the saying goes, men are afraid of entering the wrong line, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong person. A woman must be careful when choosing a partner. She can be late, but she can't make do with it.

Many women will think that marriage is to live together, that's all. Then just pick a man (alive), there is no need to be picky.

But marriage is too important for women. A little carelessness, the pain will not be temporary, but years or even decades.

Marriage is different from love. Although the role it plays is nothing more than changing from a girlfriend to a wife, its responsibilities are very different.

In love, if you accidentally meet a "bad" man, you can choose to leave with peace of mind, which will not attract the strange eyes of onlookers.

But marriage is different. If you wait until you get married to find out that the other person is a "bad" man, in most cases, women will choose to wronged themselves. Even if they get up the courage to choose divorce, they will still be labeled as "divorced women".

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After graduating from junior college, Chen Qian found a job around the school with her roommate and worked as a salesman in a clothing store. Although the salary is not high, it is enough for her daily life.

After working for less than a year, Chen Qian's roommate didn't meet the salary standard here, so she resigned and went to work elsewhere. She thought she would become a "loner" in this city, but she never expected to meet the other half of her life.

Just after Chen Qian's roommate left, the store manager recruited a young man who was one or two years older than Chen Qian. He is particularly eloquent and takes care of others.

When we first met, Chen Qian didn't say a word to him (mainly because she was shy and couldn't let go of her face). Later, she had business problems and had to ask him for help.

Afterwards, in order to express his gratitude, Chen Qian invited him to eat a meal, and the frequency of communication between them gradually increased. In the long run, the two people collided with the spark of love.

The appearance of men has warmed up the lonely rental house again, and the sweetness in love is everywhere.

In the rented house, the boy swore to Chen Qian: I will be responsible for making money to support my family in the future, and your beauty is enough. Looking at the man who raised his hand to himself in front of him, Chen Qian seemed to see a happy life in the future.

After living together, some intimate things will inevitably happen in life, and I don't know which security measures were not done well. Chen Qian is pregnant.

Chen Qian didn't dare to tell her family about her pregnancy before marriage, for fear that her family would talk about herself, and even more afraid that her neighbors would gossip when they found out. Chen Qian's boyfriend didn't mention getting married, but asked her to quit her job and stay in the rented room.

Due to the serious morning sickness in the early stage, Chen Qian was haggard within three months. Before long, her pregnancy was discovered by cautious parents.

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My parents were very distressed when they found out. After returning home, they bought this and that for Chen Qian to make up for their health. Watching my daughter's stomach get bigger every day, dragging is not a problem.

Not long after, Chen Qian's father called the boy and asked him to come and propose to him, so as to get the marriage done quickly.

In fact, it is impossible for Chen Qian's father to agree to this marriage if his daughter is not pregnant. After all, how can he rest assured that such a precious daughter is married so far away from home?

Chen Qian's boyfriend arrived as promised and brought his parents. At first, the two families talked smoothly and tried to reach an agreement on some things.

However, the discussion between the two sides ended early because of the bride price issue.

Chen Qian's parents' opinion is that the man pays a hundred thousand bride price (this hundred thousand bride price is reserved for his daughter, after all, he is far from getting married, fearing that his daughter will be wronged there), and he can have no house or car or anything, so he can get the marriage done as soon as possible.

As soon as the man's parents heard that they wanted a 10 million bride price, they immediately became anxious. They said it wasn't to marry a daughter. It simply sits on the ground and starts pricing. There is also an eldest son who has not married a wife. Parents should also consider reality.

Later, the man's parents directly told the truth:

"In-laws, I won't hide anything. I can only give you a bride price of 40 thousand yuan at most. Your daughter is pregnant. That's the best we can do. If you still can't talk about it, then I think this marriage will be fine. "

The man's parents' words made Chen Qian's parents particularly annoyed and let them go on the spot. Sitting next to the sofa, Chen Qian looked at her boyfriend who had been silent since taking the door, completely chilling.

"I don't want this child in my belly. I will go to the hospital tomorrow. I was wrong about this man. In a family like you, whoever marries is unlucky! "

Say that finish this sentence, Chen Qian directly with the hand pushed her boyfriend, let him leave her home quickly.

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Premarital pregnancy is really a mixed blessing for women.

On the bright side, does the man you choose really love you, is he responsible, and can he give you a sense of security after marriage?

The downside is that if you meet someone who is not good, such as Chen Qian's boyfriend, such parents will hurt themselves more and treat others with special respect.

If, in the whole process, Chen Qian's boyfriend can stand with his girlfriend Chen Qian and show a tough attitude instead of being led by his parents, it can't be ruined.

After all, marriage is a matter of two people, and most women in relationships value the responsibility and responsibility of the man, not how much property the man has.

However, I want to say one more thing here, that is, as the parents of the man, sometimes we should not always take care of the immediate interests and bargain with the woman's family, especially those who are married far away.

You know, they are willing to give you their daughter. Besides believing that you will take care of her like them, they also hope that their daughter can find her own happiness and live a better life.

For most families who marry their daughters, the bride price is just the last thing they do for their daughters. I hope she can meet a good husband's family instead of treating marriage as a commodity and expecting her to improve her life.