Studying and living in a classroom every day, it is normal for students to have some small frictions and misunderstandings. Even if there are conflicts sometimes, they can understand each other in most cases. So if you feel that you are always targeted by your classmates, you should first reflect on your own problems.
Maybe some people will immediately "answer blows with blows" when they hear something against them. In short, they just can't bear hardships. But when we can't change other people's views, "taking a step back and broadening the horizon" may be more conducive to resolving the contradictions between classmates.
We can reflect on whether we have said something wrong recently, offended a classmate, done something wrong, and hurt whose interests. If there are these problems, it may be the reason why students are eyeing them.
2. Don't belittle yourself.
In the process of self-reflection, remember not to belittle yourself blindly. Because students may say something derogatory when targeting you, which will make us feel uncomfortable and painful.
If it is our fault, we can bravely admit that this is a manifestation of "resilience". But we can't deny ourselves and belittle ourselves blindly, because it will hurt our self-esteem and make us feel inferior.
So when we are targeted, it is ok to reflect on our mistakes and admit them, and we can also accept others' accusations, but don't sell yourself short. It is also an excellent quality to be able to correct mistakes.
3. Learn to express yourself
The reason why we are always targeted by our classmates may be because we don't express our opinions correctly and reasonably. For example, sometimes we may like to gag or interrupt others in class, thinking it is cool, but it will arouse the disgust of other students.
Learn to express your views correctly in school, so as to respect other students and teachers and respect yourself. In class, in addition to answering the teacher's questions and interacting with the teacher, don't say meaningless words. Don't interrupt other students when communicating with them. If you want to express your opinion, you should wait for the other person to finish.
4. Communication should seek common ground while reserving differences.
When we communicate with our classmates, we should seek common ground while reserving differences, which means seeking agreement in the process of communication, but we should also allow different opinions to exist. Even twins, brothers and sisters, sometimes it is difficult to reach an agreement, so it is normal to have different voices when communicating with classmates.
If we always criticize those students who disagree with us or force other students to agree with us, we will be easily targeted by everyone. Other students will think, "Why do I have to listen to you?" You think, "Why doesn't everyone listen to me?"